It seems in most marriages that the husband has such a tight family, making the man look like he is supreme, telling him he knows it all, telling him he runs the house, can work any job, telling him he should be making the biggest buck, telling him he is closer to God because he is a man and Christ is the Son like him, telling him that he has the seed that started the family and that he deserves the praise and admiration of his family and other families.

Does the wife- who is such a hard-working woman around the clock with the house work, kids, cooking, laundry, churches, and many other chores-deserve to have her family on her side and they be involved in her life at all? Can't they encourage her and give her family fullfillment from their side? Does her family have to give all their praise and God given glory to her husband? Can the wife have her personal friends?

Does she have to always be doing chores for her husbands family and friends-serving them food and coffee, washing their clothes, taking care of their kids, loaning them money, giving them a place to sleep when they need it, driving them where they need to go, taking them shopping, building them up, and making sure they are alright?

Does the wife ever deserve a family on her side to say that she is special and to say that she has been with them long before she was even married and that she is a true God sent person.

According to God's word is the wife allowed to have family and friends? Must she desert her own family to work dilligently for her husband and his family(his brothers and sister, cousins and aunts and uncles)around the clock, with all the praise and encouragement afterward going to the man (husband)-everytime his family sees the wife they are saying "I need....,could you do this for me...could you feed me...., could you give me..... and so on."

The man is suppose to Give his Wife his name (and treat her like a Queen) in marriage isn't he?
Not take her family name from her and use her and her family as his servants to get him where he wants to go in life.

When should she be lifted up and encouraged?

Please comment on this.How should I counsel this wife who wants her family and friends? I would love to hear what you have to say.

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Dear sister -

Proverbs 31:10 starts with these words, "A woman of valour [worthy, KJV] who can find? for her price is far above rubies. ..." [JPS]

Going through the rest of just this one passage of scripture, and while not explicitly stated, this worthy woman could never accomplish all of the things listed here without having both her personal and professional friends and associates. Even so, from the tone of your post it would seem that there is a more important underlying concern, and that is that you might not be experiencing Ephesians 5:25-32 being fulfilled in your life.

I would suggest seeking out a trusted individual (preferably another woman, even several) and obtain sound biblical advice from godly counselors. If at all possible, do so in a "safe" face to face setting.

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