can a sista get a real man?

[shirley f. foster]

i am a single female minister; praying and seeking god for a man of god in ministry. I was just wondering are there single ministry groups on here.and no ; thats not the only reason i am here. but my focus is to make myself visible to the right people so that i may find my true soulmate that we might together be about our fathers business of tearing down satan"s kingdom. too often saints feel ashamed or feel that other christians will say that we are in the flesh. well; i beg to differ; because gods word says that it is not good that man should be alone.

[HOPE - Psalm 43:5]

Question: I was told that I could not FULLY minister or even be an effective minister until I got married. So, I did what you are doing here, made myself visible and showed myself as "available or ready for marriage" to men of God with the focus that we could "do ministry together". Three unhealthy marriages to 3 ministers later... I realized... marriage is not a prerquisite for being able to "be about my father's business".

I'm not against marriage even though I've been thru some crazy stuff.

But I do caution women (and men) to set their affections on things above and not target marriage as being

*the source for ministry (you can be just as useful to the kingdom single as you are married --

I Cor 7:32 - 34
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:

33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.

34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.


Not look at marriage as the cure-all for loneliness (you can be lonely and married) - many get married and realized they are two BELIEVERS who are unequally yoked in everything else except for their profession of faith.


Question for women in ministry (whatever your ministry may be)

What would you do as a minister if you married another minister who at first said he admired, supported and thought it was great that you had a ministry but when you got married, he then asked you to STOP ministering and take care of things at home and support his ministry efforts?

Be sure you don't just jump into marriage but you take time to get to know the person APART from who they are as a minister and what they do in ministry; but without ignoring what they do in ministry. Is their ministry something you would want to be a part of? Could their be a "merging" of both of your ministries? If not, are you willing to give up yours or would you ask him to come join you?

Really pray about, investigate, talk about and consider what you are doing when you seek a mate to "be about the Father's business"... really REALLY take time to get to know your business partner....

[Chaplain Pat Harris]

AMEN!

I'm always available to God; but I'm not always available to man.

[Trevor T. Greene]

Being single has its advantage Ministry wise. You should consider that, for JESUS did speak of people being set apart as Eunuchs.

At the same time, be about your Father's business. If you are in Ministry, then in Ministry is where you will find your mate. Just be busy enough for him to have to interrupt your flow, not the other way around...........

[HOPE - Psalm 43:5]

It's funny you mention this Trev,

If you are in Ministry, then in Ministry is where you will find your mate. Just be busy enough for him to have to interrupt your flow, not the other way around...........

Oddly enough, I remember getting the comment that I was TOO busy. I worked a full time job (in ministry), went to school, and was a single mom.

I remember "menfolk" would say that there was no place for a man in my life. When I asked what that meant, they said there should be a "hole" or an empty place where they could come in and fill it.

Their comments or expectations just seemed odd to me. My response was, "why should I have an empty space in my life?" Why can't I be a WHOLE person instead of a person with a HOLE? Why can't I just create the space needed when the man comes along?"

For example, I plan things way in advance ... I put much of my life on a calendar because I use to have conflicting events. And becasue the things I need to do are on a calendar, I can shuffle things around as needed. What they wanted from me was to have a BUNCH of free time that they could just occupy. In other words, don't get turned off just because my weekends are booked for a couple of months. Just because something is on my calendar doesn't mean it can't be moved or removed.

So, again, your comment about the man "interrupting the flow" is so contrary to what I've experienced in the past. I'm trying to figure out why other men don't think like that.

[HOPE - Psalm 43:5]

I guess another thing to look at is that they didn't have a whole lot going on in their lives so their lives was full of free time....

[Minister Marilyn Bloodworth]

Greetings to you my sister.
I thought this might encourage you. when I was wanting a spouse, I prayed and just starting doing what God called me to do. In the process of doing that. I met my husband in another state. Just concentrate on Gods agenda, he will take care of you. Because I put my trust in God and waited on him 2010 we will be celebrating 29 years of marriage.Continue to stay true to God, he listens so much better than others.He will stay true to you. God bless you my sister, I hope this helps,. (smile)