'A man who has friends must himself be friendly...' Proverbs 18:24

[PASTOR AUSTIN A ADEWUNMI]

'A man who has friends must himself be friendly...' Proverbs 18:24

People give up on us for three reasons. First, untrustworthiness. Working with
someone we don't trust is a miserable experience. And we lose the trust
of others when we act inconsistently in what we say and do, seek
personal gain above shared gain, withhold information, lie or tell
half-truths, and become closed-minded. Trust is like a mirror - when
it's shattered it can be pieced back together again, but the cracks
usually show. Second, incompetence. The way to inspire confidence in
people is not with charisma, but with competence. When a leader is
incompetent he takes the focus off the organisation's vision and values
and places it on to his own behavior. If people working for an
incompetent leader have a high degree of skill, they continually worry
about their leader messing things up. If they don't have experience,
they won't know what to do. Either way, productivity and morale suffer.
Third, insecurity. Good leaders do two things: they develop other
leaders, and try to work themselves out of a job. Insecure leaders never
do that. They don't want to train people to reach their potential and
be more successful than they are. In fact, they don't want them to be
able to succeed without their help. Any time someone who works for them
rises too high, they see it as a threat. People want to work for leaders
who fire them up, not put out their fire. If they perceive that their
leader is more concerned with maintaining their authority and protecting
their position, they'll eventually quit and find someone else to work
for.