Black Preaching Network2024-03-28T13:12:22ZVirtuous Ladyhttp://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/VirtuousLadyhttp://storage.ning.com/topology/rest/1.0/file/get/61467505?profile=RESIZE_48X48&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1http://abcpreachers.ning.com/group/forsingles/forum/topic/listForContributor?user=117q80e6zeaof&feed=yes&xn_auth=noRed Flags- An Explorationtag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2010-09-06:916966:Topic:15687142010-09-06T02:44:12.640ZVirtuous Ladyhttp://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/VirtuousLady
<font size="4">Red Flags- An Exploration of dating do's and don'ts!<br></br>
Here are a few signs that will let you know whether or not you are<br />
talking to someone who is a good match or not! These are a few rules<br />
that i have chosen to share from my own experience. <br></br>
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1. Email and Chatting.<br></br>
He/She sends you a note asking for your phone number or email address.<br />
He calls and you talk to 10 minutes. He emails you later and wants to<br />
chat online. Does he/she stand a chance as a prospective…</font>
<font size="4">Red Flags- An Exploration of dating do's and don'ts!<br/>
Here are a few signs that will let you know whether or not you are<br />
talking to someone who is a good match or not! These are a few rules<br />
that i have chosen to share from my own experience. <br/>
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1. Email and Chatting.<br/>
He/She sends you a note asking for your phone number or email address.<br />
He calls and you talk to 10 minutes. He emails you later and wants to<br />
chat online. Does he/she stand a chance as a prospective mate?<br/>
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No, i don't think so. More often than not, he wants to live out his<br />
fantasy about having cybersex (Phone Sex) with you. (he can have lots of<br />
porn staring him in the face while chatting with you.) <br/>
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2. Phone calls.<br/>
He/She calls and you start to talk. Five minutes go by and you haven't<br />
gotten a word in edgewise. Will you be talking again soon?<br/>
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Absolutely not! He/She is very self-centered and is not into you. <br/>
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3. Changes in your appearance or lifestyle. He/She wants you to change<br />
anything- ie. shaving you pubic area, what to wear around them, how you<br />
should act around them.<br/>
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Tell them "Thanks but no thanks!"<br/>
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4. First Dates.<br/>
He/She calls and you set a date for your first visit together. <br/>
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Make sure to plan to meet in a public place. If you go to lunch, be<br />
prepared to pay for your own lunch on the first date. By no means allow<br />
them to come to your place on the first date. <br/>
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If he/she doesn't call the next day, it means they didn't find you<br />
attractive enough and they never will call back. Move on and don't look<br />
back!<br/>
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Additional Red Flags<br/>
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If they constantly wants to talk about sex.<br/>
If they have issues like getting angry quickly.<br/>
If they are overly possesive of you even before marriage.<br/>
If they want to isolate you from family and friends.<br/>
If they shows any signs of potentially abusive behaviors!<br/>
If they are not spiritually compatable ie. they are a babe in Christ and<br />
you are a seasoned saint for example. If you can't encourage him or her<br />
to get into a bible based church or a bible study, they are not for<br />
you.<br/>
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If he or she calls you any term of endearment within the first 3 phone<br />
calls- Baby, Honey, Dear(est), Sweetie, Wifey, Shugga, Pretty,<br />
Beautiful, Lovely, etc!<br/>
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Be careful, watchful and prayerful!</font> Christian Dating Sitestag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2010-08-10:916966:Topic:14837232010-08-10T00:22:17.657ZVirtuous Ladyhttp://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/VirtuousLady
<p align="center">Is it appropriate for Christians to have profiles on Christian Dating Sites? Is it possible to meet an appropriate mate online?</p>
<p align="center">Is it appropriate for Christians to have profiles on Christian Dating Sites? Is it possible to meet an appropriate mate online?</p> Urge to Mergetag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2010-03-14:916966:Topic:12566642010-03-14T06:07:22.809ZVirtuous Ladyhttp://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/VirtuousLady
When your love for God outweighs your urge to merge, you are walking pure. More singles related articles on <a href="http://www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com">www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com</a>
When your love for God outweighs your urge to merge, you are walking pure. More singles related articles on <a href="http://www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com">www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com</a> Falling in Lovetag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2009-04-28:916966:Topic:6561922009-04-28T00:42:30.152ZVirtuous Ladyhttp://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/VirtuousLady
So many divorces in the body of Christ. Really the issue is not divorce but one of marrying wrong. In prayer and meditation one day the Holy Spirit spoke concerning this: He said, "If my people would fall in love from the inside out, there wouldn't be any divorces in the Body of Christ. Wow! I love that. We are spiritual people, we should be getting to know each other's real person, the hidden man of the heart - our spirit. Food for thought. …
So many divorces in the body of Christ. Really the issue is not divorce but one of marrying wrong. In prayer and meditation one day the Holy Spirit spoke concerning this: He said, "If my people would fall in love from the inside out, there wouldn't be any divorces in the Body of Christ. Wow! I love that. We are spiritual people, we should be getting to know each other's real person, the hidden man of the heart - our spirit. Food for thought. <a href="http://www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com">www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com</a> Christian Nightclubs?????????tag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2008-09-28:916966:Topic:1692602008-09-28T20:53:56.095ZVirtuous Ladyhttp://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/VirtuousLady
I have recently heard of these new clubs called Christian nightclubs. Christian and nightclub? How can we use these two words together? There is no such thing!!! This is a ploy of the enemy to get all of us young and old off the path that God has for us. What a tragedy for Christians to fall for such a trap. Christians, we should no better.<br></br><br></br>First: Nightclub? Where should we be and what should we be focused on, on the weekends? Gathering together for corporate worship, Hebrews 10:25,…
I have recently heard of these new clubs called Christian nightclubs. Christian and nightclub? How can we use these two words together? There is no such thing!!! This is a ploy of the enemy to get all of us young and old off the path that God has for us. What a tragedy for Christians to fall for such a trap. Christians, we should no better.<br/><br/>First: Nightclub? Where should we be and what should we be focused on, on the weekends? Gathering together for corporate worship, Hebrews 10:25, Psalm 92:13-14 and Matthew 9:35-36. It was Jesus custom to go to the synagogue on the Sabbath, Luke 4:15-16, Matthew 4:23, Matthew 12:9, Matthew 13:34, Mark 1:21, Mark 1:29, Mark 3:1, and Mark 6:2. If it was Jesus custom then shouldn’t it be ours? Some may say, “Well, it was His custom because He was a teacher, I am not.” Who did He teach? People like you who aren’t a teacher, as well as those who were teachers.<br/><br/>If we stay out all hours of the night, we are not going to be able to connect with the Spirit, to be able to receive the Word that is being preached, which will contain answers for our lives. Most likely, we will walk out of the service the same way we came. Our main focus, as Christians, should be to advance the Kingdom of God, pressing toward the Mark of the prize of the high call, Philippians 3:14. Can we have fun and fellowship while on this journey? Of course, but it’s the God kind of fun. What fruit will it produce to dance to Christian music, with the opposite sex, into the late hours of the night? There is something about being out late at night, with the opposite sex, that lends to sexual behavior. First of all, you are up way past your normal bedtime, which makes you vulnerable to yield, because you are tired. II Corinthians 2:1 tells us that we, as Christians, are not ignorant of the enemies devices. Ephesians 4:27 tells us to not give the enemy place. II Corinthians 6:17 tells us to come out from among them (the world) and be ye separate. Now listen, there are many more scriptures but I will stop with these. I think I have made my point.<br/><br/>What would Jesus do? He came to earth to show us how to do it. He never got involved in such things. He ate with sinners, but not for fellowship, it was because they needed a spiritual doctor to resurrect them. Don’t BE deceived!!! So called Christian nightclubs are a way for the natural man (human), who doesn’t want to grow up, who likes his carnality, to justify his sin. There is no such thing as a Christian nightclub. It’s the devil’s disguise to ware you down. It’s his slow cooker for Christians. While you are cooking, all of hell is standing around the pot laughing, and having a nightclub party of their own, while you die.<br/><br/>Christian fellowship is Christian fellowship because of a Christian atmosphere. Christian fellowship is filled with the Holy Spirit. I would not want to spend the evening in a night club with people I don’t know, nor would I want to spend an evening watching 4 hours of television. It’s not just an atmosphere issue, it’s a “waste of time” issue as well. My entire focus is fulfilling my call and purpose which is a specific assignment to advance the kingdom of God, to bring in the precious fruit of the earth, (the lost). We need to be focused on filling up with spiritual things. Which includes, fellowship with like minded people, whether it be at an amusement park or a church activity within the church etc. There is a big difference between an amusement park and a nightclub, whether the nightclub be no alcohol, no secular music, or what have you, there is a difference. We all have a desire for fellowship. We were created with that desire. It’s a hunger within for fellowship; without it we can get restless and lonely, which can be a distraction from the things of God. Those who hunger and thirst after the righteousness of God will be filled, Matthew 5:6. Filled with what? Filled with the righteousness of God, which is His way of doing and being right. What you are hungry for is what you will be filled with. I believe these nightclubs labeled “Christian” will cause you to develop and appetite for the world because they are flavored with the world. They have artificial flavoring, if you will. The more you give yourself to spiritual things, the greater your appetite for spiritual things will be and vice versa.<br/><br/>Philippians 2:1-2<br/>If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies,<br/>Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.<br/><br/>Apostle Paul is saying, “Fulfill ye my joy…” How do we do this? By the fellowship of the Spirit, with likeminded people who love each other as Christ loves us, in one accord, of mind.<br/><br/>We cannot have fellowship of the Spirit with the world (people who think like the world).<br/><br/>We need to be leading the world, not the world leading us. The church needs to be setting the standard not the world.<br/><br/>I have made my point, take heed, do not be deceived. It matters where you spend your time, and with whom. <a href="http://www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com">www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com</a> Single and Devotedtag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2008-09-22:916966:Topic:1631092008-09-22T02:14:12.557ZVirtuous Ladyhttp://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/VirtuousLady
<i>The word Single in the original language means “Whole.”</i><br></br><br></br>Singles need to learn submission before they get married. Submission to the Father, the word of God and respect towards others.<br></br><br></br><i>I Corinthians 7:35</i><br></br><br></br>Single people can attend to God without distraction. Single people need to spend this time of singleness being totally devoted to serving God.<br></br><br></br>Many spend more time looking for a mate to find fulfillment then serving God. This is selfishness –…
<i>The word Single in the original language means “Whole.”</i><br/><br/>Singles need to learn submission before they get married. Submission to the Father, the word of God and respect towards others.<br/><br/><i>I Corinthians 7:35</i><br/><br/>Single people can attend to God without distraction. Single people need to spend this time of singleness being totally devoted to serving God.<br/><br/>Many spend more time looking for a mate to find fulfillment then serving God. This is selfishness – self-preservation. Some even dismiss God to find a mate.<br/><br/>Baggage comes from trying to fulfill yourself while single.<br/><br/>Apostle Paul was single “whole.” Paul said he would that we would be like him single and devoted.<br/><br/>We need to be busy about the Father’s business trusting Him to for a mate. We can express our desire for a mate and what we desire in a mate but then go on with serving God.<br/><br/>Those who dismiss God to find a mate are insecure. Don’t marry insecurity. You must discover who you are before you choose a mate. Those who are insecure have no real revelation of their identity.<br/><br/>When you spend time devoted to God this will keep you from sexual sin.<br/><br/>Your manifestation of a mate comes by busying yourself about the things of God.<br/><br/>Singleness will work for you when you devote yourself to the things of God.<br/><br/>YOU MUST HAVE STANDARDS. With no standards you will settle for anything.<br/><br/>Trust God for your mate. He uses relationships to show you, you are loved.<br/><br/>God rewards you for seeking Him not for seeking a wife, husband or riches etc.<br/><br/><em>Matthew 6:33<br/>But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things taken together will be given you besides. </em> <a href="http://www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com">www.solidfrontforchrist.us.com</a> Live Sober and Be Vigilent www.solidfrontforchrist.us.comtag:abcpreachers.ning.com,2008-09-15:916966:Topic:1593632008-09-15T19:56:55.145ZVirtuous Ladyhttp://abcpreachers.ning.com/profile/VirtuousLady
<i>I Peter 5:8<br></br>
Be well balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times; for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour.</i><br></br>
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I love the words sober and vigilant. Intoxicated would be the opposite of sober. We all know that when you are intoxicated you can’t see straight, think straight, or walk straight. The most dangerous thing about being intoxicated is that you think…
<i>I Peter 5:8<br/>
Be well balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times; for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour.</i><br/>
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I love the words sober and vigilant. Intoxicated would be the opposite of sober. We all know that when you are intoxicated you can’t see straight, think straight, or walk straight. The most dangerous thing about being intoxicated is that you think you can do all of these things like normal. That is why drunken people get behind the wheel of a car, they have no idea how out of balance they are. With intoxication, comes deception.<br/>
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Many times we Christians get intoxicated with trials, storms, and wrong emotions. Infatuation is a big one for single people.<br/>
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For those who date online or conventional this is a biggie. Many think they have heard from God concerning marrying someone when they haven’t. The truth is they are intoxicated by the idea of marrying that person.<br/>
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<i>I Peter 1:13<br/>
Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ;</i> Romans 7:23<br/>
But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.<br/>
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This passage translate “gird up the life giving power of your imagination.” We can see from this passage how powerful the mind is. God puts things in our spirit, our spirit communicates it to our mind and it is with the mind or imagination that we birth what we conceived supernaturally by the Spirit.<br/>
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<i>Psalms 37:4, John 15:7, Colossians 3:16,</i><br/>
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Satan can only communicate to our mind, God communicates to our spirit. Satan does not have access to our spirit except for through our mind. We can believe something that the enemy has told us, using our imagination to see the thing, it then becomes a part of our spirit and we think God put it there.<br/>
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In the case of singles looking for a mate this happens quite often. Two people meet, they connect and become intoxicated with infatuation. Because they are intoxicated they can’t see straight, they can’t hear well, and their daily walk becomes off balance. Their imagination goes to work giving life to something that may seem like a good thing, but is certainly, not a God thing. Later into the marriage or further into the relationship on the other side of intimacy, after the infatuation is gone many couples find that there is nothing there between them. Intoxication is a dangerous thing because of the deception that is attached.<br/>
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<i>Genesis 11</i> is a good example of the power of the imagination. The Babylonians used the power of their imagination to build a tower to the sky to reach heaven. God did not put that in their spirit. That was put into their mind by Satan through pride. God said, “Let us go down and see what they have built. “ There isn’t any record that they had actually built the tower, but God saw the blue print in their minds, and how powerful they are in using their imagination. He could not allow them to do such a thing, so He stopped their communication with each other. You can’t reach God through fleshly means.<br/>
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<i>Psalm 62:11<br/>
God hath spoken once; twice have I heard this; that power belongeth unto God.</i><br/>
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This passage says that he heard twice. There is nothing wrong with double checking. When you are facing a life changing decision I believe God appreciates us desiring to make sure we are in His will.<br/>
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When I hear from God about something, I immediately pray in the spirit, until I get peace that I have heard from God. I need clarity before I will allow myself to think about it. Many times the enemy speaks to us sounding just like God. When we listen and don’t follow peace, we veer off of the road and end up in a ditch.<br/>
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<i>Colossians 3:15</i> tells us to let the peace of God be the umpire in our hearts calling the shots. When I pray in the spirit I shut my mind down to the thought or idea. I do not want my mind to produce anything that is not God. I first make sure it is of God before I allow my mind to produce it.<br/>
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<i>II Corinthians 10:5</i> tells us to cast down all thoughts (imaginations) that exalt themselves above God. Why? Because the power of the imagination is so great that it will produce whatever we are thinking about. What you look at the longest becomes the strongest.<br/>
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The word vigilant means to be awake and alert. We must be ever ready to respond to the Word of God. Being awake to His voice and spiritual things. In this state of mind we can see right, hear right, and think right, resulting in living right being able to make those quality decisions that will bring increase to our life and the Kingdom of God.<br/>
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Our spirit man should be the one governing our lives let’s endeavor to be sober and alert letting the peace of God rule and act as an umpire from within our spirit.<br/>
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In the state of intoxication, which is being off balance, we are open prey to the enemy. He will devour.<br/>
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Be vigilant and live sober.