Ministers, and the women who want them.... agghhh!!!!

[Candice Houston]

I can attest and can almost garuantee that all ministers/pastor's woves have or have had to deal with this. ITS THE ANOINTING YALL!!!! plus, we all know the devil cant stand to see am man of God being just that, A Man Of God.

NOw, im pretty young and havent been married that long a wonderful man of God. It doesnt help that he is rather handsome, but the man can sing and preach like nobody's business.lol. sooo, i want to know from the women who have been there, how do you deal with the rather excuse my grammar "thirsty" indivuals??? what prayers do you say to keep the peace, especially when you have to see these women on Sundays, Tuesdays, AND Fridays???

and more importantly, what scrptures and prayers have you used to help cover your husband?

[Spirit]

Hi Candice, I actually joined this site looking for other wives of ministries. My husband will preach his first initial sermon in a few weeks. And I am as excited as he is, it will be the first I will hear him speak from the pulpit and not the kitchen : ) But I understand what you are saying, because I am already dealing with this and the man has not spoken yet!!! It often leaves me wondering if I have it in me to be the woman I need to be for him. But then I know God has put in me what I need in order to be strong. But this is something that my husband and I talk about openly. And when we are not talking about it, I am praying. I feel it's my responsibility to keep him covered in prayer. So continue to encourage him and pray. My husband and I say we have a "hedge" of protection around us. And one last thing, my husband had a seasoned minister give him some advised that I laughed at at first, but it works!!!! Where ever we go and it involves people (church, etc) I will stand to his left. People will have to go through me to get to him. It sounds strange giving this king of advise (my journey is just starting) but people don't understand the pressure on a pastor's family. So I am glad to have found this group. Whew! i feel better already!!!

~First

[Candice Houston]

hahaha, im laughing because i can see how this can be strange advice, and yet, it sounds crazy enough to work!!! i, like you, am also just starting my journey, but my husband has already preached more times than i can remember and he is sooo great at what he does. And get this, he is only 22!!!! I feel honored to start our journies together so young. We are special to say the least, but thats some real good advice First Lady. I pray that your journey together is smooth and that God continues to reveal to you how to have a peaceful and balanced relationship, with eachother, and the people you two are going to encounter on a regular basis.

[Spirit]

Hi Candice, You two may be young in age, but you are ready for what God has you to do. I admire your wisdom, considering i am 40 and my husband is 35. He preached his first sermon Sunday and it was a wonderful feeling to see him doing God's work.

Now the funny part, when my vision cleared up and I was standing in front of the church (because everything else was a blur), I noticed his cheerleaders were all sitting in the back of the church. That made me feel good. next sunday will be our first Sunday as Assistant Pastor and wife, so we will see how it goes. And honey, let me tell you, sometimes it's the strangest advise we get that works the best.


And one last thing, in our Sunday school class, my husband and I sit near the door, one of the teachers, that likes him, has a class across the hall from ours. She started to sit on the side of her class that she would look right out of her class room door into our class room, where we sat, and my husband would sit near the door. Last Sunday when we went to Sunday school, he made the comment "remember to stay to my left"...and when I changed seats with him, and I sat to his left, that put me next to the door. Needless to say, she now closes her door " )

Still standing / now sitting, to his left...
~First

[Candice Houston]

lol, you are so right. its so funny though, how as people of God, we can let the flesh lead us and think nothing of it. But thats funny to me, and i can totally relate to you. I know of another woman who is ten years my senior who decided she wanted to be with my husband. when i was away on a trip, she stated to my husband (a few months before we got married) that she was going to have him and there would be no more Candice. she even did her research on me to so called "know" more about me i guess. needless to say, my husband and i did indeed get married. By the grace, mercy, and ever-astonishing beauty of God, i managed to pray through it and now i dont have a problem being around her or chatting with her. I thank God for wisdom and peace. GOd has given us three things that i used to remember who i am and who i can be, knowledge to know how to deal with her, love to know how to love everyone, and a sound mind to be able to maintain my peace and sanity regardless of the actions of those around me.

[First Lady Riden]

Hello women of God, I too know what you mean. I was in a ministry minding me and God's business not thinking about a man when I met my husband. See how God will do you when you are serving him he will bless you in return. The word says he will give you the desires of your heart if you commit unto him. Me and my husband went to the same church for a whole year without even saying hello but maybe once. He said God have told him he was going to married me the first time he saw me. I had always admired the love for GOD that he had but I never saw him past that because he was older than me (9 years)Long story short when the women of the church found out we were dating some of them were not happy with me. They felt like they were older and a better fit for him, they felt like they deserved a man like him. Well let me tell you what God has for me is for me. The word say that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing. Not a women who finds a man. Ladies, I don't like to sugar coat anything. Let me tell it will be hard a first but remember God's honors marraige. Keep him first not third or fourth. The word of god says we are more presious that rubies. Know that you are more than enough for your husbands. I pray right now in the night powerful name of JESUS that you cover our marriages with your blood keep us close to you Lord we thank you right now for our husbands we pray that you order their steps we thank you for what you have done and what you are going to do in our marriage in the name of JESUS we bind of the spirit of temptation Lord we understand Lord that just about every women wants to be married to a good man so help us God to teach the women how to be virtuous and wait on you to send a man of God their way we pray that you enlighting our tongue God so that we don't say the wrong thing In JESUS name we pray AMEN.