Does being a Minister's Wife mean being a Mannequin???

[Candice Houston]

ive just married into the ministry and i can say that it truly is a privelege. Im still shocked that God deemed me worthy enough to fill such a position. Ive been married for almost two months now and while i enjoy the some parts of my role, i am kind of uneasy about others. I feel as if i have to be this perfect example of a woman of God. While that ideally isnt a bad thing, i feel as if the people's idea of the pastor's/minister's wife is a bit twisted. i feel as if i must AT-ALL-TIMES wear a smile, look perfect, and always know what to say, when to say it, and how to say it. Its scary to me. Can anyone give those of us with this issue some guidance???

[First Lady China Wilson]

Coming from a Pastor's Wife: BE YOURSELF!! My promise to myself and God from the beginning has been that I will be me, allowing God to grow, nurture, and stretch me, but never succumbing to what people "thought" I should be. Trust me, people will know that you are being genuine when you are being yourself. Pray for wisdom - If someone comes to you and you are unsure of an answer, you can (A) tell them that you'll pray with them that God sends the answer, or (B) direct them to someone that you are sure will have the answer. Someone you trust that is also wise. Stay prayed up, often God will send us answers and the Holy Spirit will guide us in what to say (then we shock ourselves when we hear it come out of our mouths). LOL!! -Peach and Blessings

[Tara Robinson]

i can understand you fears of being young and a pastors wife i was chosen by god early in my walk to be an armor bearer to a pastors wife. i worked with her got to know her spiritual and she taught me a lot about ministry i watched and i learned the dos and don't and from that point i have always one way or another served pastors wife's. I said that to tell you don't put expections on your self there will always be concerns but allow god to shield you and keep you in his hiding place your focus should be on how to be the wife your husband needs learn your role in relationship to him trust god enjoy your marriage take it one day at a time and god will give you the help you need don't be in a rush just be your self as it was told to you already and let god worry about the rest. Hope this helps my sister.

[Eric Hancock]

I feel that there should be no pressure on a Preachers wife,,I have seen a lot of time where the Preacher is doing everything and once the wife start her Ministry here comes JEALOUSY..Sister you have to do what the Spirit ig guiding you to do..the ministry is not always in the PULPIT it could be caring and helping others in the shelters,daycare or having lunch with other sisters to discuss LIFES Issues.what people are looking for now is someone who is real NOT programed..by traditian or CLERGY..I would want a wife to stick my side while operating the Ministry,but the ministry have to be what God called her to do and not me..brother luckett said the truth when he said support your Husband,I KNOW more than anything that is what we really need and God knows it also

[Pastor Selena B. Cepeda]

God is saying get ready. However, when it is time, God will give the provision. He will not send you out there unprepared. You'll have a testimony to share with the congregants. Bless ya!!

[Candice Houston]

to be honest, i dont preach but i am at a stage in my life where i am afraid that this is part of my calling.... i say afraid because im young and am still finding myself. im still suprised that God is using me in this way at such an early age, but i always knew He had special plans for me, so right now, no, i dont preach.

[Pastor Selena B. Cepeda]

As a female Pastor, one of the things people love about me is that I am myself. However, there are only a few people that I will allow to get close to me because some couldn't handle the human side of a Pastor. Laughter is medicine and we shouldn't have to be so serious all the time in order to stay saved. Love and kindness draws people to your spirit, not being unreachable. It is important to know when and where. The question I have for you is, "do you preach?"