WHAT DOES A WOMAN LOOK FOR IN A MAN:????
WHAT DOES A MAN LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN????

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QUALITIES A MAN WOULD LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN; LOYALITY,COMMITMENTS,DEDICATION TO THE LORD,FAMILY,HOME,CHILDREN,MUST BE CARING,LOVING&FIRM TO NAME A FEW.
As a man the first thing to me is that she has to love the Lord with all her heart. There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who loves God. Us wanting to be like Jesus covers alot of the basic qualifications that will match. The other thing is based off each person(s) identity. Is she going to be a help mate to me and I to her? Not a slave, but a helpmate. I think only God knows that. If we as a people knew than we wouldn't need divorce. We as a people tend to look on the outside. Such as make up, skin color, muscles, number of teeth and make our judgement. I think beauty is an important factor. However there are plenty of physically beautiful people who are nasty on the inside. God looks at the heart, and what God has for you she or he has to fit the mold for you life.

THE ESSENCE OF THE REALITY," HE WHO FINDS A WIFE FINDS A GOOD THING" A WOMAN IS TRULLY A HELP MATE ,REALITY OF ALL THAT A MAN NEEDS AND COULD EVER WANT THE GRACE OF GOD AND HIS PERFECT WILL HAS GIVEN US
MORE THAN PERFECT PEACE IN A TRUE WOMAN ............IT IS MORE THAN WHAT MEETS THE EYE .....FOR TO BE TRULLY BEAUTIFUL IS TO HAVE THE QUALITIES OF RUTH AND NAOMI, THE TENDERNESS OF GODS COMPASSION ,THAT SENT HIS SON JESUS.....................................OH,GOD HAS GIVEN US THE BEST ,...........WE AS MEN OUGHT BE PROUD AND SHOW OUR WOMEN HIGH RESPECT AND HONOR........ THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING OF THAT WHICH I HAVE TO BE WRITTEN.. SUBSTANCE OF SUPPORT IN THE HOME THE BREAD WINNER IN MANY CASES, THE DOCTOR , THE LAWYER, THE BANKER, THE COUNSELOR, THE MEAL PROVIDER, THE ADVISOR , THE WAY OUT AND THE WAY IN, ETC. I SHALL COMPLETE AS WE GO ON ,I HAVE KEY POINTS TO BRING UP AS THIS DISCUSSION GOES DEEPER...............JESUS LIVED AND TAUGHT A BETTER WAY OF LOVE. HE INVITED WOMEN TO ACCOMPANY HIM AND HIS DISCPLES ON THEIR JOURNEYLUKE 8:1-3;JOHN 4. HE TALKED WITH THE SAMARITON WOMENAT JACOBS WELL AND LD HER TO CONVERSION XPERIENCE JOHN 4 CHPT.JESUS DID NOT THINK IT STRANGE MARYSAT AT HIS FEET ASSUMING THE ROLE OF A DISCIPLE
HE SUGGESTED TO MARTHA SHE SHOULD DO THE SAMELUKE 10:38
I would say it totally depends on the type of man and the kind of woman, AND if both live godly
Greetings brothers and sisters

I'm not going to give the usual spiritual laundry list of desireable qualities. You all have pretty much covered the basics of that... we also know what Father expects of us in our daily walk as well. When I was raising my daughter (she's been married 5.5 yrs now PTL) I had one main issue: I refused to be "on" in public ministry, and then come home and be a hell raiser of a mom. I was the same at home when nobody but my daughter was looking as I was in public. There was no public persona vs private persona that I didnt want anybody to see. Naw. It was important to me to model correct, loving, Christlike behavior to my daughter, so as to impart the right standard and foundation to prepare her for her own life. So momma was not schizophrenic, with spilt behaviors depending on if we were at home and at church. And mind you not only model as in mimic or put up fronts but it was my true guiding conviction, I at least owed that to my daughter and the Lord since he entrusted her to me to raise and train up. So many times we tell our children, "dont do as I do do as I say". I wanted none of that, because its hypocritical and, well, thats a whole 'nother message.

I shared the above because it attests to who I am. On the inside. What I look for in a man? First, that we have similar life purpose, goals, and sense of destiny. Are we are going in the same direction to the same destination (and I'm not talking about heaven, but the heaven on earth, i.e. drive to fulfill a divine purpose and destiny? These need to be very very similar, if not nearly identical). If this is in place, then below are other qualities I look for:

(1) That he is not phony or "on" in public and a hell raiser at home. Does he mirror the image of Christ both in public and in private: with service people, neighbors, immature friends etc.? That doesnt mean he is a pushover, even Jesus had to give a bunch of money changers a whuppin' LOL

(2) How does he handle crisis situations, can he process them like a real man? Does he stand back and wait for me to "do something". Does he lose his cool, get frustrated, get the uncontrollable "what if's" like a kid in school or lash out as if he has no faculty to systematically approach, analyze and resolve a problem?

(3) Is he capable and willing to listen to me? Set aside regular time to deeply listen to me, without rushing the moment, and when you need something from me you will never be denied. He will empathize with any concerns I may have or be faced with as a woman, and as a woman of God. Also, in listening, is he willing to have me as full partner/helpmate in resolving issues of life i.e. does he regularly ask me for any wisdom I may have towards resolution to a problem?

(4) is he a whiner, critical and complainer? If so, well, you'll be destined to wander in life, while you in reality may be a few blocks, figuratively speaking, from your Promised Land (the place where God has destined and purposed you to fulfill)

(5) He should be in control without beng overly controlling. Not manipulative. I need to be able to respect you, and I wont do that if you try to strong arm me into everything you want to do

(6) He should know that like the rest of us, he isnt perfect, and be open to accept responsibility for his frailties, allowing God to iron out the spots, wrinkles and blemishes.

As for me, I realise that as a man, he needs routine, and I must respect that and contribute to establish a routine that is mutually acceptable to us both. And, for example, if that routine includes a weekly football game (whether or not I'm into fb) I need to respect that. Work with him to make our home confortable for not only him but his football crazy friends too during fb season, if thats what he wants. Ditto baseball, basketball, or whatever the ball, as long as its not plain ballin'. We dont do that. LOL As a woman I realise that men can be grizzly bears if you poke 'em at the wrong time. Its up to me to learn to discern, recognise this, and act accordingly.
Ms Toni your post was powerful!!!!!..You have great wisdom and it was food to my soul.
IT IS INDEED A BLESSING TO FORTIFY REALITY MEN YOU ARE ONLY IN CONTROL WHEN YOU CAN CONTROL YOURSELF AND ULTIMATELY RESPECT THE WOMAN AT ALL TIMES .,IN SUCH A WAY THAT SHE KNOWS THAT SHE HAS THE BEST .WHY?BECAUSE YOU TREAT HER THE BEST, AND RESPECT HER IN THE BEST WAY, AND DEMAND RESPECT ,BECAUSE YOU ARE AT ALL TIMES RESPECTFUL!!YOU RESPECT HER AT HOME AND AWAY FROM HOME IN PRIVATE AND IN COMMUNITY ,SITUATIONS AS WELL! NO, NONE OF US ARE PERFECT, BUT WE CAN STRIVE FOR PERFECTION IN SUCH A WAY, A DISCERNING WOMAN IS A CARING WOMAN LEARNING TO HAVE A BALL AND YET BE THE TOP BALL IN IT ALL!!!THAT EVEN YOUR LADY WILL KNOW SHE HAS THE BEST, FOR YOU ARE GIVING YOUR BEST,AND YOUR BEST IS THE BEST...........KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND GIVE THE BEST ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU WANT THE BEST, WHY COMPLAIN BE A SOLVER, BE A DOER ,BE A DELIVERER..you have wrinles just like anyone else be willing to accept that and iron them out!!.....................YOU ARE PARTNERS ACCEPT THAT AND WORK AS PARTNERS.CERTAINLY YOU HAVE WRINKLES JUST ATHERE IS A DIFFERENCE!!@!!!!!!!!!!
Well, for me , first and formost that my Man of God , must be saved , sanctified and filled with the Holy Ghost . He must love the things of God and must truly love the Lord . He must be a leader , the ability to be the REAL head of household . He must be able to listen with his spiritual ears as well as his natural ears , to be able to learn and discern .
The characteristics of my Man of God , he must be secure with who he is and secure enough to allow me to do what I am called to do for the Lord . He is kind , sincere, sensitive , has a real sense of humor , for it will be some days that I will get on his nerve and he will have to laugh instead of getting mad. He is intellectual , one who can flow in all situations . He is very affectionate and romantic , a gentleman .
Lord this is what I desire in a husband
A man that is a born again believer and not a deceiver. A man that fears God more than he loves himself. A man who loves me more than himself. A man that is not selfish, but very giving of his body, soul, and mind. Forgiving and patient, very loving, very kind. Honest and a caring man, who loves sharing, mature, trustworthy and who puts God first in his life. A Man who takes authority and doesn't take all of my hormonal mess! A man who can lovely but his foot down and put his missing rib in her place! A man who I can call Big Daddy ! lol! A man who I trust with my life, my kids, to make the authoritative decisions for our household. And yes even though I am a pastor, I don't have any authority over my husband until I step into that pulpit, the minute I step out we switch roles!!! There is a addendum to that- if he is a minister/Pastor as well- then he gets 24/7 Boss-ship! I love that! I want him to ask my opinion consider my opinion, remember my strengths and his weaknesses on some decisions --but ultimately make the necessary decisions or give me the right of way to make it. That won't compromise who he is as a man.
 
A tender romantic that is playful and faithful, and ready for new things to try. He would be respectful and responsible, and strive to be reasonable. Agrees to disagree, without being disagreeable, and not given to excess of gluttony, alcohol or other designs. He is wise and understanding, and not too demanding, a good balance of strength and weakness combined. Not arrogant or mean, but means what he says, and what he says in truth, I will find. He to be strong, appeasing to my eye and appetites, who would sometime say come here and dance with Big Daddy! yeah!!!! that's it!
A good friend and good listener who enjoys things similar, but comfortable having his time in his man cave. and a joy to be with all our lives. A man that will be thoughtful, considerate and gentle, and supportive of my calling as God has designed. A prayer warrior that will stand the tests of time, love me as I should be, so that I may reciprocate in kind. We could sing and pray, and serve God and each other, fearing and loving the Lord. Simply put, a man after God's own heart first and then after mine. Who would run to me and accept me when I run to him with problems MY BEST FRIEND even more so than my GIRLFRIENDS!!
Lord as I sit and consider all that I pray for, I ask that you do me the honor of being made into all that he hopes and longs for also.
A woman of peace, humility and grace. Full of your mercy, compassion, passion, and strength. make me wise and understanding of both his wants and his needs for this race. Teach me to be a loving wife, a chaste keeper at home even though I work a job. Teach me Lord to not complain if he is running late. Make me a woman after your own heart that he will want to hold on to in love, and for thy sake. Make him the spiritual head and teach me to be his perfect help meet. Give me all the traits of Jesus and the love that grows more and more unconditional and accepting over time. Keep me humble and respectful, a lamb within his arms, and a tiger when he is ready for more. Cause me to respect him as the authoritative figure within our relationship. NOT MY LORD, as you are my Lord but as the person you ordained to follow you and to lead our household to you! Make me the woman who carried my husbands name so well, that he is known -honored, and admired at the gates of the city.
Not what I want but what we both need, and all that you Lord want me to be. Help me Lord to deserve such a find.
amen and amen sis... I LOVE your first three sentences also. A believer and not a deceiver. Well said

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