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Comment by Pastor Olori Godwin on September 18, 2010 at 9:30am

For the Married, Thinking about Marriage, and the Divorced - A MUST READ!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.

So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6

Send in your comment to dkterencepastorg@yahoo.com, +2348036726337.
Pastor Olori Godwin

Comment by YOUNG PROPHET BENJAMIN on September 18, 2010 at 3:47am

Everyone is blessed and covered by the blood of the lamb.

Amen

BEN

Comment by YOUNG PROPHET BENJAMIN on September 18, 2010 at 3:36am

I am much happy yo be a great partaker in this group. God shall surely be our guard in this Kingdom Apostles Worldwide.

Thanks to you all.

Comment by Ambassador for Christ on September 16, 2010 at 6:37pm

God bless thisgroup and the brothers and sisters in the Kingdom of God within! I pray the blessings of the Lord upon the remainder of your day in Jesus name!

Comment by Janice Fountaine on September 13, 2010 at 9:57pm

Comment by Pastor Olori Godwin on September 11, 2010 at 8:55am

What a privilege to be a part of this group. Friends,You must learn to train for what God has already told you is coming. You don’t need to worry about whether or not it is going to come. If He has promised that it is coming, then it is. Yet you must stay on course if you’re going to follow the work God has called you to do. Stay in the seat where God has placed you, put on your seat belt, and hang on until He brings the vision/miracle to pass. It will be realized, but you must wait on Him
We ask God, “Why do I need to go this way? I don’t like this route.” He answers that the route is going to do two things for us:
 Develop our character.
 Produce responsibility in us

We think that, just because we’re going through difficult times, God has stopped working to fulfill our purposes. Yet they are still coming. God is working on us, preparing us for our purposes through the process. However, we often sit back and say, “Why is it taking so long? Why do I have to go through all this?” That attitude of complaint and lack of faith is exactly what God is trying to work out of you. He doesn’t want you to go into your promised land dragging bad attitudes behind you. He is working for your good.

Submit yourself to your job, learn what you’re supposed to learn, and get all the knowledge that you can from it, because you’re going to move on in a little while remember that your miracle is on the way.

Please, if this piece of exhortation has blessed your life. Please get in touch with me or send in your comment. And for more information you can contact me at
E-mail: dkterencepastorg@yahoo.com, pastorgodwin@gmail.com.
Telephone: +2348036726337, +2348183128166, +2348078705265, +2348120382939.

Yours

Olori Godwin
(Pastor)

Comment by Cameron Ross on September 9, 2010 at 4:17am

Gospel Jazz Saxophonist Cameron Ross

Comment by Evg. Martha M. Barnes on September 9, 2010 at 12:23am

Greetings and Salutations. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. It is my prayer that we will be about our fathers business -- redeeming the time for the days are evil.

Comment by Paul Thomas on September 2, 2010 at 12:40pm

Greetigns Apostle Many thanks for your kind invite. It's a pleasure to join men and women with faith and insight here on Kingdom Apostles. I look forward to learning more of your work here and pray for a mega success in all that you set your hands too. The Lord bless you always.

Comment by Prophet Karen E. McCray on August 27, 2010 at 4:52pm

Greet you with the joy of Jesus. Look forward to meeting you. Going down to KAW service this evening. Hope you can join us for the Gate to the City Prophetic Conference in October 2010. To learn more go to www.gatetothecity.com/
Apostle Fontaine is one of our speakers

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