A sister asked the question, "How do you hold on living single as a Christian?"
First I would like to share the simple fact that I am and have been doing just that for a very long time. It can be done. Here is my PERSONAL testimony.
I had to TRULY grab a hold of and understand that the word of God says,
"Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them members of an harlot? God forbid."
"What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two saith he, shall be one flesh."
"But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication SINNETH AGAINST HIS OWN BODY.
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and YE are NOT your OWN?
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in you spirit, which are God's." (I Corinthians 6:15-20, King James Version)
These verses taught me how to love myself more which in return taught me HOW to LOVE God more. It was and is the desire of my heart to please, and honor God. Therefore, I honor my body as I honor the house of prayer because I understand that my BODY is the TEMPLE in which God's Holy Spirit dwells.

I Corinthians 7:34
"There is a difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the THINGS of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may PLEASE her HUSBAND."
This verse helps me, because I understood and still do understand that once I give myself to a man, I become more concerned about what pleases HIM instead of what pleases God. When we as women lay with a man, we submit ourselves unto him. It is not just our bodies that we relinquish; we surrender our very spirits unto him. Because we are the weaker vessel, we gain a soul tie to that man. This is why it is so hard for a woman who is being abused to just get up and leave that situation. She is joined to that man in her spirit.
When God called me back unto Him in 2002, I was engaged in a relationship. One day the man told me that he could not see me without being with me because he had ALREADY known me in that manner. I had to come to a place whereas I was strong enough in my spirit to tell him, "I love you, but I love God more." Once I did, I did not have to concern myself with that particular struggle anymore. He helped me out by ending the relationship. All of the talk about, "If we were married," came to a sudden end. I chose to love God enough that I took time to get to know us both better. My relationship with God is treasured above any other relationship that I could ever have. God has cut so many people out of my life until it FELT as if I were all alone at one point. I know that I wasn't, because it enabled me to learn how to know His voice. It wasn't until Moses was all alone on the backside of Mt. Sinai that he was able to hear God talking to him. Understand that God wil comfort you, keep you, and give you a NEW song in your heart DAILY if you trust, and seek Him. He is taking me from a lamb in Christ to a sheep. I can see me maturing in Him, although, I yet see myself as a babe.
God has to replace ALL of those people in our lives who don't mean us any good anyway. However, we must FIRST allow Him to get rid of ALL of those people, even from our very spirits. We cannot value what we cannot see, and past experiences sometimes will corrupt the way that we see the present.

I pray that something I have shared will be of some help to you.
MLIJC (Much Love In Jesus Christ),
God's Anointed
Missionary Ann Banks

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Comment by Ann Banks on March 19, 2009 at 12:57pm
First Lady, I sincerely thank you for your comment. I pray that it will be encouragement not only to the young lady who inspired me to create this post, but countless others. I too am divorced. However, I understand exactly why. That's a totally different blog altogether though. Thank you for your testimony.
God's Anointed
Comment by Spirit on March 19, 2009 at 12:33pm
I understand what you are saying. After being divorced for 9 years, 4 years ago God decided it was time for me to give Him my undivided attention. I went through a period of no dating, seeking God's face was all my heart desired. My daughter moved out of state to live with her dad, which totally left me all alone. And I asked God why did He have me at a place of being totally alone (I had relocated to a new state and had no friends or family there.) But again, it was during that time that God was teaching me to be satisfied with Him and Him alone. And I found comfort being alone with God. 3 years after this change in my life, God blessed me with a husband. And it has been far more than I could have ever imagined (he is now a minister). But I yielded, and allowed God to have His way in my life. It was not comfortable at first and I questioned why??? But I trusted God.

So to all the single women of God that desire a mate, just keep seeking the kingdom. It's not your job to find a husband, it's for God to deliver him to you. And he will do just that, when the time is right.

Stay encouraged.


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