It is difficult for single ministers and pastors to meet other single ministers and pastors when the only places you go are church and ministry related functions. I have really found it difficult being a single female Ordained minister in the South and God knows I am wanting to position myself where I can be found but where is that? Any suggestions?

Views: 193

Replies to This Discussion

My name is Carmelia and I was born in Mississippi but relocated to Memphis, TN in 2001. I have been truly single
for almost 2 years and it seems as if God has me hidden. I am not the type to type seek, instead
I am positioning my own self. Its a bit hard because i feel as if I am an endangered specie at the
age of 35, never been married nor have children. Got any advice cause I am open to plenty of
suggestions and topics.
Minister Brown, God has not forgotten you. If you desire a godly mate and marriage God promises to give us the desires of our heart. I was just thinking about this the other day. Sometimes God does not give us our mates because either we are not ready as we need to be, or our mate isn't. In the meantime, I would like to recommend a resourse that I believe will bless you. Dr. Myles Munroe book, "The Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage". I read this book about 4 years ago and it changed my whole perspective on the marriage covenant. He also wrote, "Waiting and Dating". Begin to prepare yourself while you wait for your mate. Get educated on relationships. Unlearn some things we've learned. Heal from past hurts. Love and treat yourself like the Queen that you are. And trust that God has someone to cherish, love and adore you. And He will orchestrate the circumstances to bring you and your king together. Blessings.
That is a good question, but the obvious answer is to allow God to show you your mate. In his timing He will do just that.  Use the single season of your life to continue to grow and be about the business of God. I am a single minister also, i am also a leader of the single's ministry in my church, and I have an organization for single women.  I have wrestled with this question at times myself; but I had to learn that who you date and eventually marry is a major issue, one in which God has not forgotten.  For that reason it cannot be taken lightly, God will give you a mate that will help further the ministry and be a completion of what you need.  As a minister it will take a lot and you have to be patient, not anxious, when we are anxious for things we tend to make mistakes.  Trust God with this issue, believe me it is on His mind and He has someone especially for you.  But it's not just about you, it is also about His plan for you, so it may not come quickly, God has to work out all the details.  So let patience have its perfect work so that you and your mate will be complete lacking nothing.  I hope this helps.


I know this discussion is a year old, but I was so happy to find a place where this is being talked about.  I am recently divorced, after being married for 31 years.  I really appreciate all of your answers and thank God for the sisterhood.   God Bless You All!


I'm posting a year later but this has been my hearts cry for a while. I agree with what has already been said and have a testimony about moving ahead of God. I was 38, single, no kids, working in ministry strong and waiting on God for my mate but He seemed to be taking too long (in my eyes). It had been years since I dated so the thought of jumping out in the dating world was nowhere on my mind, but our words are powerful and I began to speak of how lonely I was and how I wanted the companionship and I got just what I spoke. A relationship from hell (covered up as a believer), he treated me like a queen and perused me hard all to find out he was a liar and a cheater……. didn't find this out until I was pregnant at the age of 40. My daughter is the best thing that has ever happened to me but her father is the worst. It is so important who we connect ourselves with; when we are anxious we become open prey to the enemy. The Bible tells us to be anxious for nothing but in prayer and supplications let our request be made known unto God.  I hope this blesses someone and encourage those waiting to keep our eyes and focus on Christ, let Him be that husband we so desire.


I am also a single minister in Nothern California.  Sometimes the online dating services are okay, if you are clear about who you are and what you're hoping for.  I research them on the internet BEFORE moving forward.  God Bless You!!


© 2024   Created by Raliegh Jones Jr..   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service