Every morning, Samuel's wife, Nicole, connects to the
Internet and does nothing else until it's time for work. After a long
day at the office, she's back online playing games. Nicole enters online
game tournaments and has thousands of reward points from her hours
spent on the computer. When she isn't "gaming," she's blogging about her
experiences and virtual chatting on various sites.
One evening Samuel glanced at the screen and noticed she was playing a game that facilitated two players. Thinking it would be
great to join her for a few moments, Samuel asked if he could play.
Nicole refused, saying Samuel would just beat her anyway.
Refusals like this have caused a rift in their relationship. They don't talk and Nicole makes minimal contributions to
their marriage. Samuel feels his wife acts like a "Zombie" and has no
interest in anything but the computer.
Thus the proverbial "headache" is reinforced as women genuinely experience headaches from excessive time spent in front of
their computer. For other women, social media is the latest excuse for
avoiding intimacy in the bedroom and in every day relationships.
Electronic distractions are available 24/7 as we carry computers in pockets and purses, making us available to everyone, all the time. Everyone except those who matter the most.
Dedicated time for a spouse has been replaced with cyber relationships, networking and status updates. Online, people are
playing games, shopping, reading books, listening to music and podcasts
and even engaging in inappropriate relationships. Online relationships
are appealing. Women can be anyone online: taller, thinner, smarter and
wittier. They can be experts at many subjects, find people to
commiserate with and receive comfort from those experiencing similar
problems.
Maintaining an online persona can take several hours per day, and women are dedicating countless daytime and evening hours to
relational pursuits. Online interactions often appear more "real" to
some women than their relationships with immediate family.
Making friends online isn't all bad. Women build real-life relationships, find jobs, buy or sell items and receive advice
from industry professionals. Problems arise however, when computer time
detracts from real life and quality relationships.
What's Happened To Date Nights?
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