WHAT SHOULD I DO IF MY HUSBAND COMMIT ADULTERY?

What should I do If My Husband commit Adultery?
Should I forgive him after he has asked for forgiveness? Or I should divorce him as the only ground for divorce?
We are dealing with a lot of people having this problem now in our ministry?
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Comment by Fadayomi Yinka on August 7, 2009 at 1:17pm
Uhmm. Sister you are right. It easier said than done.
What you are saying can be summarized under two words: Sympathy and Empathy.
Sympathy means, “I understand how you feel”.
Empathy means, “I feel how you feel”.

Though, most people don’t believe in this word – “forgive and forget”. That’s why a lot of people are having problem with their marriages today. They said I have tried everything but it is not working out. When you forgive your spouse, you must forget what he/she has done against you. Every child of God has a life of God in him/her. We have Zoe (active life of God) in us and we have God’s attributes in us as well. God forgives and forgets our sins. He doesn’t see our sins. He forgets our sins i.e. He doesn’t even remember our sins anymore.
We are expected to do the same as believers. We should forgive our spouses of any wrongdoing and forget (remember no more).

Few verses below:
“Remember not the sins of my youth…” Psalm 25:7.
“…Will not remember thy sins” Isaiah 43:25. When you don’t remember, that means, you forget completely.
“For thou hast cast all my sins behind thy back” Isaiah 38:17b.

God casts our sins behind His back because He doesn’t look back and He has never looked back. Everything starts and ends with God. He is the beginning and the end (Rev.1:8).

When your spouse sins against you and you forgive him and you don’t forget. A month or months later, devil reminds you of what your spouse has done. devil tells you, why must he/she do this to you or treat you this way? You said it is unfair. You tend to react negatively to that and it affects your marriage. When devil tries to remind you of what your spouse has done. You tell him point blank that your spouse has not done anything wrong to you. He/she didn’t do it. This is where renew your mind comes in.

“Love covers multitude of sins” 1 Peter 4:8.
Every other thing will fail except love. Love never fails…1 Cor. 13:8.
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love”.
1 Corinthians 13: 13.

One of the greatest virtues of love is, “Love keeps no record of wrongs…” I Cor.13: 4-7.

Many Christians have practiced this, “forgive and forget” in their marriages and they have seen God at work. Today, they are all enjoying marital bliss. So, forgive and forget! God help you.

Stand for your marriage. Fight for everything the enemy has stolen in your life and marriage. Forgive and forget your spouse no matter what he/she has done. God is a God of restoration! He will restore all the years that cankerworm, palmerworm, grasshopper has eaten in Jesus name. Amen.
Be blessed.
Comment by Rev. James Williams on August 5, 2009 at 10:15pm
Very good Evang, You preaching every where I go (lol)
Comment by Fadayomi Yinka on August 5, 2009 at 6:13am
It is well. You will have to forgive him and forget. Let the Lord perfect His work and healing in your life. You will have to stand for your marriage no matter what. "It is the wise woman that builds his home..."

Don't listen to negative people. God's has a glorious plan for marriage. God will bring the best in your marriage out. It is well.
Comment by Rev. James Williams on August 4, 2009 at 9:21pm
Well praise the Lord, What he did is a big deal but I'm not really concerned what he did what did you do, I know yah saying why would he say that, because I'm a man and I know how men think and how we react, I guess he had sex with some pretty girl right, and most likely somebody outstanding, right, you didn't stop giving him the attention he needed did you, did you stop having sex or did you nag, nag and nag and put him so deep to the ground he needed to come up for air,

Yes he cheated he was wrong, but what could you have done to avoid his sin from taken place, remember God have given women the most powerful weopen known to mankind. (lol) I hope I didn't hurt you with the words I said but I see behond just what somebody has done, It come comes from something before that, what ever it is forgive him and him the same, don't let the devil win and stay together for the haters, Because God gone make it better, "Make Time For Love"
Comment by Tara Robinson on August 4, 2009 at 2:53pm
Yes you should forgive him and many are also dealing with this in the church. Don't base your results on everyone else results God will work where is is allowed.

Your going to have to want God to fix what is broken in order for there to be peace. It does take two you both must be honest enough to be transparent to resolve this matter allow your self to be lead and directed by the holy spirit healing needs to take place in order to hear each other clearly.

Seek counsel from your Pastor do all you are suppose to do because truly his cheating isn't about you but some unfulfilled desired he has been struggling with before he did what he done. Refocus on what you need to do to make sure you get it right with God allow God to fight this battle with out allowing your emotions to get in the way putting him down wont make it better.

This is one step at a time walk it out through the word don't listen to bad advice no one has a right to tell you to divorce your husband no matter what has done. If you need me I am here just let me know. God bless.
Comment by PASTOR CHARLES E BELL JR on August 4, 2009 at 11:19am
YES YOU SHOULD FORGIVE YOU SHOULD DO EVERY THING GODLY PROSSIBLE TO MAKE IT WORK BUT JUST MAKE SURE YOU HAVE DONE EVERY THING YOU COULD TO MAKE IT WORK. FORGIVENESS IS THE FIRST STEP, YOU CANT MOVE FORWARD WITH OUT FORGIVENESS,FASTING AND PRAY WHICH MIGHT BE HARD WHILE YOU ARE HURTING BUT DO IT ANY WAY ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU THE SPIRIT OF FORGIVENESS TO EASE THE HURT YES WE HAVE A GOD WHO CAN.............DO ALL THING AND HEAL RELATIOSHIP IS ONE OF THEM

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