I have heard of marriage related problems that mostly end in divorce and want to know the main causes of marriage problems and failure?

 

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My opinion is marriages fail for a few reasons. First you have to have God as the foundation of the marriage. You also have to have a personal relationship with the Lord. You have to be equally yoked. Both of you have to communicate. You must be on the same page. You may have expectation of the other person that they are unable to meet. You may not trust the person or believe in who they are. You have to see people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. You have to be willing to compromise and seek spirtual counsel for the issues you see developing early on. You can't fake it till you make it cause all that is doing is stiring up a mess that is going to spill over and then you got yourself a real problem. One last thing it's okay to agree to disagree. You may not like what I have to say but take the time to listen.
marriages fail because God is not the center of it. God should be a part of the marriage!!!!!! If he is not, than it's basically up to the two of you to make all the decisions and so forth. We are only human, therefore we are bound to make mistakes, become selfish, and we can also get to the point where we chose to neglect our mate. Marriage is not anything anyone should try to do with God being involved. Men and Women are very different from one another therefore we need someone to guide us properly. Last but not least, people say marriage fails because of lack of communication, cheating, financial issues, etc..... I say, Yes, Marriage can end for all those reasons however, if God is the center of this marriage, than no matter what the problem is, IT CAN BE FIXED AND WORKED OUT! When you love him and want to serve him with your whole heart,, your marriage can and will work. He can so that you may have life, and life more abundantly.
I believe it begins how and why the marriage came about in the first place. Marriage is a very hard job. You spend most of your life becoming an individual. Then you get married and have to become one. Sometimes we don't realize that. It's the ultimate sharing. We can't be selfish. Marriage in Christ must be Christ centered.
Genesis 2:18-Many marriages fail because they did not allow God to become the most important person in their life and let God tell them who and when to marry.Many time the church, family, friends and age force people to marry.
One of the biggest reason for failures in marriages is that the couple do not know that they have the same attributes as God. In Genesi 2;7 God breathed the spirit of man into one body. Within that body was the attributes of masculine femminie, toughtender,disciplinariannurtuer. In Genesis 2;21 God took out the femeine, tender nurturing attribute and made a body for woman. Now the man with his masculine, tough, disciplinarian attributes trys to make the woman see things the way he dose and she trys to make him see form her feminine tender nurturing attributes. There is no headship/submission in the marriage . 1 Corinthians 11; 3 ''But I want you to know and realize that Christ is the Head of every man , the head of a woman isher husband, and the head of Christ is God.
Marriages often fail when people stop seeing the value of who they have. We become common to another and lose the grace of being intertwined and being one. If a man understood that the wife he finds is a virtuous woman and the 'B' clause of that scripture is to know that her cost is far above rubies so he couldnt afford even if he had it all. Thats why he who finds a wife finds a good thing and the key is he obtains favor with God. Because only the favor of God can help you find a virtuous woman/wife. And for ladies, your man is your head who had the intitial encounter with the head of us all. Before you it was man and God and you are not his equal of independent authority but you are the breeder of his vision thats why you have the womb and he has the seed. We have to fall in love with our roles and places in our marriages and become faithful and diligent in them. Secondly, if we allow God to connect us in spirit first we won't have so many divorces. People are getting married for fleshly reasons, I mean lets be honest if you marry to keep your flesh from burning with desire what do you do after you have fulfilled that desire, now we become bitter and angry because we married for self gratification and not spiritual covering. The grace of consistently loving another is defined by how much you love yourself through loving them. You marry having the faith of self promise in connection to the process of and imperfect being(Let God do the Work). Divorce comes in when your perception changes and either he or she strays from the principle of progression.. be blessed
Genesis 1:2-31-2:1-24 is what God wanted in marriage. When Adam failed in the Garden of Eden God had to restore what he wanted in Adam in Christ and the Church.Paul says there is a great mystery in the relationship between Christ and the Church.The word mystery dose not mean something that is unknown, but a teaching is for a certain group like the masons who have certain teaching in that gruop nonmembers do not know.. The Church should know the mystery of marriage. There are 66 books caled the Bible .that hold the mystery of marriage.
Marriages fail because of several reasons, the first being that the Lord has to be first place and secondly couples must learn to communicate. Open and effective communication is the key to a successful marriage. You don't always have to agree, but you do have to communicate. When we take our sacred vows before God and many witnesses and we say for better or worse, exactly what do we think worse is. When the times get rough and we facing severe trials and tests, couples tend to shut down and stop communicating with each other, let alone the Lord. I hear women say quite often "my husband does not like to talk and won't communicate with me". My response is communication is a must, when the conversation is one sided, the relationship is doomed for destruction. Christian marriage counseling is a good place to start, divorce should never be an option, if there is no physical abuse. If you experience verbal abuse, you have authority in the name of Jesus to still the enemy. Who ever the spiritual head is in the family should fight for the relationship remembering that we wrestle not against flesh and blood. Your spouse is not the enemy, recognize the spirit behind the issues.
Most marriages fail for the same reason Adam had trouble with his wife...
Wives are to submit to the authority of their husbands. “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything” (Ephesians 5:22-24). Although women should submit to their husbands, the Bible also tells men several times how they are supposed to treat their wives. The husband is not to take on the role of the dictator, but should show respect for his wife and her opinions. In fact, Ephesians 5:28-29 exhorts men to love their wives in the same way that they love their own bodies, feeding and caring for them. A man’s love for his wife should be the same as Christ’s love for His body, the church.

“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:18-19). “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7). From these verses we see that love and respect characterize the roles of both husbands and wives. If these are present, then authority, headship, love, and submission will be no problem for either partner.
My dear brother here is a link you may want to visit... TAKE THE LORD WITH YOU EVERYWHERE YOU GO... but do face the truth.
http://www.evilbible.com

'MAN... what is man that you're so mindful of him? And made him a little lower than...' . Who? Lower than the GOD HEAD.
One thing for sure IF YOU ARE A BELIEVER, then nothing, BUT the TRUTH, will MAKE you FREE. And I say If my Daddy God made EVERYTHING, what am I fearful of?

Love you MUCHY,
eve
That website is expected in a world where Satan is god...lets take the verse a little deeper to find the answer?
who is man that you should be mindful of him? in which way was God mindful of man?that God would save some? God did not save man for man's sake,God saved man for his names sake, so who is man? the answer is the same answer God gave Moses, Moses asked the question to the Lord, who am I?
Exodus 3:11
But Moses said to God, "Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?"

Exodus 3:12
And God said, "I will be with you.

God Bless
Top of the DAY to you my dear Family member of Mankind on earth... WHAT IS THE MAIN CAUSES OF MARRIAGE PROBLEMS AND FAILURE IS BECAUSE:

We fail to understand that WE WERE CREATED TO BE ' OUR OWNSELVES... SEEKING TO FIND OUR ASSIGNMENT, WITH EACH OTHER. NOT, TO MAKE EVERONE 'BE US'. We fail to allow INDIVISUALITY to form UNITY... one mistake... & day... at a time.

We fail to... FORGIVE, SO THAT WE WILL BE FORGIVEN. And we WANT TO RECEIVE what we haven't planted. In other words MARRIAGE is a growing process. You are going to grow WITH OR WITHOUT a partner... but life can go SOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH BETTER with someone to travel with... don't you think?

LEARNING to forgive and GROW with your partner... hopefully... friend, is a way of life. Most marriages that last, usually last because... FRIENDS, ARE GROWING TOGETHER. And LOVE WIIIILLLL KEEP US TOGETHER... FORGIVENESS WIIIILLLLL KEEP US TOGETHER ... our... WILL OF WANTING TO STAY TOGETHER... will MAKE our marriages last.

Love you MUCHY,
eve

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