Premature Exposure to Marriage
Marriage - union between man and woman (Genesis1:27-28).It is Legal and a covenant relationship.Genesis2:18, 21-24
- it is Spiritual, legal, God-given covenant between man and woman.
- God is the author of marriage
- His guidelines must be followed to experienc joy and fulfilment.
Marriage is a union to be entered into with careful caution.
- With seriousness and preparation.
- Many think of is only in terms of ceremony, feast and honeymoon – it is much more.
It binds so close that those involved, their future and their assignment is influenced by its binding.
- It is a surrender of self for the benefit of the relationship.
- It is an investment of self that makes a marriag Due consideration is vital.
- Mortal man sees on the outside.
- God sees what is in the heart and what lies ahead.
Everyone needs inside information.
- To enable one to judge rightly.
- So you can take the right steps.
It does not just take a man or a woman to make a marriage successful.
- It takes a loving husband, a caring father.
- A responsible, committed man to make a marriage work who live a Kingdom-centric lifest
- It take a virtuous woman.
- It takes a responsible mother.
- It takes a good and committed wife to keep it stable who live a Kingdom-centric lifestyle.
It is believed that if you marry the right person you have 70% of your problems solved.If we marry the wrong person.You spend 70% of your time trying to keep the relationship together. You have 30% for yourself and other things.
Woman – helpmeet to complement in the fulfilment of God’s purpose.The Bible says “he that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord” (Proverbs18:22)
- This means that before a woman is found or married, she needs to possess qualities of a wife.
Maturity is very important and cannot be neglected.
- Maturity is not just age but the ability to use senses to discern right and wrong.
- It speaks of responsibility on each person’s part.
Marriage is a ministry one to another:
mentally
Physically
Spiritually
Sexual
Eph.5:28-29 When a man loves himself, he loves his wife.1Cor.7:3-5 Not defrauding each other but rather render due benevolence.
Marriage is not for BOYS and GIRLS. It goes beyond that 1Cor.13:11.
Marriage is not a toy:
- Children play with toys you don’t find mature people playing with toys.
Yet we have big BOYS and GIRLS treating marriage like a TOY or should I say treating each other like TOYS and want us to believe they are mature.Nobody needs to tell a mature person when to bathe and about hygiene.
- E.g. brush teeth, cut hair under arm, go to the barber, change clothes.
- Also, shouldn’t sit and pass air or belch in a crowd.
Yet we have (adults) big people we have to tell this to and the sad thing about it is they are married.
How can you say you are mature and yet you practice these things?Are you mature?
Kids are always playful and have ‘don’t carish’ type of happy-go-lucky behaviour:
- no care in the world.
Yet we find our people who first don’t care about themselves. Nothing said to them bothers them.
You have to tell kids when to do homework, turn off the TV, and come off the phone, to read, not to do this or that.
Yet we have people who are married behaving childish like this.As a matter of fact, we have children who make married and seemingly mature people shame.
- How? At least kids being kids.
- Certain behaviour is expected of kids but we have people who are prematurely exposed to an institution for mature people.
- No wonder the divorce rate is so high in churches today.
We have parents teaching kids responsibility and accountability.Yet we they are premature exposure who are supposed to be mature, knowing about responsibility and accountability but have to be taught.
- Premature exposure.
We take a scripture out of context: “better to marry than to burn” and now some of you are burning:
Emotionally,Physically,Mentally,Spiritually and Financially
In every strata of your life you are feeling the burn.
- the burn of regret.
- the burn of rejection.
- the burn of shame and pain.
- the burn of destruction.
Because of premature exposure to the institution of marriage.
I am saying that there are some of us who have entered the institution of marriage and were not prepared, nor ready for it.
Premature Exposure to Marriage BY
Dr. Anthony A. Yarde. part 1
- it is Spiritual, legal, God-given covenant between man and woman.
- God is the author of marriage
- His guidelines must be followed to experienc joy and fulfilment.
Marriage is a union to be entered into with careful caution.
- With seriousness and preparation.
- Many think of is only in terms of ceremony, feast and honeymoon – it is much more.
It binds so close that those involved, their future and their assignment is influenced by its binding.
- It is a surrender of self for the benefit of the relationship.
- It is an investment of self that makes a marriag Due consideration is vital.
- Mortal man sees on the outside.
- God sees what is in the heart and what lies ahead.
Everyone needs inside information.
- To enable one to judge rightly.
- So you can take the right steps.
It does not just take a man or a woman to make a marriage successful.
- It takes a loving husband, a caring father.
- A responsible, committed man to make a marriage work who live a Kingdom-centric lifest
- It take a virtuous woman.
- It takes a responsible mother.
- It takes a good and committed wife to keep it stable who live a Kingdom-centric lifestyle.
It is believed that if you marry the right person you have 70% of your problems solved.If we marry the wrong person.You spend 70% of your time trying to keep the relationship together. You have 30% for yourself and other things.
Woman – helpmeet to complement in the fulfilment of God’s purpose.The Bible says “he that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord” (Proverbs18:22)
- This means that before a woman is found or married, she needs to possess qualities of a wife.
Maturity is very important and cannot be neglected.
- Maturity is not just age but the ability to use senses to discern right and wrong.
- It speaks of responsibility on each person’s part.
Marriage is a ministry one to another:
mentally
Physically
Spiritually
Sexual
Eph.5:28-29 When a man loves himself, he loves his wife.1Cor.7:3-5 Not defrauding each other but rather render due benevolence.
Marriage is not for BOYS and GIRLS. It goes beyond that 1Cor.13:11.
Marriage is not a toy:
- Children play with toys you don’t find mature people playing with toys.
Yet we have big BOYS and GIRLS treating marriage like a TOY or should I say treating each other like TOYS and want us to believe they are mature.Nobody needs to tell a mature person when to bathe and about hygiene.
- E.g. brush teeth, cut hair under arm, go to the barber, change clothes.
- Also, shouldn’t sit and pass air or belch in a crowd.
Yet we have (adults) big people we have to tell this to and the sad thing about it is they are married.
How can you say you are mature and yet you practice these things?Are you mature?
Kids are always playful and have ‘don’t carish’ type of happy-go-lucky behaviour:
- no care in the world.
Yet we find our people who first don’t care about themselves. Nothing said to them bothers them.
You have to tell kids when to do homework, turn off the TV, and come off the phone, to read, not to do this or that.
Yet we have people who are married behaving childish like this.As a matter of fact, we have children who make married and seemingly mature people shame.
- How? At least kids being kids.
- Certain behaviour is expected of kids but we have people who are prematurely exposed to an institution for mature people.
- No wonder the divorce rate is so high in churches today.
We have parents teaching kids responsibility and accountability.Yet we they are premature exposure who are supposed to be mature, knowing about responsibility and accountability but have to be taught.
- Premature exposure.
We take a scripture out of context: “better to marry than to burn” and now some of you are burning:
Emotionally,Physically,Mentally,Spiritually and Financially
In every strata of your life you are feeling the burn.
- the burn of regret.
- the burn of rejection.
- the burn of shame and pain.
- the burn of destruction.
Because of premature exposure to the institution of marriage.
I am saying that there are some of us who have entered the institution of marriage and were not prepared, nor ready for it.
Premature Exposure to Marriage BY
Dr. Anthony A. Yarde. part 1
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Comment by Ebony moore on June 9, 2009 at 9:20am
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Well said Pastor...and too often we find people who look or have the appearance of being an adult---but truthfully they are over grown children, even if they have age to back it up. They have needs that were never fulfilled in childhood...and those needs still carry over into their adult life.
The only advice to give when one recognizes this is to turn to the lord in prayer and seek counselling....
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