how d u hold on living single as a christian

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You hold on with prayer, the most valuable tool is prayer. Lord I don't need that kind of feeling right now, Lord can you take that feeling away for right now. Lord I am lonely can you help me out, get me through this moment of feeling alone although I am not alone for you are forever with me. Lord I want a mate get me ready for the next steps in my life. I trust you Lord.
Living single as a christian I believe for me anyway is a great test of faith, I believe temptation out in the world is even more greatly abound when one live single, so everyday I remind myself of the greatest love God has shown me and how he released me from the darkest days of which I intend never to return. I have several daily verses that I read as my devotional and this one I have stuck on my computer at work and always near me at home as a daily reminder to stay focus and avoid temptations.

'There hath temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that he are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape that ye may be able to bear it.'

When I look at this verse it tells me that even as a christian I will face temptation no different from a nonchristian but as a christian God has provided me the tools to deal with. So by staying focus on my God, seeking wisdom through the word and praying then I can overcome everything and live in christ as a single christian.
James 1:2-4 is a scripture that is very valuable here, and yet very much ignored. PATIENCE! If you understand that you can have a spouse-keys word here is CAN, meaning marriage is optional, not essential- then patience is vital. Patience says "GOD, I trust you in this. In the mean time, I'll work on the stuff you set before me already."
Thought we were writing a sermon???
That was a sermon! You can fill in the blanks and make it as long as you want. I simple gave the meat!
Sister Brenda, you asked the question, "How do you hold on living single as a Christian?"
First I would like to share the simple fact that I am and have been doing just that for a very long time. It can be done. Here is my PERSONAL testimony.
I had to TRULY grab a hold of and understand that the word of God says,
"Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them members of an harlot? God forbid."
"What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two saith he, shall be one flesh."
"But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication SINNETH AGAINST HIS OWN BODY.
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and YE are NOT your OWN?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in you spirit, which are God's." (I Corinthians 6:15-20, King James Version)
These verses taught me how to love myself more which in return taught me HOW to LOVE God more. It was and is the desire of my heart to please, and honor God. Therefore, I honor my body as I honor the house of prayer because I understand that my BODY is the TEMPLE in which God's Holy Spirit dwells.

I Corinthians 7:34
"There is a difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the THINGS of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may PLEASE her HUSBAND."
This verse helps me, because I understood and still do understand that once I give myself to a man, I become more concerned about what pleases HIM instead of what pleases God. When we as women lay with a man, we submit ourselves unto him. It is not just our bodies that we relinquish; we surrender our very spirits unto him. Because we are the weaker vessel, we gain a soul tie to that man. This is why it is so hard for a woman who is being abused to just get up and leave that situation. She is joined to that man in her spirit.
When God called me back unto Him in 2002, I was engaged in a relationship. One day the man told me that he could not see me without being with me because he had ALREADY known me in that manner. I had to come to a place whereas I was strong enough in my spirit to tell him, "I love you, but I love God more." Once I did, I did not have to concern myself with that particular struggle anymore. He helped me out by ending the relationship. All of the talk about, "If we were married," came to a sudden end. I chose to love God enough that I took time to get to know us both better. My relationship with God is treasured above any other relationship that I could ever have. God has cut so many people out of my life until it FELT as if I were all alone at one point. I know that I wasn't, because it enabled me to learn how to know His voice. It wasn't until Moses was all alone on the backside of Mt. Sinai that he was able to hear God talking to him. Understand that God wil comfort you, keep you, and give you a NEW song in your heart DAILY if you trust, and seek Him. He is taking me from a lamb in Christ to a sheep. I can see me maturing in Him, although, I yet see myself as a babe.
God has to replace ALL of those people in our lives who don't mean us any good anyway. However, we must FIRST allow Him to get rid of ALL of those people, even from our very spirits. We cannot value what we cannot see, and past experiences sometimes will corrupt the way that we see the present.

I pray that something I have shared will be of some help to you, Sister Brenda.
MLIJC (Much Love In Jesus Christ),
God's Anointed
Missionary Ann Banks
Its not hard, and if you are truly devoted to god you should not even miss anything. As a spiritual leader of people(if not now then in the near future) I have decided to take a vow of chastity, and abstain from romantic relationships of all kinds in my life. We all have urges but you must rememmber that god has given us the all the tools we need to control them

God bless.
Amen Sister Miller. Living a celibate life can be done, even after an 18 year marriage that ended in divorce.
While this is not easy, we can do ALL things through Christ that strengthens us! I have a fiancé now, but we have agreed to abstain. I have asked God to move the desire to allow me to function in my ministry without that temptation, and He has. God truly knows what we can and cannot handle...this is an area I can't handle, so I gave it to GOD and don't think about it anymore.

I find in talking with other single Christians, that, for a lot of people, abstaining from the actual act is not the hard part. The hard part is not going close to the line. Some do everything but the actual act, and still say they are abstaining?!? To be truly abstinent means no substitute relief (i.e. erotic behavior or self pleasure). This is where the test really gets hard.

I also have people who believe they can listen, watch, or talk about sexual things because that's not a sin. However, sinful thoughts are still a sin, and self inflicted temptation is something that every Christian should avoid. There is a reason the Bible teaches us to take captive every thought. It is a fact that if we play with fire we will get burned! If we have to ask how "far" we can go without it being a sin, then we are too close to the line.

Get away from that man or woman and get closer to the Bible and the Lord! Pray for me as I pray for all the single Christians trying to walk in a fashion that is pleasing to God.
First, I believe we need to be honest with ourselves. We have feelings and emotions, we are tried and tempted. But guess what? Christ was tempted as were are...he felt every feeling, every nuance, every urge. He felt and was touched by the temptation...He just didn't succumb to the temptation-He didn't sin (see Hebrews 4:15) He yielded Himself to the Father. He purposed Himself to yield to the will of God. I have struggled with this, as a single woman, as an unfulfilled married woman, and now as a divorced woman. If our desire is to Jesus Christ, if we only want the will of the Father done in our lives, if , even when we fall, we repent and purpose to do according to Romans 12:1-2 to present our bodies a living sacrifice, wholly and acceptable to God, which is our reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world (none of this "excuse me a minute, Lord") but being transformed by the renewing of your mind (YOU have to renew YOUR mind! The power of God is there...USE IT!), that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. The Lord promised to give us the desires of our hearts...make this one of them.
Let me also say, as a woman, my job is not to find a husband, my job is to prepare for the husband God has for me. I prepare for him by being the best wife to Christ I can ever be! After all, He is the best husband I could ever hope to have!

I can do all things THROUGH Christ who strengthens me - Phil 4:13
You know.. for some the major problem or temptation when single is sex. But for others.. their main issue is just being by themselves... alone. Some people just hate being alone. There is nothing super spiritual about it, they just want someone to hang out with... movies, dinner, concerts, etc. And sex is just not that big a temptation for them.

One of the things I've come to recognize is that being alone really isn't all that bad. The loneliness can be bothersome but being alone... well it is a season to actually cherish.

You see, once you get married its a whole other ball game. You can't just up and leave whenever you want and just up and go wherever you want. You are now in a relationship with someone who is in the same house with you. You must show them respect for thier position as your spouse.

We forget that this even applies when you are in ministry. Let's say, Brenda, that you are a minister and have your own ministry and are use to just accepting any and every request to speak or teach or minister to someone at any given moment. Could you do that when married? Or would you have to now coordinate schedules, take care of your spouses needs, etc.

I'm not downing marriage but I'm am saying EMBRACE your singleness while you are single. The Apostle Paul taught this as well. (I Cor 7:33-34) Your attention is divided... pleasing both God and your spouse (not necesarrily equally but you can't just run off and do ministry and totatlly forget about your spouse).

Another thing singles do is that marriage becomes an "idol" of sorts. They have such a strong desire for it that it becomes the thing that they meditate on day and night. They look at what they can get OUT of marriage vs what they can put INTO it. They look at the "legal sex", the "companionship" - waking up next to someone every morning, the status - they can now say "I'm married" or now have someone to introduce as husband or wife

Sis, fantasy is what people want but reality is what they need.

The grass isn't necessarily greener on the marriage side, it isn't worse either. It's just different.

Enjoy and Embrace your singleness.

The one thing that I somewhat disagree with is when women set their affections on preparing themselves for a husband. They become tunnel-visioned and forget to set their affections on things ABOVE... they forget to prepare themselves as the Bride of Christ! We get it twisted sometimes. If you prepare yourself with a spirit of excellence towards Christ you will be priceless to a man as his wife. But if your main focus is on getting married then once that man does come you are going to suck the life out of him... you may latch onto him like a leech and he will become a little "god" in your life on the altar of marriage.

Enjoy and Embrace your singleness
Set your affections on what you can do for the Lord in ministry and in just everyday life. Be excellent in just being a woman of God and for the men... be excellent in just being a man of God.

OMG and please PLEASE PLEASE be careful of those well-meaning persons who will prophesy a mate to you! Everybody "ain't got a word". I've known people to get a prophetic word and the next person who smiles at them they believe is their mate. So desperate to be married that they accept anyone who pays them some attention and finds themself in a hell of a marriage expecting God to co-sign on THIER plans to marry that person!

In due season dear... it could be that you may not be ready yet OR that the person whom you will marry isn't ready yet.

Enjoy and Embrace being single... it's WONDERFUL!!!
count it aLL joy when you are tempted for the trying of our faith worketh patience praise the lord when you are tempted james1v1 keep seeking godprayer and fasting it will get better god bless you and keep you


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