RELATIONSHIPS - COMMUNICATION Part 2
RELATIONSHIP SERIES – COMMUNICATION, Part 2
In Part I of Communication, we defined communication and the importance of communication. In this discussion we will discuss: communication between God and man; and communication between mates.
COMMUNICTION WITH GOD
We must first realize that the Lord God is a holy God and we must regard Him, esteem Him and respect Him as such. In Leviticus 19:2 we read, “Speak to all the congregation of the children of Israel, and say to them, “You shall be holy, for I the Lord your God am holy.” An in Malachi 3:14 we read, “For I am a great King.” Says the Lord of hosts. And My name is to be feared among the nations.
We can also communicate to God in verbal and nonverbal ways.
We are told from God’s word to worship Him – John 4:24; praise Him – Psalms 150; love Him – Deuteronomy 6:5, Matthew22:37; and obey Him – Deuteronomy 28:1-14, John 14:21-23.
Our thoughts communicate our heart or feelings to God and our thoughts are not hidden from Him. “The Lord knows the thoughts of man, that they are vanity.” Psalms 94:11
So everything about us whether we speak it, act it or think it conveys our love, obedience, faithfulness, rebellion or disobedience to Him.
“Take with you words and turn unto the Lord.” and rend you hearts and not your garments. – Hosea 14:2
COMMUNICATION BETWEEN MATES
We must first realize that God did not make us or intend for us to be mind readers. Some mates or people think that you are supposed to be able to read their mind about what they think, how they feel or how they see something. Yes you are absolutely right they have been watching too many science fiction movies. Most of the time people will not know whats on your mind or how you feel about something unless you tell them. Don’t assume your mate is supposed to know you that well or that they have some kind of supernatural ability to be omniscient (all-knowing) when it comes to you. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Your words and matching actions or matching works will do this best. Always telling some one that you love them but never ever doing something or giving them something tangible to show and express that love, make great room for doubt or your love and also give way to opportunities for the unloved to long or seek love else where. Many of people have been tempted and snared into adulterous and unfaithful relationships because of the lack of love and lovelessness that they receive from their spouse or relationship that they are in. Love is kind, love is gentle, love is entreating (See I Corinthians chp.13). If it sounds like love, looks like love but doesn’t feel like love, then it is not real love. Any human can discern real love, God made us that way. And when some one says that they love us, but yet is abusive, demeaning, disrespectful, etc. and then turn around and give you some roses or gift. This is not love just because they said so. Real love for you wouldn’t allow them to hurt you in the first place. But we know that sometimes when we give in to the lusts of our flesh, we will fall into the temptation to take the sin that is all dressed up and sugar coated that the devil will present to us. And many have been regretfully sorry after their fall to sin. Now some would probably argue with me that you could really love some one and still fall into sin with some one who is not their mate. Well I strongly believe that because love is strong as death – Song of Solomon 8:6, my love for some one would not allow me to cheat on them or be unfaithful to them. Our love for some one should be able to restrain us from any thing that could bring harm hurt, damage or destruction to each other and our relationship with them.
Loving is an action word. So is you are telling some one that you love them but have no actions to follow it, then you are just speaking some words. It’s just like the faith principle, faith without works is dead being alone – James 2:17, 20, 26. Love without works is dead being alone.
TAKING RISKS
When we love others or do for others, it is taking a risk. We risk our selves being used, abused or taken advantage of. We risk being taken for granted or stupidity. Those are just some of the risks we have to take when we love or share ourselves with others. So do we not love? Do we not share? Do we not care? Do we not help? Do we not give? So whatever we do we should do all in the name of the Lord out of love. And for the people who's heart that you know, it won't be a risk at all. You won't lose anything, but you have all the love, appreciation and gratitude to gain.
HARMONIZING
Harmonizing is blending, synchronizing, mixing and putting things together to make a one thing or one something. When it comes to relationships, friendships and marriages alike, there will be many things from the people involved that will not be in agreement or congruent.
What do we do with those differences? What do we do with those differing opinions?
How do we deal with them? The answer is we harmonize them. Jusl like in a chior, you take the altos, sopranos and the baritones with all their distinct sounds and you blend them together, you make harmony with them into a beautiful song or melody.
One way to do this is by seeing that differing view, opinion or whatever from the other person's perspective, and respecting them for who, how and what they are. And you do it without criticizing, judging or underestimating them because they are not like you, don't think like you, haven't experienced some things like you, don't see things like you, etc.
Then you accept them. Accepting someone doesn't necessarily mean that you have to agree with them. You can harmonize without agreeing. This may be easier said than done of course but its possible and its doable.
LOVE MAKES ALL THINGS POSSIBLE AND ENDURABLE
Never underestimate the power of love. It is a genuine love for one another that will help people respect, accept and tolerate one another. Love will help us be patient with one another. It is God's love that will help us do all these tings even when we don't want to do them. God's love never fails or comes short. Love is willing to go that extra mile. Love will allow and enable us to harmonize our differences and ourselves.
Dr. Melody Barclay
In Part I of Communication, we defined communication and the importance of communication. In this discussion we will discuss: communication between God and man; and communication between mates.
COMMUNICTION WITH GOD
We must first realize that the Lord God is a holy God and we must regard Him, esteem Him and respect Him as such. In Leviticus 19:2 we read, “Speak to all the congregation of the children of Israel, and say to them, “You shall be holy, for I the Lord your God am holy.” An in Malachi 3:14 we read, “For I am a great King.” Says the Lord of hosts. And My name is to be feared among the nations.
We can also communicate to God in verbal and nonverbal ways.
We are told from God’s word to worship Him – John 4:24; praise Him – Psalms 150; love Him – Deuteronomy 6:5, Matthew22:37; and obey Him – Deuteronomy 28:1-14, John 14:21-23.
Our thoughts communicate our heart or feelings to God and our thoughts are not hidden from Him. “The Lord knows the thoughts of man, that they are vanity.” Psalms 94:11
So everything about us whether we speak it, act it or think it conveys our love, obedience, faithfulness, rebellion or disobedience to Him.
“Take with you words and turn unto the Lord.” and rend you hearts and not your garments. – Hosea 14:2
COMMUNICATION BETWEEN MATES
We must first realize that God did not make us or intend for us to be mind readers. Some mates or people think that you are supposed to be able to read their mind about what they think, how they feel or how they see something. Yes you are absolutely right they have been watching too many science fiction movies. Most of the time people will not know whats on your mind or how you feel about something unless you tell them. Don’t assume your mate is supposed to know you that well or that they have some kind of supernatural ability to be omniscient (all-knowing) when it comes to you. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Your words and matching actions or matching works will do this best. Always telling some one that you love them but never ever doing something or giving them something tangible to show and express that love, make great room for doubt or your love and also give way to opportunities for the unloved to long or seek love else where. Many of people have been tempted and snared into adulterous and unfaithful relationships because of the lack of love and lovelessness that they receive from their spouse or relationship that they are in. Love is kind, love is gentle, love is entreating (See I Corinthians chp.13). If it sounds like love, looks like love but doesn’t feel like love, then it is not real love. Any human can discern real love, God made us that way. And when some one says that they love us, but yet is abusive, demeaning, disrespectful, etc. and then turn around and give you some roses or gift. This is not love just because they said so. Real love for you wouldn’t allow them to hurt you in the first place. But we know that sometimes when we give in to the lusts of our flesh, we will fall into the temptation to take the sin that is all dressed up and sugar coated that the devil will present to us. And many have been regretfully sorry after their fall to sin. Now some would probably argue with me that you could really love some one and still fall into sin with some one who is not their mate. Well I strongly believe that because love is strong as death – Song of Solomon 8:6, my love for some one would not allow me to cheat on them or be unfaithful to them. Our love for some one should be able to restrain us from any thing that could bring harm hurt, damage or destruction to each other and our relationship with them.
Loving is an action word. So is you are telling some one that you love them but have no actions to follow it, then you are just speaking some words. It’s just like the faith principle, faith without works is dead being alone – James 2:17, 20, 26. Love without works is dead being alone.
TAKING RISKS
When we love others or do for others, it is taking a risk. We risk our selves being used, abused or taken advantage of. We risk being taken for granted or stupidity. Those are just some of the risks we have to take when we love or share ourselves with others. So do we not love? Do we not share? Do we not care? Do we not help? Do we not give? So whatever we do we should do all in the name of the Lord out of love. And for the people who's heart that you know, it won't be a risk at all. You won't lose anything, but you have all the love, appreciation and gratitude to gain.
HARMONIZING
Harmonizing is blending, synchronizing, mixing and putting things together to make a one thing or one something. When it comes to relationships, friendships and marriages alike, there will be many things from the people involved that will not be in agreement or congruent.
What do we do with those differences? What do we do with those differing opinions?
How do we deal with them? The answer is we harmonize them. Jusl like in a chior, you take the altos, sopranos and the baritones with all their distinct sounds and you blend them together, you make harmony with them into a beautiful song or melody.
One way to do this is by seeing that differing view, opinion or whatever from the other person's perspective, and respecting them for who, how and what they are. And you do it without criticizing, judging or underestimating them because they are not like you, don't think like you, haven't experienced some things like you, don't see things like you, etc.
Then you accept them. Accepting someone doesn't necessarily mean that you have to agree with them. You can harmonize without agreeing. This may be easier said than done of course but its possible and its doable.
LOVE MAKES ALL THINGS POSSIBLE AND ENDURABLE
Never underestimate the power of love. It is a genuine love for one another that will help people respect, accept and tolerate one another. Love will help us be patient with one another. It is God's love that will help us do all these tings even when we don't want to do them. God's love never fails or comes short. Love is willing to go that extra mile. Love will allow and enable us to harmonize our differences and ourselves.
Dr. Melody Barclay
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