Marital Issues

[Lavittia]

 How do you rebuild trust when it has been broken in a marriage? Why do husbands always say their wife is insecure when she calls him on behavior not becoming of a married man? Is there a chance for a marriage to survive an affair even if the other spouse has "NO PROOF" lets call it an affair of the mind?  You think he may be doing something you ask him and he says no yet you can't let it go... Just wondering what others may have to say regarding these matters.

[gilyia baxter]

I turly believe that with God all things are possible!!!!! However, God will add it Super and the couple must add their natural. This means it will take a lot of work on both parties involved. You should seek counceling, and take a long look at your behavioral pattern. The invader must be snuffed out (meaning the person who you cheated with). That must stop completely.Prayer together and apart on a daily basis is needed and so much more. It is definitely worth fixing and it can be accomplished. It's basically up to you. God has already conquered it for you!

[Pastor Mary Manigault]

I think the first thing that has to be done to rebuild trust is to forgiveness towards the one that broke that trust.
Some women are insecure in their relationships so they watch every move their husbands makes and they try to analyze their moves. There is a chance for the marriage to survive an affair, if you remove the distrust and put trust there, IT CAN SURVIVE. It's going to take love, faith, trust and patients to substain a relationship that's had some unfaithful issues.

[Pastor Alvin T Harmon Jr.]

One of the hardest things in a marriage, is to "allow" yourself to be hurt by the one who says that they love you. "Thoughts" of an affair do not translate into the deed. It is the "not knowing" that makes things very difficult. What do you do if it is discovered that infidelity has taken place? Remaining married after such an act may be one of the most difficult endeavors any couple may ever face. It is however, very survivable. It will be the job of the person who commits the indescretion, to search themselves, allow God to minister and develop an undetermined amount of patience for their spouse. The amount of time neccesary to be healed from an affair cannot be predetermined or dictated by "either" person in the relationship. However, it will also be the the hard task of the offended spouse, to forgive. Not just in word, but through seeking God for personal healing. Until that takes place, there will always be some type of reminder available. Once there is a committment to forgiving, there has to be a willingness to be hurt again. This may be the most difficult hurdle of the entire situation. Do you want a genuine marriage after an affair? If so, allowing yourself to be vulnerable,(not gullible) will be the key. Fasting, prayer and counseling for both parties will help tremendously.