Have you ever awakened and got out of bed only to discover to your dismay,
that the bed was torn up. The sheet was off the bed.....what a messy looking
bed. This may have caused you to wonder, " How did this happen while sleeping?"
In marriages all across the globe the marriage bed is torn up, especially Christians.
It is not just infidelity, but I submit to you it goes even deeper than that. We bring
people and things into the marriage bed, along with anger, bitterness, hurt and pain.
Flash back......on your wedding day, the organist or pianist ministered powerfully,
" Here comes the bride, " and you brother excitedly with joy in your heart, walked
the aisle to receive her. Your beautiful bride felt that she was now complete, but over
the years you have allowed the marriage bed to be torn up. Yes you man of God, be-
cause you are the priest of the home, you have allowed the enemy to come in. God
is holding you responsible for the torn up bed, stop blaming your wife. Let us take a
look at Genesis chapter 3:9, " And the Lord God called unto Adam, and said unto him,
where art thou? Yes God is still asking, " where are you ? while the marriage bed is
being torn up. God has given you man of God power and authority to drive the enemy
from your home. The time has come men of God to affirm your wives, like you did when
you walked down the aisle, and lovingly brought her to the alter. She is not your maid,
neither is she someone you should dominate. She is your rib for God's sake, she is to be
by your side and not under your foot. Have patience with her, show her love and affection:
stop manipulating and trying to control her. Treat her with love and respect. Truth be known
you do not know the last time you took her in your arms and said to her, " Honey I love you, "
when was the last time you gave her a massage ? You may go as far as to say, "Me open
the car door for her ?
Wives it is time to stop avenging yourselves. It is time to begin today cooking, washing
and cleaning the house.....please iron your husbands clothes too! For God is not interested
in exacting vengeance for neither of you. God wants to restore marriages, with the under-
standing that God honors marriages so much so, that He likened it unto the return of Jesus
Christ in the book of Revelation 21:2 which reads, " And I John saw the holy city, new
Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for husband."
In restoring the torn up bed God needs both husbands and wives to participate. Colossi ans
3:19 says, " Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." Wives in verse eighteen
of this same chapter says to us, " Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit
in the Lord." Again wives God knew that we needed to hear it again from 1 Peter 3:1-2 telling
us in bold letters, " LIKEWISE YE WIVES, be in subjection to your own husbands, that, if any
obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.'
while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. "
Husbands and wives it is later than we all think, and today is the day for the torn up bed to be
restored, by beginning this day to forgive each other. Hold and embrace right now. Begin to
have prayer with each other consistently. May God give to you an attitude of Jesus Christ one
towards the other. Keep renewing your mind in the word, so that you can see the future God has
called you to share with each other. Never go to bed angry with each other, for the word says
in Ephesians 4:26, " Let not the sun go down on your wrath." Make it your number one priority
to work it out before going to bed. Be kind to each other, and cover each other in love. Keep
forgiving one another, and as you walk in the light of Jesus you will have true fellowship with
each other. In restoring the torn up bed, no longer will you awaken from sleep to find your bed
torn up, with the sheet off the bed. No longer will your marriage be torn up! Remember to
acknowledge God your heavenly Father in all that you do, and never forget you both have a
role to play......stay in your lanes and work diligently together to be godly examples for the
whole world to see, that marriage is a ministry sanctioned by God to bring order to the body
of Christ.....restoring the torn up bed!
Written By: Margaret C Mullings