Can You Give 10 Points On How To Keep A Marriage Alive?

[Rabbis Aviyah Byers]

Rabbi and I have been married for 30 years. Can you think of 10 points on how to keep your marriage alive? If you can't would you like to know?

[Rev Dorian McKinney]

I have only been married for a little over two years and I definately won't to know

[Rabbis Aviyah Byers]

Shalom!

In this country the number of divorce cases increased in the early 1970s and, they continue to escalate. Today, almost half of all marriages end in divorce. Out of people who marry again in the United States, 70% will file for divorce again. Approx. 2,240,000 get married within a year.

The Barna Group, a research organization focusing on the state of faith and spirituality in the United States, released new statistics on marriage and divorce today:
4 in 5 of us will be married at least once
1 in 3 will be divorced at least once

We know of television ministers that were married at the start of 2008 but by the winter were filing for divorce. The divorce rate in Believers is just as high as secular marriages. WHAT ARE WE DOING?
I don't think that Father All Mighty is happy with this...but He is definitely showing us where this is heading and if things don't change with His people it will continue to get worse.

1. Accountability - Man is accountable to Yahweh and woman is accountable to her husband. I am sooooo tired of going to weddings hearing the Preacher take out the word "Submit" and replace it with the same words that are given to the (man) priest of the house to say. Remember we life in an upside kingdom, Yahweh's Kingdom is a Monarchy, not a democracy...He makes the rules and we get to obey them. We must understand the word submit, it is not negative...this world has made it that...Man submits to Yahweh and woman submits to her husband. This does not make a woman any less than what father has made her, it makes her better.

2. It takes two wholes to make 1 whole; two halves will not make a sound marriage. Each have to be certain of their place in the marriage and except what their lot is....I see to many couples in competition with each other...that is CRAZY...

3. In the Renewed Covenant the Scripture says that man is supposed to love his wife as Messiah Yahshuah (Jesus) loved the assembly (church). What did Messiah do for the assembly? He gave His Life...what ever it takes priests to run that house in Righteousness get to it. Men should not sit and wait for their wives to handle situations, she is meant to be the help meet (which also means against) why would Father use a word that seems to relate to division...in the 3rd chapter of Genesis Father said that He placed and enmity between the woman and the serpent, that means if a woman is Righteous she is an enemy of evil and it also means that He place a warning antennae within us...It's smart for a husband to listen to his wife on her views especially concerning people...

4. Since we are in this upside down kingdom, we must have a measuring tool that tells us what sin is. That measuring tool is the Scripture...all of it. I guarantee if your husband is walking according to Yahweh's Commandments, you will not have to worry about him coming home, keeping a job to pay bills or loving you like Messiah loved the assembly. Many have been tricked by the enemy who says we are no longer under Father's governing rules...remember we live in this world but are not of this world...our minds should be on Kingdom living and Father is the King...He makes the rules and we get to follow them...and we receive Blessings..it is a win-win situation.

5. I know of too many church marriages gone bust…can't stay together...especially in ministry. We have to return to our first love which are Yahweh's Commandments...the church is full of divorce because man is so far from Yahweh's original Covenant that it’s not funny...and then we want to stay married it's not going to happen. Yahweh say in Jeremiah 6 "ask for the 'old' path and walk therein, but they said we will not...that is what the church is saying today. Father is not going to allow us to live happily in a marriage when His bride is whoring after other gods. The church seeks after many pagan gods and the results are promiscuity continues to rise; homosexuality is rampant in the church; as we see from the stats above divorce is almost certain; and people stay in the prayer line every time they go to church. As couples we need to return to the Covenant of the Father walk in His Ways and He will give us the desires of our hearts. Seek how Messiah walked and walk like Him

6. The home should be the temple for the family, arguing, jealousy, hatred and angry should not have a place in your home. We can set the atmosphere by making the home a place of peace for our husbands and to ensure that our children watch us doing the right thing by not telling lies and living in deceit by not being truthful to our spouses we must maintain a spirit of love and trustworthiness. Remember children do 90% of what you do and listen to 10% of what you say.

7. Incorporate the Sabbath rest in your marriage…the Sabbath is the 7th day of the week and it is a restful time that you should spend with your family, not work and join with others to worship and study the Scripture. This is the day that the Father, Creator of the Universe rested on and was ‘refreshed’ it is the weekly season for the body to rest. Remember the Kingdom we live in is Monarchy …the day selected and appointed by Yahweh is the 7th day…your calendar will tell you what day that is..I am not giving you theology I’m giving Scripture and this has helped my family tremendously as we have not always been Sabbath keepers. Father tells us in 19 books and 145 verses to keep and set apart the 7th day and it is for a very good reason…He made our bodies and He knows when the optimal time of rest is. Bless each other… husband speak Proverbs 31 over her and wives speak Psalm 1 over him…it’s hard to curse someone who you bless every week! And make the Scriptures personal put each other’s name in place of woman or man. Men should give their wife’s body its sabbath rest when she has her monthly cycle…from the first spot for seven days do not touch intimately. This will prohibit any diseases that problem the plague women because husband think that anything goes because we are married…not so…over 600,000 hysterectomies are done in this country each year due to female problems, cervical cancer is crazy and now they want to give our baby girls shots to try and stop cervical cancer that is being passed on by boys…in Israel only 1% of women get cervical cancer…in this country where on an average do not mind the laws of a women’s separation 1 out of 3 women will have a hysterectomy by age 60. It also teaches a man discipline…there’s nothing wrong with that. Our bodies are like the earth if we let the ground lay untouched on the seventh year we would have more nutrients in our foods. So just like the earth if will follow the laws of separation our bodies will bring a good harvest.

8. Don’t sweat the small stuff…situations should be discussed, but ultimately the priest has the final say…even if we don’t agree on something I will tell my husband what I think and if he feels differently then I will say “ok…cause I know that Father is leading you and I trust your decision”…and if it doesn’t work you don’t say I told you so..let it go. And yes FORGIVE quickly it’s not worth holding to.

9. Build each other up and talk things out keep the line of communication open and listen to each other, learn to talk less and listen more. Take walks and talk, the things you did together when you are were not married, do those…(as long as they are in line with Scripture)

10. Love completely like you will not see each other again. I love to wait until Rabbi is asleep and bless him, we still hold hands when we are out and I still feel the same way when I see him as I did 30 years ago…he is my man forever

If you do these ten things I will guarantee you will see 30+ years with the love of your life.
Shalom and Blessings!

[Eemah Martha aka Hephzybah]

Todah to you, Achote AliYah for your wonderful teachings on keeping a wholesome marriage. Todah to you Rabbis Aviyah for the powerful tools for wholesome Yah Marriage. Please know that these will be reposted because they are teachings for our teens and young adults who will soon seek a spouse. To comply to those lessons or to apply the tools, it requires TWO WHOLE BEINGS to make one in a wholesome Yah ordained marriage. For this reason, I pray for our youth that they receive these teachings.

Those whose marriages are upside down can turn around, if both are willing to be whole. I will also share with two of my pastor friends who runs marriage retreats for their congregations. Another close pastor of mine has finally decided to have a marriage retreat for their church which is made up of nearly 90% of couples under age 30. This is a testimony to his father's teaching young men to be virtuous. Young men are drawn to their church and soon find wives. It is the most amazing church I have known but they do not do alot to nurture these young marriages and when the young women have issues and call on us, the older women, to give advice. We do our best to give insight... usually based on what we failed to do and in hindsight want them to succeed. Well to make a long story short, the pastor who has only been married six years himself have studied and decided to not only do the marriage retreats but to hold monthly marriage seminars. This I will share with him.

Let us touch and agree that every single spouse who reads this teaching will open his or her heart and receive every revelation that Abba's Ruwach sets forth. We implore this in Yahushua's merciful name. Amein.

Thank you so very much.

Shalom Shalom.

[Rabbis Aviyah Byers]

Shalom Eemah!

That is wonderful please do share with everyone. That's what we need to do is teach and give wise counsel to those coming up behind. Blessings and Shalom and please let me know how the Pastor's sessions go, I am so excited about that! Rabbi and I have been counseling couples for quite sometime now and it is always exciting to hear that truth is being passed on to help even more!

Praise Yah!