Getting through a marital Storm

[Carone Gordon]

Just need the prayers of all those here. Myself and my husband are having very tough time. I wont say much seeing the internet is what it is and even Pastors act without wisdom.

But please be praying for us.

[Sound of Judah Faith Ministry]

Woman of God,

Be encouraged during these challenging times. Know this, you are the apple of God's eye and precious in his sight. Your marriage is very important to the Father. These are difficult times for most of the believers. The enemy is aggressively trying to destroy marriages at all costs. We must keep our loving husbands held up in prayer at all times. Even when it appears nothing is wrong with the marital relationship.

It appears there are some who portray they love God, preach the word, lay hands on the afflicted but have secret affairs via the internet etc. They are yielding to a strongman of error which causes husbands or wives to be lead in a strong deception. They believe as long as their spouse is not aware of what they do or say that God is not paying attention to their actions. They forget, as clergy, their ungodly actions will affect everyone around them from their household to the church. A few of the areas under fire are infidelity, emotional, verbal and/or physical abuse, this too is a sin before the Father. The word of God admonishes husbands to love their wives and be not bitter with them that their prayers will not be hindered. If it is a scenario of being unequally yoked together with a not believer. The wife must stay close to God in order to pray break-through for her companions soul.

There are three hebrew terms I found interesting:

A'heb - to deep love, as God's constant love for his people in Jeremiah 31:3

Hesed - The intensity of the emotion generally depends on its subject and object. At times translated loving-kindness. Loving-kindness describes the bond of loyalty that exists between persons within the family or within other special relationships. The loyalty God exhibits to the people with whom he has established his covenant, it uses this word. See Exodus 34:6,7: "God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wicdkedness, rebellion and sin."

Raham - Compassion, the response of a person who cares deeply about the needs of this or her loved ones and or their continuing relationship with God, Exodus 33:19; Mic. 7; Zech. 1:16.

There is also another area of attack concerning marriage. According to the word of God in Genesis 2:24 "a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh". This is not always the case in marriage. There are those who will honor their mother more than their wife, allowing envy, competition, jealousy, strife and even the strongman abandonment to become an issue. As women we were made by God marvelously to crave headship from our spouses. We crave love, committment, fellowship and nurturing from our husbands. Once men mature they understand all soul ties to their parents must be broken instantly once married and transferred from parents to the spouse.

There is a new highly anointed christian movie at the video stores, FIRE PROOF, I highly recommend getting it. Watch it with your husband or alone. Give the LOVE DARE instruction guide a try. This blessed our home greatly. THIS MOVIE IS TOO POWERFULLY ANOINTED FOR WORDS. Remember if you choose not to stand for Jesus, you will fall for anything.

My sister, we will partner with you in spirit and intercede for your marriage and your husbands relationship with God and with you. You are invited to join our newly started web prayer group. Type in http://www.prayerwarrior4you.ning.com

Be encouraged!
Pastor Alecia Beam
Sound of Judah Faith Ministry
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[Evangelist Regina B. Howard]

Carone,

I will lift you and your husband in prayer. Make sure you are taking the time to invest in prayer for you all as well. It may be hard to pray some time but press past the frustration and release to God. Email me if you need me at [e-mail].

God bless,

Evangelist Regina Howard

[Preacher]

The Love of a wife unconditionally

Should she disobey her husband if he makes an unreasonable request? Should she disobey him if he forbids her to hang out this week end with her friends? what if he asks her to cancel her plans to see her mother this week end as she usually does? or not go to the baby shower?

A direct answer to these questions cannot be given until other factors are considered because actions in the wife’s life sometimes bring about distressing confrontations about fellowship. One big factor concerns the fact that the wife has a weapon she can use against her husband for which he has no defense whatsoever. The confrontation concerning fellowship may be his way of getting even with his wife for using this weapon him.

What is this powerful weapon? It is a weapon that the wife may wield without any deliberate malice towards her husband, and she might even employ it consciously to put him in his place. It is not a weapon of physical strength. Ordinarily the wife is physically much weaker than her husband in some way. It is the weapon of a lack of submission in the intimacy of the bedroom.

Suppose a husband is very thoughtless toward his wife. He may be quite cruel toward her. She can show her resentment toward him by reacting with cutting remarks, giving him the silent treatment, or similar treatment accorded to her by her husband. If she truly is saved, she realizes this kind of conduct is altogether rebellious against God.

Nevertheless, the husband can deal with these types of conduct. He can be more threatening. He can be more vicious in his verbal attacks on his wife. He might even resort to beating her. Since everyone who starts a fight wants to win the fight, the husband, too, wants to win.

Nothing is resolved by such exchanges between a husband and wife; the marriage is grievously threatened by them, and the husband feels equal to such challenges, insults, and treatment from his wife. Because he normally is physically the stronger of the two, he can feel that in some way he has won.

In the bedroom the wife has a weapon that can drive the husband wild. Even though he may be a cruel, thoughtless husband, he knows that the greatest joy he has ever experienced is when his wife lovingly gave herself to him in the intimacy of the bedroom. This intimacy is far more important to him than he realizes for God has fused him into one flesh with his wife. Therefore, anything that destroys the joy of that intimacy is a blow to the center of his manhood.

The problem is that in order to experience the joy and wonder of the marriage bed, his wife needs to have warm and loving thoughts towards her husband, and she finds herself incapable of reacting with loving submission to his advances in the marriage bed. She may try to avoid the marriage bed altogether; or if it looks like it cannot be avoided, she may be cold and unresponsive to his advances.

Soon she learns that nothing bewilders, hurts, and frustrates her husband more than her lack of loving submission to his advances. Because she cannot win the shouting match nor the test of physical strength, she may opt for


miserable pleasure in the fact that in the bedroom she can be the winner because nothing negative her husband does can force her to change. He can threaten, bully, or beat her, but this only makes his wife even more unresponsive to his advances, and as a result, deepens his frustrations and anger.

Without realizing it, the wife is laying the groundwork for another day of estrangement, quarreling, silent treatment, or cruelty which the husband uses to try to get even for the tremendous battle he lost in the bedroom. The husband and wife are not rationally thinking about what is happening. They are reacting with the intuition of the sinful tendencies that dwell within them.

The husband might strike back to even the score. What can he take from his wife that she loves the most? Aha! She is a Christian and always makes a big point of worshiping on the sabbath, or reading the children Bible stories. He knows how he can really hurt her. He will forbid her to do these things.

All her christian friends can see is an unregenerate tyrant of a husband who is in rebellion against God. They, of course, do not have the slightest idea of what is going on in the marriage bed.

Meanwhile, the wife goes about appearing to be a martyr and receiving the sympathies of her friends. She may not realize that her conduct in the marriage bed (as legitimate and logical as it may seem to her), is reprehensible to God. She is violating God’s rule that she is to be in quiet submission to her husband. She is violating God’s rule that she is to continuously forgive her husband. She is violating God’s rule that her body belongs to her husband.

The weapon of unresponsiveness in the marriage bed should never be used. It will drive the husband into the arms of another woman quicker than anything else. It will serve to destroy the marriage more quickly than anything else because it is tampering with God's design that makes the two one flesh.

On the other hand, consider the wife who loves the Lord and lives by God's rules Her unsaved husband may begin to wonder, "How can I be married to such a wonderful, forgiving, thoughtful woman?" He may become increasingly embarrassed by his own thoughtlessness and cruelty.


God Bless,