I come before you all to tell a story of a Bishop, Leader, Man of God, I’m a young (24y) single woman came on the scene not having much experience with being in church. Ready for a change, seeking to change my life, desiring to have Christ in my life. I was introduced to this COGIC church in B’ham, AL. At first everyone was so sweet and friendly. I found myself reaching a level in Christ I was proud of, learning the word, being filled with the Holy Spirit. The world couldn’t get me back. Everything in my life was coming together. It wasn’t long I started working for this Bishop, building a close Christian relationship with him and the first lady, respecting him & her like my father and mother. He treated me like a daughter took me in his home, really made me felt love. Well, I soon found out he preyed on me. He begins sharing how the first lady was not pleasing him (very intimate details) and he was soo lonely. He would state that God don’t intend for him to be lonely like this, suddenly he would start weeping….So I thought! He made sure I was well taken care of, I thought it was because the great job I was doing with his business. He then started sharing with me about things other members shared with him in private (breach of confidentiality).He soon started telling me what a great woman I was and I would make a man very pleased, that I needed someone like him in my life. I feel in love with this man and all his promises. All he tried to accomplish he did!!! After that the closet open and OMG!! A baby boy, from another young lady in the church. He adopted the little boy to cover himself. Our affairs continue and so did he and the other young lady. Meanwhile, first lady took very ill but I thank the Lord she is stronger and doing well. Wake up call, I contacted a STD from him, and when I confronted him he made me feel like trash. Later he would call/text and apologize, wanted things to go back the way they were. That was enough for me….Since then I have moved and humbled myself before God for forgiveness. I have no desire to attend church, that was my first church experience (afraid of this happening again/lost respect for leadership in man). Did I also mention now he and his wife are getting a divorce after 40 years. He now is engage to a 30 year old.
He called me and asked me to come back to church and seat in my usual spot (front row), I refused!! Learning he stood before his church doing service to tell the church about the divorce and blamed it on his wife (saying: no sex in 12yrs.) a woman who suffered a stroke a couple of years ago. I’m told to pray and have a forgiving heart. But in the meantime the damage is done. Some people think you’re just suppose to put it in the past and move on, but it doesn’t happen like that. Your life becomes forever changed and a victim can never look at the church ever the same. Then to add insult to injury some “church folks” want to blame the victim saying they seduce the Bishop or the pastor, in my case I was seduced and preyed on by the Bishop. I’ve been praying & building a personal relationship with God; Learning to know him for myself. Now I understand a leader can’t teach what he don’t LIVE!!!We require our leaders to lead and take a stand against sin on every front, especially when the very ones that are in charge of the flock allow the devil to deceive them to violate others in such a shameful way. I know we must all give an account for what we do. Once again my situation was swept under the rug to avoid embarrassment…..To everyone who reads this continue to pray my strength in the Lord. I truly Love Jesus, I love the Joy he gives me! I’m stronger and wiser, but still afraid to seat on any front row right now. May the Lord not only help me, but help Bishop Peter Wren Sr., East Birmingham COGIC in Birmingham, Alabama.