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Emotional Insecurity from the Pulpit
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2013-04-12T19:55:33.787Z
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<p align="center"><b>A Broken Man EQUALS A Broken Relationship</b></p>
<p align="center"><b><i>Emotional Insecurity from the Pulpit</i></b></p>
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<p align="center" style="text-align: left;"><b><i> </i></b>The cliché “hurt people, hurt people” is very self-evident as we look at relationships in the religious and secular sectors. Often times, we look at the woman as being emotionally unstable, untrusting, unforgiving, and imbalanced.…</p>
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<p align="center"><b>A Broken Man EQUALS A Broken Relationship</b></p>
<p align="center"><b><i>Emotional Insecurity from the Pulpit</i></b></p>
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<p align="center" style="text-align: left;"><b><i> </i></b>The cliché “hurt people, hurt people” is very self-evident as we look at relationships in the religious and secular sectors. Often times, we look at the woman as being emotionally unstable, untrusting, unforgiving, and imbalanced. There are an overwhelming number of divorces in America with Christians representing about forty-two percent and non-Christians representing fifty percent according to the Star Tribune. Though these numbers are not completely accurate, even stated in this article, it’s a representation that Christian marriages are no different than non-Christian marriages. Matter of fact, statistics show that atheist and agnostics have a lower divorce rate compared to any faith based entity (Barna, October 24, 2011). </p>
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<p style="text-align: left;">When I look at these statistics, I am overwhelmingly surprised that those who don’t believe in God, a god, a higher authority, or a spiritual being that controls the universe are more apt to survive what Christians consider “until death do us part.” According to Barna and their research, the atheist and agnostic believe in an equal relationship with their mate as opposed to the Christian who believes that the man is the head of the household. This brings me to my point.</p>
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<p> I, too, believe that the man is the head of the household or should be because traditionally that is what I was taught to believe as a Christian. I have been failed in this area knowing that I was once the financial head, spiritual head, and the one my children looked to for guidance in various areas including emotional fulfillment and support. Yes, my husband was more compassionate on different levels, but I was the realist who made things happen for me and for the family. His emotional immaturity has haunted him both then and now affecting the marriage because of his lack to communicate regarding the ills that were constantly set before us. Like many women, communication came easy though he was emotionally disconnected even to himself. The whole guys-don't-talk-about-their-feelings characteristic of being a man is actually a huge burden on any relationship that aspires to be a partnership. Generally, a partnership requires both individuals to communicate on any level equaling a healthy relationship. The failure to honestly communicate is setting the relationship up for failure from the very beginning. In order for individuals to be balanced, every aspect of the relationship needs to be fed: spiritual, intellect, physical, and emotional. When there is an imbalance in any of these areas, an individual or the relationship will feel the effects especially in the area of emotions. </p>
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<p> It is easy for a single man to remain emotionally undeveloped because he does not have to deal with this aspect of his life; however, if he enters into a close relationship and remains unable to, the relationship has less chances of survival. A woman needs to know that the man that she is involved with is emotionally attached to her and that there is nothing that they can’t share including his emotions and open communication. A man needs to be vulnerable to his emotions so that he can experience a relationship that is fulfilling and life changing. This can be the beginning of a healthy relationship and/or marriage over time.</p>
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<p> When it comes to talking about or feeling fear, pain, sadness, shame, or even confusion; men tend to mess around and focus on their feet because they don't know how to identify and talk about those very real feelings and issues of insecurities. Anger is a feeling that can be conveyed through various avenues including abuse which often affects preacher’s wives and other women in the church as well as outside of the church. I must agree that knowing is half the battle, but after we know, we must do. Unfortunately, many men will not do what it takes to have a successful healthy relationship including the preacher, yet he will put up a front because of pride. </p>
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<p>What most men don’t comprehend is that as they reveal their genuine nature to the women in their lives, they not only become the men that the woman can trust, but also her friend and her confidant. This particular gentleman becomes the one that she can believe in and look up to because not only has she allowed herself to be vulnerable, but he has also become vulnerable to her needs which ties into her emotional being.</p>
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<p>As I review my marriages to preachers, I now realize that they were not in the position to lead themselves, a family, or a congregation. They were broken vessels who hid behind the cross and the pulpit. They were infidels hiding behind scripture, but never studying the Word of God or praying for their families. The pulpit was more of a job than a lifestyle as we are constantly seeing today as people are being pimped out by false prophets, pastors, apostle, evangelist, and teachers. My husbands were emotionally insecure Men of God who were destroying other people’s lives including my children’s and mine.</p>
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<p>Griff was never emotionally connected to me as his wife. The sex was satisfying, but eventually sex was not enough to sustain our unhealthy relationship called <i>marriage</i>. My needs as a woman were constantly being unmet though I chose to stay in the marriage which I was frequently reminded of by my husband. I fought a losing battle to his infidelities with other women and his need to communicate with them for admiration and a need to feel important. I also fought a losing battle with his need to get out and re-enter the military three times during the course of our marriage. Whatever he was searching for, he could not find. Though Griff was gentle as a lamb, his lies constantly entrapped him and me in a web of dishonor, distrust, and unfaithfulness. And because he often had an excuse of why he couldn’t find work or why he lost his job added to the frustration that was already present. Every day wasn’t glizt and glamour, but hell.</p>
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<p> When I first met Griff, I didn’t realize that I was entering into a relationship of emotional chaos. Our relationship was like a house built on sinking sand. As I reflect now, I now realize that he was a man that was broken with a hidden past that I could not compete with. When we moved to Alaska in 1999, it was supposed to have been the start of something new and refreshing. But as I constantly asked him about his past relationship, I was dragged down the steps into the basement only to be threatened with a knife and the words, “I’ll kill you.” I didn’t understand what had set him off like a bomb striking Hiroshima, but it did. I was afraid and confused because this behavior reminded me of my marriage JR, it was too familiar. The same demons that I contended with in Philadelphia were ever present in Griff and they were called abuse, lies, laziness, and infidelity. I struggled with leaving Alaska, but ended up staying because I simply didn’t want another failed marriage. This was the beginning of my journey with Griff.</p>
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<p> Griff and my marriage was very similar to that of a rollercoaster that never plateaued. Every time the ride appeared to be coming to an end, there was always another situation adding to my insecurities. As I was presented with each moment that made me feel insecure, I would share my feelings with him, family members, and my friends. Everyone else seemed to listen, but him. His mother would always tell me that he was a good man and my friends listened with compassion, but after a certain point, I got tired of talking about his infidelities because we all know that the same information gets old after a while. I reminded myself of a broken record that kept skipping saying the same things over and over except it was a different woman in the same situation with a new lie. </p>
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<p>As I reflect, even now, what hurts me the most is that I informed Griff of my past including my abusive marriage to JR. He knew our history though it didn’t seem to matter. He knew that JR moved all my furniture out of our Delaware apartment into another woman’s house as I was recuperating from having our daughter in whom he has had nothing to do with, even now. Griff knew that I spent hours in jail praying that God would perform a miracle because my brother and I had turned the Oak Lane Diner in Philadelphia into the Wild Wild West as we beat up JR and his mistress Lisa as the people in the diner disbursed screaming and hollering that someone was going to get killed as chairs, signs, and JR went flying through the air and as I was kicking Lisa in her face again and again and again until blood was running down her face and out of her eyes. She escaped the wrath of Cheron by managing to get up and run out of the diner only to be the laughing stock around the town and amongst the church goers. On that night, I snapped. I was emotionally tired and physically drained. My daughter was three months and on that day and I realized that there was a thin line between love and hate. As my brother and I proceeded to handle our business, I heard the police sirens getting closer and closer. I proceeded to yell at the top of my lungs telling everyone what JR had done to me. Instead of running out the diner, my brother and I simply waited for the police. Handcuffs on and escorted to separate vehicles, there we were. As I sat in the back of the police car, two older women proceeded to tell me “good job” and asked if they could call anyone for us. Through the window, I mouthed my grandmother’s number and said thank you. My family met us at the station only for JR to tell the investigating officer that I was the girlfriend and that Lisa was the wife! He was immediately corrected by my cousin who spoke on my behalf. And as I look back, I am ever grateful that there were no knives or sharp objects around because I do believe that I could have killed JR and/or Lisa on that night only to leave my children in foster care or with my family members. Life had fallen apart. I can honestly say that I sympathize with the many women behind bars because of the situations they find themselves in. I could have been an inmate just like the woman we watch on the television show called <i>SNAPPED.</i></p>
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<p>My story is one of many and brokenness and emotional immaturity is running rampant from pulpit to pulpit; church to church; and house to house. As Christians and those of other faiths, we preach and teach a word that is contrary to what God has for his children. God came so that we could have life, and life more abundantly, but there are many who are not experiencing God’s best. I believe that we are to speak life into our situations, but I also believe that applying that which we know is essential to healthy living. Many of us are waiting for a miracle to fall out the sky and I do believe in miracles, but I also believe that God has given us wisdom to go get help if we need it. There are professionals that have the knowledge to help men and women to deal with certain areas of their lives. Though everyone doesn’t have a mental illness, please know that one in six Americans are dealing with one. Sometimes counseling is enough, but in other instances, medication is essential for daily living. Everything is not a demon and everyone isn’t mentally ill. The church has failed to provide its’ people with balance and many Christians are simply focused on spirituality only. Whether you are a preacher or just a regular man, it’s time to stand up and be the man that you were born to be. Do away with the excuses of yesteryear and put away childish and immature ways of your youth. Your wife and family are depending on you. You cannot get yesterday back, but you can move forward as a whole and healthy individual who can effectively communicate with his love ones even about your darkest hours and hidden secrets. I understand that facing reality can hurt, but what hurts more is living out all your years under false pretenses and/or losing your spouse because you failed to face the demons of your past. Every woman is not out to hurt you or destroy your character. Griff often suggested that I did not treat him like a man and I now realize that I couldn’t. He wasn’t worthy of this type of treatment. A man loves, honors, respects, cherishes, walks in truth, and is faithful to his wife. Emotional maturity is essential for healthy living and a broken man equals a broken relationship.</p>
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First Ladies/Pastors Wife Breakfast/End of Year Feast 2010''''
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2010-10-12T22:38:39.421Z
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<p><font size="3">Are you a pastors wife/First Lady, you are invited to a time of Fellowship, Encouragement and Empowerment with your fellow Pastors wife/First Ladies. Pastors invite your wivies to come & Fellowship with other First Ladies/Pastors Wife.<br></br><br></br><strong><em>First Ladies/Pastors Wife Breakfast/End of Year Feast<br></br></em></strong></font></p>
<p><font size="3">Date; Nov 6th 2010<br></br></font></p>
<p><font size="3"><strong>Time:</strong> 9am to 12:30pm…<br></br></font></p>
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<p><font size="3">Are you a pastors wife/First Lady, you are invited to a time of Fellowship, Encouragement and Empowerment with your fellow Pastors wife/First Ladies. Pastors invite your wivies to come & Fellowship with other First Ladies/Pastors Wife.<br/><br/><strong><em>First Ladies/Pastors Wife Breakfast/End of Year Feast<br/></em></strong></font></p>
<p><font size="3">Date; Nov 6th 2010<br/></font></p>
<p><font size="3"><strong>Time:</strong> 9am to 12:30pm<br/></font></p>
<p><font size="3"><strong>Venue:</strong> Holiday Inn Hotel<br/>1655 North Central Expwy.<br/>Richardson, Tx. 75080<br/> 972-238-1900<br/><br/>Contact: Lady Edith Obikaram<br/>Email:favoroc@yahoo.com, 469-8793542 <br/><br/>Theme: <strong><em>YOU ARE NOT ALONE</em></strong></font></p>
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Divorce in the Pulpit
tag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2010-01-05:916966:Topic:1168124
2010-01-05T02:32:28.102Z
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We read about many preachers and their wives getting a divorce, even national bishops and evangelists who are on television. My question is, why is this happening? Is it something the wife is not doing? Are the men of God wanting their cake and eat it too? Is two big ministries in the family one too many? Is the wives who are also in ministry paying too much attention to their own ministry and not enough on their husbands. What makes the man of God have an affair? What makes the man and woman…
We read about many preachers and their wives getting a divorce, even national bishops and evangelists who are on television. My question is, why is this happening? Is it something the wife is not doing? Are the men of God wanting their cake and eat it too? Is two big ministries in the family one too many? Is the wives who are also in ministry paying too much attention to their own ministry and not enough on their husbands. What makes the man of God have an affair? What makes the man and woman of God become distant? Please give me your opinion....
Can A Man of God be fully changed from his past?
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2009-12-29T23:49:39.386Z
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Can a man of God that had a problem with women in the past be used of God? Can he be a good husband to the woman of God that he will be blessed with? What advice would you give a wife of that man of God that is anointed and used of God now in his life, but is still approached at times? How can a new wife that believe and trust the God in her new husband continue to be strong and keep her husband covered in prayer as well as trust the man in him. How can that wife not look for residue of her…
Can a man of God that had a problem with women in the past be used of God? Can he be a good husband to the woman of God that he will be blessed with? What advice would you give a wife of that man of God that is anointed and used of God now in his life, but is still approached at times? How can a new wife that believe and trust the God in her new husband continue to be strong and keep her husband covered in prayer as well as trust the man in him. How can that wife not look for residue of her man's old ways to show up before she even gives him a chance to prove himself? Not married, just curious....
My Wife Does Not Like Her Role as 1st Lady
tag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2009-12-11:916966:Topic:1139282
2009-12-11T16:51:52.530Z
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I have recently discovered my wife has been totally unhappy as first lady and even the life style and sacrifices of building a church. She loves the Lord and Loves our family, however our most recent discussion she revealed she has been unhappy for at least the last 3 years. We are working it out, however there is a lot of repairing and regrouping we must do.<br />
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Statistics show that 80% of 1st Ladies, are in this similar situation. We have come to the…
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I have recently discovered my wife has been totally unhappy as first lady and even the life style and sacrifices of building a church. She loves the Lord and Loves our family, however our most recent discussion she revealed she has been unhappy for at least the last 3 years. We are working it out, however there is a lot of repairing and regrouping we must do.<br />
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Statistics show that 80% of 1st Ladies, are in this similar situation. We have come to the decision that as Pastor I have not listened to her enough to make this more of a team effort. Yes we listen to God for direction, however God placed the women in our life to be a "help meet" according to Genesis 2:18<br />
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I am sure there are many in this situation and do not realize it. I was totally shocked when we discussed it at almost the point of separating. Given the opportunity to discuss this issue openly with your spouse, you might be surprised of how much she has felt she needed to hold in and carry alone.<br />
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Stop hiding hurt and heal your marriage.<br />
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MAMA'S BABY, "PASTOR'S" MAYBE?!
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2009-06-29T00:52:24.147Z
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SCENARIO: "PASTOR' has sown the "chosen seed" outside of the "chosen womb", and the newest and youngest member of the congregation just happens to be "pastor's" spitting image, right down to the vertically curved big toe nails. Should this "revelation" be publicalyy addressed, and should this child be publicLy claimed andacknowledged! Should they be forced to leave the congregation like Ishmael and his mother? This is a huge taboo topic, but it's as common as snub-nosed"Gators" in the pulpit
SCENARIO: "PASTOR' has sown the "chosen seed" outside of the "chosen womb", and the newest and youngest member of the congregation just happens to be "pastor's" spitting image, right down to the vertically curved big toe nails. Should this "revelation" be publicalyy addressed, and should this child be publicLy claimed andacknowledged! Should they be forced to leave the congregation like Ishmael and his mother? This is a huge taboo topic, but it's as common as snub-nosed"Gators" in the pulpit
LOVE THE "HELL" OUT OF THEM
tag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2009-06-23:916966:Topic:828971
2009-06-23T09:22:22.588Z
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SO MANY OF GOD'S PEOPLE ARE BOUND UP SPIRITUALLY AND NOT EXPERIENCING TOTAL VICTORY IN THEIR LIVES BECAUSE THEY HAVE ALLOWED THE 'ACCUSER OF THE BRETHREN", THE SOWER OF DISCORD, AND THE "OFFENDER" TO TRESPASS THEIR PEACE, ORDER AND CONTROL OF THEIR EMOTIONS. NO ONE, AND I MEAN NO ONE, SHOULD BE GIVEN THAT MUCH POWER TO , JUST BY ONE CONVERSATION, PARAGRAPH OR UTTERANCE, THROW YOUR WHOLE DAY INTO CHAOS AND UPHEAVAL AND ALTER YOUR MOOD! THAT, BELOVED, IS SIMPLY TOO MUCH POWER FOR SOMEONE WHO, IN…
SO MANY OF GOD'S PEOPLE ARE BOUND UP SPIRITUALLY AND NOT EXPERIENCING TOTAL VICTORY IN THEIR LIVES BECAUSE THEY HAVE ALLOWED THE 'ACCUSER OF THE BRETHREN", THE SOWER OF DISCORD, AND THE "OFFENDER" TO TRESPASS THEIR PEACE, ORDER AND CONTROL OF THEIR EMOTIONS. NO ONE, AND I MEAN NO ONE, SHOULD BE GIVEN THAT MUCH POWER TO , JUST BY ONE CONVERSATION, PARAGRAPH OR UTTERANCE, THROW YOUR WHOLE DAY INTO CHAOS AND UPHEAVAL AND ALTER YOUR MOOD! THAT, BELOVED, IS SIMPLY TOO MUCH POWER FOR SOMEONE WHO, IN REALITY, HAS NO POWER OVER YOU, UNLESS YOU SIGN IT OVER TO THEM. THERE WAS A SCENE IN THE MOVIE ABOUT MALCOLM X, WHERE HE LED A COUPLE OF HUNDRED N.Y. CITIZENS ON A QUIET , VERY STRUCTURED AND ORGANIZED MARCH TTHROUGH THE CITY STREETS FOR BLOCK S,AND BLOCKS,AND THAT ORDER WAS NEVER BROKEN. WHEN THEY REACHED CITY JAIL,WAITNG ON NTHE REPORT REGARDING THEIR FALLEN COMRADE, NO ONE MOVED, UNLESS HE MALCOM.MOVED OR SAID SO, AND WHEN HE WAS SATISFIED HE MADE A SINGLE GESTURE WITH HIS FINGER, AND THE PEOPLE RESPONDED AS ONE DISCIPLINED UNIT. THE POLICE CHIEF AND CITY OFFICIALS WERE VERY DISTURBED BY THIS SITUATION AND THEY SAID " THAT IS TOO MUCH POWER FOR ONE MAN!" NO ONE MAN, OR TWO OR THREE SHOULD HAVE THAT KIND OF POWER OVER YOU TO "MAKE YOU MAD", "UPSET YOUR NERVES", OR INTERFERE WITH THE PEACE AND JOY CHRIST HAS BLESSED YOU WITH! NOT, THE LITLE "SNUGGLE BUNNIES" YOU GAVE BIRTH TO OR THE ONE YOU STOOD NEXT TO AT THE ALTAR, IN MATRIMONY. THAT INCLUDES YOUR "BOSS", PASTORS, MOTHERS, MOTHER-IN-LAWS, THE MAILMAN, THAT RUDE BUS-DRIVER, MEAN MANICURIST, AND THE BUTCHER WHO SOMETIMES "SLINGS" YOUR PORK CHOPS AT YOU. I WITNESS SO MANY SAINTS COMING TO THE ALTAR FOR DELIVERANCE BECAUSE THEY CONTINUE TO DWELL ON AND MAGNIFY OFFENSES AND "WORDS" THAT SHOOK THEM "OFF THEIR SQUARE", AND, IN AN INSTANT CAUSED THEM TO FORGET WHO THEY ARE, WHAT GOD HAS SAID CONCERNING THEM, AND WHAT'S FOREVER SETTLED IN HEAVEN! MAKE NO MISTAKE, THAT NOT ONE WORD RELEASED INTO THE ATMOSPHERE EVER RETURNS "VOID", AND IT'S GOING TO MAKE SOME SORT OF IMPACT, BUT GOD HAS GIVEN US "HIS WORD" TO NEUTRALIZE AND DIFFUSE EVERY CONTRARY UTTERANCE THAT COMES TO KILL, STEAL, AND TO DESTROY. I'M SURE EVERYONE CAN REMEMBER A TIME OR TWO, OF GETTING READY ,IN ANTICIPATION, TO GO TO THE HOUSEHOLD OF FAITH FOR WORSHIP SERVICE, AND ENTERING INTO AN "EXCHANGE" WITH A CONTRARY MATE, REBELLIOUS CHILD, OR ONE OF THOSE VERY SPECIAL "CRABBY","UNGRACIOUS "GREETERS/USHERS" AT THE SANCTUARY DOOR, AND FOUND YOURSELF OUT OF SORTS, WITH A SERIOUS MOOD SWING, AND TOTALLY DISTRACTED FROM YOUR PURPOSE OF EXALTING GOD AND BASKING IN HIS PRESENCE. EVERYONE HAS, AT SOME TIME, HAD TO CONTEND WITH A UNFAIR "BOSS", BELLIGERENT CO-WORKER, BULLYING POLICE OFFICER, SCHOOL ATTENDADNT OR SHOP OWNER. AND EXPERIENCED SOME FORM OF INJUSTICE AND UNDESERVING TREATMENT THAT FOR SOME, SHAKES THEIR CONFIDENCE AND RENDERS THEM DOUBTFUL, TIMID, AND ENRAGED WAY DOWN INSIDE, WE, AS A "CIVILIZED AND "CULTURED PEOPLE HAVE PERFECTED THE COPING MECHANISMS OF SUPPRESSION AND REPRESSION, BUT BOTH CAN LEAD TO REGRESSION AND INFIRMITY,, WHICH IS UNDESIRABLE AND UNPRODUCTIVE. SO MANY WOMEN ARE BROKEN AND IN CONSTANT NEED OF PRAYER AND SPIRTUAL COUNSELLING TO UNDO WHAT CRITICAL, VICIOUS, DEVASTATING WORDS HAVE DONE TO THEIR "PSYCHE" SOULS, AND SPIRITS, IN THEIR FORMATIVE YEARS AND IN THEIR ADULT LIVES. THEY FIND THEMSELVES YOKED IN MARRIAGE TO SOMEONE WHO IS A VICTIM OF INNER "RAGE" AND REPRODUCE FRUIT OF LIKE MANNER, AND BECOME BITTER, ORNERY PEOPLE THEMSELVES, BECAUSE THIS IS WHAT THEY KNOW, UNTIL THAT CURSE IS BROKEN.. WE HAVE PASTORS WHO, SOMETIMES RULE OVER THE FLOCK BY CONSTRAINT AND TYRRANY, WIELDING AN UNMERCIFUL "ROD" BECAUSE THIS IS WHAT THEY SUFFERED UNDER SOMEONE ELSE. THEN THERE MAY BE THAT "CHURCH MOTHER" WHO HAS BECOME SPITEFUL, AND "SET IN HER WAYS", OR ANTAGONISTIC BECAUSE SHE CAN'T HAVE HER WAY, AND SO SHE MAKES EVERYONE ELSE MISERABLE. WE HAVE THAT SON OR DAUGHTER WE DON'T EVEN RECOGNIZE AS THE CHILD WE RAISED, BECAUSE OF THEIR REBELLION AND SEMI PSYCHOTIC BEHAVIOUR, AND WE FIND IT HARD TO "LIKE" THEM SOME DAYS. HOW ABOUT THAT ALCOHOLIC RELATIVE WHO DISRESPECTS, ANNOYS AND INSULTS ANYBODY WHO GETS IN THE LINE OF FIRE, AND KEEPS CAUSING EMBARASSING SCENES, AND YOU DON'T WANT TO DEAL WITH THEM? HOW DOES ONE HANDLE THIS ASSORTED BUNCH OF PROFESSIONAL "VEXATIONS AND AGITATORS?" YOU MAKE A DECISION AND A PACT WITH THE HOLY GHOST TO LOVE THE ABSOLUTE "HELL, PURGATORY, SHEOL, AND HADES, OUT OF THEM, BECAUSE GOD LIVED THE HELL OUT OF US, WHEN HE SENT HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON TO DIE FOR US WHILE WE WERE YET IN SIN! IT IS A PROVEN FACT THAT EVERYTHING RESPONDS TO LOVE BE IT "PLANT" OR ANIMAL, GIVEN TIME AND PATIENCE. SOME OF OUR ASSIGNMENTS ARE FITLY CALLED "LABORS" OF LOVE, BECAUSE THEY REQUIRE SO MUCH SWEAT , EFFORT AND FOREBEARANCE. YOU MUST ASK GOD FOR STRENGTH AND WISDOM TO SEE THOSE INDIVIDUALS "THROUGH THE BLOOD", TO SEE PAST THEIR MISERY INTO THEIR LOST SOULS, AND COMMIT TO INTERCEDING FOR THEM, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOUR FLESH WANTS TO REVERT TO IT'S "CUSSING DAYS", FOR JUST 10 SECONDS! IN CHOOSING THIS STANCE, TO STEADFASTLY DEMONSTRATE THE AGAPE' LOVE OF GOD, THE LORD BEGINS TO WORK ALONG WITH YOU, AND TO CHIP AWAT AT THAT FALLOW GROUND, AND THOSE OFFENDERS WILL HAVE TO TAKE NOTE, EVEN IF THEY NEVER INDICATE THAT THEY DO, THAT YOU ARE SOMETHING DIFFERENT, AN THAT DIFFERENCE IS NOT OF THIS WORLD. USUALLY THE MOST BITTER PERSON YOU FIND, IS THE ONE WHO HAS BEEN DEPRIVED O THE MOST HEALTHY NOURISHING LOVE, AND THEY WERE "MOLDED" BY THEIR OWN CIRCUMSTANCES. EVEN THE MOST HARDENED CRIMINAL, YEARNS FOR LOVE AND AFFECTION SOMEWHERE UNDERNEATH ALL THE DIABOLICAL MANIFESTATIONS OF EVIL. I F YOU'LL BELIEVE GOD'S WORD, YOU WILL BE PLEASANTLY SURPRISED TO FIND THAT "HEAPING HOT COALS" UPON YOUR OPPOSITION'S HEAD IS A MIGHTY WEAPON IN THIS WAR-FARE AGAINST THOSE UNRULY, AND CONTRARY SOULS. SO THE NEXT TIME THAT YOUR MATE STRIKES A NERVE WITH THEIR WORDS, PRAISE GOD IN YOUR SPIRIT, AND LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU STILL "LOVE THEM BY CHOICE", EVEN IF YOU CHOKE" ON THE WORDS RIGHT AT THAT MOMENT! BUY THAT EVIL-SPIRITED CO-WORKER A NICE CARD, OR A CUPCAKE "JUST BECAUSE", AND PRESENT IT WITH THE LOVE OF GOD SHINING THROUGH! ABOUT THAT BROTHER OR SISTER AT CHURCH WHO FROWNS LIKE THEY SMELL SOMETHING FOUL WHEN THEY SEE YOU, OR HAPPPEN TO KEEP "BUMMPIMG" YOU, GO OVER AND GIVE THEM A HOLY HUG, TREAT THEM TO A SODA OR CUP OF JAVA AND MINISTER THE LOVE OF GOD TO THEM! THOSE OFFSPRING WHO ARE BEHAVING LIKE LUNATICS AND HEATHEN, REINFORCE YOUR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, WHEN THEY ARE REALLY HAVING "HORMONAL" OR PSYCHOTIC DAYS. ( OF COURSE WE WON'T HAVE THEM RUNNING OVER US OR BEING DISRESPECTFUL, WITHOUR "HANDLING" THAT AS WELL, IN LOVE!) THE GREATEST WEAPON YOU HAVE IS THE LOVE OF GOD, BECAUSE THAT LOVE DREW YOU OUT OF WRETCHEDNESS AND A HORRIBLE PIT TO THE CROSS, AND WON YOU TO SALVATION. NOW, THAT'S POWER, AND LOVE! GO GET YOURS BACK! I MADE A DECLARATION A LONG TIME AGO THAT NO ONE WOULD COST ME MY SPOT AROUND THE GREAT WHITE THRONE' ON A "TECHNICALITY" LIKE NOT BEING ALLOWED TO LOVE SOMEONE, SO I MADE IT A MISSION, I'M GOING TO LOVE THEM ON PURPOSE!<br />
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THE UNDEFILED MARRIAGE BED
tag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2009-06-22:916966:Topic:825800
2009-06-22T04:17:40.578Z
Spirit
http://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/FirstLady
SEX HAS BEEN A "HOT TOPIC" (NO PUN INTENDED) WITHIN THE BODY O CHRIST FOR SOME TIME NOW, BUT A FEW DECADES AGO, THIS WAS TABOO, AND ONE WAS SUBJECT TO REBUKE FOR EVEN MENTIONING IT, MARRIED OR NO. ONE OF THE CHIEF QUESTIONS REVOLVES AROUND THE" MARRIAGE BED". PRETTY MUCH EVERYONE IS FAMILIAR WITH THE SCRIPTURE "THE MARRIAGE BED IS "UNDEFILED" HEBREWS 13:4 MANY HAVE TAKEN THIS TEXT TO THE EXTREME AND USE IT TO JUSTIFY WHAT GOD CONSIDERS TO BE "LASCIVIOUSNESS" AND, OFTEN, PERVERSION. YES, THE…
SEX HAS BEEN A "HOT TOPIC" (NO PUN INTENDED) WITHIN THE BODY O CHRIST FOR SOME TIME NOW, BUT A FEW DECADES AGO, THIS WAS TABOO, AND ONE WAS SUBJECT TO REBUKE FOR EVEN MENTIONING IT, MARRIED OR NO. ONE OF THE CHIEF QUESTIONS REVOLVES AROUND THE" MARRIAGE BED". PRETTY MUCH EVERYONE IS FAMILIAR WITH THE SCRIPTURE "THE MARRIAGE BED IS "UNDEFILED" HEBREWS 13:4 MANY HAVE TAKEN THIS TEXT TO THE EXTREME AND USE IT TO JUSTIFY WHAT GOD CONSIDERS TO BE "LASCIVIOUSNESS" AND, OFTEN, PERVERSION. YES, THE "MARRIAGE BED" MAY BE UNDEFILED BUT "WE" ARE NOT. FRESH LINEN SHEETS ARE ALWAYS "UNDEFILED" UNTIL WE LAY DOWN ON THEM, AND IN A DAY OR TWO THEY NEED TO BE SUBMURGED IN LAUNDRY DETERGENT AND BLEACH TO RESTORE THEM TO CLEANNESS. THE DANGER OF HAVING NO WISE BOUNDARIES OR DICIPLINE IN INTIMACY IS THE POTENTIAL TO REAWAKEN DEMONIC STRONGHOLDS OF PERVERSION AND LEWDNESS FROM ONE'S PAST, OR TO OPEN THE DOOR FOR THEM TO INFILTRATE AND CONTAMINATE WHAT GOD DESIGNED O BE A PURE ACT OF SHARED AFFECTION AND CLOSENESS. ANYTHING DONE IN EXCESS OR TO THE EXTREME WILL HAVE REPERCUSSIONS BY AND BY. I'VE COUNSELED MANY DISTRAUGHT WOMEN OF GOD WHO WERE IN A DILEMMA BECAUSE THEIR MATES WANTED THEM TO ENGAGE IN ACTIVITIES THEY HATED AND WEREN'T COMFORTABLE WITH, AND THEY WERE AFRAID THAT IF THEY DIDN'T COMPLY HE WOULD "GET IT SOME PLACE ELSE". I'M SPEAKING OF SAVED MEN OF GOD HERE, WHO PRESSURE THEIR WIVES INTO PERVERSION. IF YOUR MATE PUTS YOU IN THIS POSITION, THEN THERE ARE GREATER TROUBLES AS WELL, AND A POSSIBILITY THAT HE'S GOING TO DO JUST THAT AT SOME POINT ANYWAY.THE APOSTLE PAUL SAID IT BEST " ALL THINGS ARE EXPEDIENT FOR ME,BUT NOT ALL THINGS ARE "LAWFUL" ( FOR MY GOOD OR PRUDENT). WHEN COUPLES BLUR THE LINES AND CROSS CERTAIN BOUNDARIES, SPIRITS OF INORDINATE AFFECTION,SEXUAL IMPURITY, AND BASE DESIRES CROSS OVER TO US AND GRADUALLY UNFOLD INTO THINGS WE'RE NOT READY FOR, AND OFTEN LEAD TO MARITAL TROUBLE. I SAW IN A MOVIE ONCE, THIS HUSBAND WHO HAD BEEN HARASSING HIS WIFE FOR YEARS TO ALLOW HIM TO BRING HOME ANOTHER WOMAN FOR HIS PLESASURE, UNTIL SHE FINALLY GAVE IN AND FOLLOWED THROUGH WITH THIS PERVERTED "FANTASY" TO MAKE HIM HAPPY. AS IT TURNS OUT, SHE BBEGAN TO DESIRE THE OTHER PERSON MORE THAN SHE DID HER HUSBAND, AND IT CAME EXTREMELY CLOSE TO DESTROYING THEIR MARRIAGE. THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT THIS PARTICULAR ACT IS A PROBLEM AMONGST THE SAINTS, BECAUSE ONLY GOD AND "THEY" KNOW. THE POINT IS THE DEVIL WAS VERY WILLING TO ACCOMODATE THEM , BECAUSE HE HAD BREACHED THEIR MARITAL COVENANT AND BECOME A THIRD PARTY. WHEN ONE CONSIDERS THAT THE LORD IS OMNISCIENT AND OMNIPRESENT, (PRESENT EVERYWHERE, EVEN IN YOUR BEDROOM OR WHEREVER YOU HAPPEN TO BE "ENGAGING" IN AND HIS EYES ARE UPON ALL THAT WE DO. OUR HOLY GHOST SHOULD QUICKEN US TO AVOID THOSE ACTS THAT, IF WE COULD VISIBLY SEE GOD PRESENT AND OBSERVING, WE WOULD BE ASHAMED AND EMBARASSED ABOUT. SOMEONE ASKED ME IF IT WAS ALRIGHT FOR HER TO PUT UP A "STRIPPER POLE" FOR HER HUSBAND, AND I RESPONDED THAT IT WOULDN'T BE WISE BECAUSE LOOK AT WHAT YOU'RE EMULATING FROM THE SLEAZIEST SEGMENTS OF THE WORLD AND BRINGING IT INTO WHAT SHOULD BE THE LORD'S ,AND YOUR, SANCTUARY WHERE HIS PRESENCE SHOULD BE, PERPETUALLY. NOT ONLY THAT,BUT CONSIDER THE POLE THE BABYLONIANS RAISED UP IN THE O.T. AND HOW THAT SERPENT WRAPPED ITSELF AROUND IT AND SLITHERED UP AND DOWN IT. WHEN WE BEGIN TO COMPROMISE TO "SATISFY" ONE ANOTHER , OTHER PRESENCES AND FORCES ENTER INTO THE DOMAIN OF INTIMACY, AND BECAUSE WE HAVE INVITED THEM, THEY ALTER WHAT WAS ONCE ONE OF LIFES' GREATEST JOYS. AS PEOPLE PERFORM " ROLE PLAYING" AND "FANTASIZING", WHAT THEY DON'T KNOW IS THAT THEY ARE SUMMONING UP "OTHERS" TO PARTCIPATE IN THEIR INTIMACY, AND SOON THE "FACES"OR IMAGES OF OTHERS BEGIN TO REPLACE THAT OF THE ONE YOU'RE BEING INTIMATE WITH, AND IF YOU'R NOT CAREUL, YOUR MATES DESIRES WLL ATTACH THEMSELVES ELSEWHERE. THE LORD HAS EQUIPPED US WITH SUCH CREATIVITY,THAT WE CAN STILL MANAGE TO EFFECTIVELY "SATISFY" OUR MATES THROUGH ACCEPTABLE ACTS. I'VE WORKED IN THE EMERGENCY ROOM AND SAW WOMEN COME IN FOR HELP BECAUSE SOMETHING "GOT STUCK" WHERE IT SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN.CERTAINLY, IF WE CAN COME UP WITH MEGA VISIONS AND STRATEGIES TO IMPACT ENTIRE COMMUNITIES, WE CAN DISCOVER OR STRATEGIZE INTIMACY TO THE GLORY OF GOD! IF WE NEED TO "CLEAN OUT THE REFIGERATOR OR BRING "DINNER" SUCH AS ASSORTED " VEGETABLES", AND "JACK HAMMERS", "WEED EATERS", AND ELECTRICAL APPLIANCES TO BED TO ACHIEVE INTIMACY, WE HAVE FAR GREATER ISSUES THAN WANTING THAT COMING TOGETHER IN LOVE! IF WE HAVE TO BECOME SOMEONE ELSE ( A "NURSE", LITTLE "SCHOOL GIRL", OR "RED RIEDING HOOD" ) TO ACCOMODATE OUR MATES, WHAT IS HE REALLY SAYING? I'M BORED WITH YOU AS THE WOMAN I MARRIED? I REALLY WOULD LIKE TO BE WITH SOME OF THESE "WOMEN" I HAVE YOU PRETENDING TO BE? ONE OF THE MOST POPULAR MARITAL "AIDES IS A BOOK CALLED"KAMA SUTRA", AND IT IS FILLED WITH SEXUAL ACTS AND ADVICE THAT MOST OF US HAVE NEVR HEARD OF. DO YOU REALLY REALIZE WHOM YOU'RE RECEIVING INSTRUCTIONS FROM TO BRING TO YOUR "UNDEFILED" MARRIAGE BED? ARE YOU AWARE OF IT'S ORIGIN? I'M AWARE THAT MOST PEOPLE WHO GO BACK AND FORTH DEBATING THIS ISSUE, HAVE ALREADY MADE THEIR DECISION TO DO WHATEVER THEY DESIRE, AND THAT'S THEIR RIGHT AND PRIVILEGE, BUT NONE THE LESS, DEMONS AWAIT OPPORTUNITIES TO COME IN AND "PLAY " WITH YOU SO THAT YOU CAN "REALLY LET THE GAMES BEGIN!!' IF ONE'S NOT MINDFUL, YOU WILL FIND YOUSELF VISITED BY THE "INCUBUS, AND ,OR THE SUCCUBUS DEMONS THAT ARE SENT TO ACTUALLY ENGAGE IN SEX WITH MEN AND WOMEN, AND THESE ARE DOCUMENTED FACTS. "LEWDNESS, AND LUST DON'T BECOME "SANCTIFIED" BECAUSE IT HAS BEEN BROUGHT INTO MATRIMONY. THEY ARE STILL "LEWDNESS", PERVERSION AND LUST, ONLY NOW, WITIN THE CONFINES OF MARRIAGE.<br />
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WHAT ARE YOU TIED TO?
tag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2009-06-18:916966:Topic:816002
2009-06-18T05:47:09.506Z
Spirit
http://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/FirstLady
THE MYSTERY OF "SOUL TIES" HAS BEEN A POINT OF INTEREST FOR MANY BELIEVERS OVER THE PAST FEW DECADES, AND IT IS A SUBJECT WORTH INVESTIGATING AND EXPLORING. "MAN" AS WE KNOW IS A TRIUNE BEING, IN THAT MAN IS A SPIRIT, HE LIVES IN A BODY, POSSESSES A SOUL. THAT WHICH WE CULTIVATE THE MOST IS THE ASPECT OF OUR BEING THAT WILL IDENTIFY AND GUIDE US. WE WERE DESIGNED TO OPERATE, APPROPRIATELY, IN OUR EMOTIONS AND NOT FOR OUR EMOTIONS TO BE "OPERATING US." THE "SOUL" IS THE REALM OF THE EMOTIONS AND…
THE MYSTERY OF "SOUL TIES" HAS BEEN A POINT OF INTEREST FOR MANY BELIEVERS OVER THE PAST FEW DECADES, AND IT IS A SUBJECT WORTH INVESTIGATING AND EXPLORING. "MAN" AS WE KNOW IS A TRIUNE BEING, IN THAT MAN IS A SPIRIT, HE LIVES IN A BODY, POSSESSES A SOUL. THAT WHICH WE CULTIVATE THE MOST IS THE ASPECT OF OUR BEING THAT WILL IDENTIFY AND GUIDE US. WE WERE DESIGNED TO OPERATE, APPROPRIATELY, IN OUR EMOTIONS AND NOT FOR OUR EMOTIONS TO BE "OPERATING US." THE "SOUL" IS THE REALM OF THE EMOTIONS AND "MATTERS OF THE HEART". WE WERE FASHIONED TO BE "PAIRED" WITH A MATE, AND THERE'S AN INATE "SEARCHING" AND YEARNING FOR THE MANIFESTATION OF OUR EXISTENCE, BEING YOKED TO THAT DESIGNATED HUSBAND/WIFE. UNFORTUNATELY, IMPATIENCE IS PART OF OUR NATURE TOO, AND AS WE AGE AND MATURE, THE DESIRING OF A COMPANION RISES TO THE SURFACE OF OUR EXISTENCE MORE AND MORE, AND SOME DEMONSTRATE OR VERBALIZE THIS CRAVING MORE THAN OTHERS. AS WE JOURNEY DEEPER INTO LIFE, WE BEGIN "TESTING THE WATERS", EXPERIMENTING, AND OFTEN, PURSUING THE FULFILLMENNT OF OUR DESIRED DESTINY OF ACQUIRING OUR 'COMPANION" AND MATRIMONY. UNLESS WE'VE BEEN BLESSED WITH THEWISDOM OF THE AGES EARLY IN LIFE, WE, UNFORTUNATELY ENTER INTO ILLEGAL "COVENANTS" AND BIND OURSELVES TO THE SOULS, SPIRITS AND BODIES OF A NUMBER OF "BEINGS" IN OUR SEEKING TO ATTAIN WHAT GOD IS IN CONTROL OF,IF WE WOULD BE STILL AND ALLOW HIM. CONSEQUENTLY, WE BEGIN TO EVOLVE AS SEMI-SCHIZOPHRENIC MEN AND WOMEN, FRAGMENTED AND SPLIT INTO SO MANY DISPOSITIONS AND BEHAVIOUR PATTERNS, SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO THINK REAL HARD TO REMEMBER WHO WE "USED" TO BE, BECAUSE WE'VE ABSORBED AND EMBRACED THE ESSENCE OF SO MANY OTHERS, THUS THE FORMATION OF ILLEGAL "SOUL TIES". "AND WHEN THEY DREW NIGH UNTO JERUSALEM, AND WERE COME INTO BETHPHAGE ,UNTO THE MOUNT OF OLIVES, THEN SENT JESUS TWO DISCIPLES, SAYING UNTO THEM, "GO INTO THE VILLAGE OVER AGAINST YOU, AND STRAIGHTWAY, YE SHALL FIND AN "ASS" TIED, ANDA COLT WITH HER: LOOSE THEM, AND BRING THEM UNTO ME." WHAT ARE YOU TIED TO? IS IT A "COLT" OR ARE YOU TIED TO.............? IF THE MEMORIES AND RESIDUE OF FORMER TOXIC, OR UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS HAVE YOU STRUGGLING FOR FREEDOM AND THE ABILITY TO REMAIN FREE, OR IF THEY ARE INVADING YOUR THOUGHTS, OTHER RELATIONSHIPS AND HINERING YOUR JOURNEY INTO GOD AND YOUR PREORDAINED DESTINY, THEN YOU'RE NOT TIED TO A "COLT". COLTS REPRESENT "YOUTH AND THEREFORE HOPE AND PROMISE, WHERE AN "ASS" IS A STUBBORN, CONTRARY, PROMISCOUS" CREATURE, AND FARES BETTER WHEN IT IS YOKED TO ANOTHER "ASS". "THOU SHALT NOT PLOW WITH AN ASS AND A COLT TOGETHER" DEUT. 22:10. IS YOUR"PLOW" STUCK IN MUD, CAUSING YOU TO LOSE MOMENTUM, AND TO SEPARATE YOU FROM THE LOVE OF GOD? ARE YOU AT A STAND STILL, HAVING LOST YOUR ZEAL, JOY, PASSION AND FOCUS? WHAT ARE YOU TIED TO? IF THE IMAGE OR REMINISCING OF FORMER RELATIONS AND SITUATIONS PROVOKE UNDESIRABLE EMOTIONS IN YOU, AND THEY ASSAULT YOU AGAINST YOUR WILL, YOU'RE NOT TIED TO A COLT! IF THESE FORMER RELATIONSHIPS AND CIRCUMSTANCES "CALL TO YOU" NO MATTER HOW YOU TRY TO RESIST, MOST LIKELY, YOU'RE TIED TO AN"ASS". IF YOU ARE ALWAYS COMPARING FORMER RELATIONSHIPS OR PAST PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS ( FORMER HUSBAND, FORMER CHURCH, FORMER HOME, FRIENDS, ETC.)TO WHO OR WHAT'S IN YOUR LIFE, TODAY, NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY NOT TO, YOU'RE NOT TIED TO A COLT!. IF THESE PAST RELATIONSHIPS CAN STILL MANEUVER, MANIPULATE AND CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIOUR, YOU'RE NOT TIED TO A COLT! ARE YOU MISERABLE AND IN DESPAIR BECAUSE YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO MOVE ON OR GET PASS THE AFTERMATH OF CERTAIN RELATIONSHIPS, EVEN WHEN YOU HAVE BEEEN INVOLVED IN SEVERAL RELATIONSHIPS (NATURAL AND SPIRITUAL) SINCE YOUR ENCOUNTER WITH THEM? DO YOU FIND YOURSELF SPEAKING AS THEY DID, ACTING AS THEY DID, AND WITH THE SAME EXPECTATIONS THAT YOU HAD WHEN YOU WER INVOLVED WITH THEM? I REMEMBER AN R&B SONG FROM SOME YAEARS AGO THAT SAID "YOUR BODY'S HERE WITH ME BUT YOUR MIND IS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF TOWN" DOES THAT RING A BELL FOR YOU? THIS TOPIC HAS A DOUBLE REFERENCE, BECAUSE EVEN AS IT FITLY PERTAINS TO THE RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN, IT ALSO PARALELLS OUR COVENANT RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, AND EXPERIEINCES WE GO THROUGH WHILE NAVIGATING OUR JOURNEYS IN "CHURCH/MINISTRY. ARE YOU TIED TO AN "ASS"? IF SO, RENOUNCE IT TODAY, REPENT FOR ALLOWING YOUR LIFE TO GET OUT OF PROPER ALIGNMENT WITH GOD AND HIS PLANS FOR YOU, AND PRAY A "BLOOD" BARRIER BETWEEN YOU AND EVERY FORMER ILLEGAL SOUL TIE, AND ALLOW GOD TO "CAUTERIZE"/BURN THE EDGES, SO THERE'LL BE NO RECONNECTION. THERE'S A PROCEDURE CALLED "TUBAL LIGATION" IN WHICH A WOMAN UNDERGOES THE SEVERING OR DISCONNECTION OF HER FALLOPIAN TUBES FROM THE WOMB, AS A FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL, BECAUSE THE SEVERING OF THE TUBES PREVENTED ANY "NEW LIFE" FROM BEING PASSED TO AND IMPLANTED IN THE WOMB. TO INSURE THIS, AFTER THE SEVERING, THE EDGES ARE "BURNED". THIS IS THE SAME PROCEDURE REQUIRED IF ONE IS TO BE FOREVER FREE FROM "OLD LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES" COMING TO LIFE AGAIN IN OUR SOULS, BUT BEFORE THE SEVERING, ONE HAS TO IDENTIFY THE SOURCE OF THEIR BONDAGE. WHAT ARE YOU TIED TO?<br />
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THE INVISIBLE WOMAN
tag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2009-06-17:916966:Topic:811797
2009-06-17T07:06:22.724Z
Spirit
http://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/FirstLady
There dwells amongst us, as Christ's "Church" , a population of people who are often neglected, overlooked, pushed to the side,walked over, and dismissed as just being the much celebrated "man of God's" "GOOD THING", and some are covertly referred to as "arm pieces", to help "Pastor"/"Bishop" look good and to facilitate "his" vision or ministry. She is fondly (sometimes", and sometimes not) known as "FIRST LADY"! Many forget or never consider that she is a chosen vessel as well, and that she…
There dwells amongst us, as Christ's "Church" , a population of people who are often neglected, overlooked, pushed to the side,walked over, and dismissed as just being the much celebrated "man of God's" "GOOD THING", and some are covertly referred to as "arm pieces", to help "Pastor"/"Bishop" look good and to facilitate "his" vision or ministry. She is fondly (sometimes", and sometimes not) known as "FIRST LADY"! Many forget or never consider that she is a chosen vessel as well, and that she has a "voice", a hope and a "calling", and even more importantly that she has a relevance to and in God and His kingdom beyond being able to seriously wear a suit or "hang" a hat! Many people complain about this precious vessel because of her stand-offish or curt disposition, and some are often labeled "distant, unapproachable, controlling, and "contrary". Truth be told, sometimes they are absolutely correct, but has anyone ever taken the time to examine THEIR lives, and what it means to be THEM? These precious sisters have to deal with the "Pastor's alter ego" you'll probably never get to see, the one who disrespects her, condesceands, flirts with every sister at the church, and yet, neglects, takes for granted, and ignores her, or the one she has to watch grin real chummily with every sister at the church, but has no affection or kindness for her. She has to contend with all of his schizophrenic mood swings and his salty personality and continue to "grin and bear it", and cling to his arm with a "kool-aid" smile until the saints go marching home.. Then there are those who are the victims of domestic violence, mental, verbal, and sexual abuse and are secret "punching bags" of these very same tongue talking, fire-baptized , highly celebrated men of God, pretend that they don't know why several of the youngest "parishoners" have a striking resemblance to "Pastor", and still try to be the "virtous woman" he demands and expects, while enduring the criticism and persecution of the congregation, bcause her emotions, sometimes, spill over and she "reacts" to the chaos that is her life.There yet remains those who are mightily anointed but whose gifts are quenched, and bound up because all their mates will permit them to do is to address the "womenfolk" on "women's day", or perhaps have a word or two during anniversary time, and she had better sing his praises to the high heavens! These women suffer even more intensely, because they are in a perpetual state of "travailing to bring forth", and they face one spiritual "abortion" or "miscarriage" after another. They suffer from what I call "divine constipation", in that they have so much "Word" and purpose inside of them, but never a platform or outlet for it, and so it builds and swells until it becomes an "inflammation" or "toxic". Naturally, when one can not release all that one has eaten or ingested over a period of time, one's disposition certainly changes, and a "chain reaction" of nausea, vomiting, headaches, skin eruptions, gas and a number of other undesirable side effects evolve, potentially, ending in surgical intervention, because "what's in you SHALL come out, one way or the other! This is not to say that this is the situation with all pastoral couples, but it is far too common. Imagine having the man that you love being stretched and split seven diffferent ways from Sunday, tending to the emergencies of others, comforting others, counselling, til all hours others, on the phone for hours with others, not to mention the assorted funerals,weddings, conferences, conventions, summit meetimgs, board meetings, etc., and often, you're left behind with the kids, or for whatever reason. Imagine having to watch "bold" women flaunting themselves in YOUR Husband's face, stepping over you (without an utterance of "HI") to get in your husband's face, calling your home at all hours with piddling excuses, always needing a "word: with the man of God regarding issues better suited to discuss with you, anyway, and having your opinions or authority circumvented. Imagine having to swallow your pride to keep the peace because some (Jez-e-tell) is always complaining about you, lying on you, or falsely accusing you to your husband, and he either takes their side or makes excuses for them! These are the very real scenarioes that these chosen vessels live through every single day, so the next time "first lady" seems out of sorts, why not "bring her before the throne of grace" in earnest intercession and prayer. Better yet, if as much time was spent fervently interceding for her as was spent "travailing" for "Pastor", the devil would be on the run in their lives! FIRST LADIES, EVERYWHERE, THIS ONE IS FOR YOU!!!! You will not remain "INVISIBLE WOMEN, BECAUSE WE SEE YOU!!<br />
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