Domestic Violence develops out of a need to be accepted.

Why is acceptance considered so very important?

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Good evening Honorable Rev. Anthony R. Watson,

Thank you for your comment on acceptance it is true a need for being wanted and loved is a strong point. However, some people have not learned to understand the love that they seek in order to know it already exist but the ability they may have at the time doesn't allow them to accept the one who loves them the way love is understood as what was taught to them.Some people solicit love by purchasing things. 

Good evening Honorable Rev. Anthony R, Watson,


Thank you for driving the correct information right home. I have found that a lot of our church leaders are not willing to recognize or address this type of existing abuse. How can we effectively bring a healing message if we do not see or understand the sickness? Thanks, another helping source can become very rewarding to the needed hearers.

God bless

Domestic violence begins when one person believes that he or she has the rights and ownership over another  person.  This person has developed the mind set that their significant other is their personal property.  Physical and verbal abuse becomes a weapon of control.  The victim of domestic violence will develop an emotional and phsycological dependency towards the violent party.  The violent offender eventually incorporates the use of fear as the primary method for asserting control and dominance. 


Whenever the victim attempts to end the abusive relationship the violent offender senses that he/she is loosing control.  In extreme cases of domestic violence the offender believes that he/she can never loose or give up their personal property.  They would rather kill the other person than to let them go.  We find this controlling spirit in 1 Kings 19 and see the physical, mental and emotional effects that it had upon Elijah.  We call this controlling spirit the Jezebel Spirit. 


Acceptance is so important because it defines self-worth.  When people learn that God will accept them through Jesus Christ they will not settle for an abusive and or violent relationship.  They will no longer feel the need to please people who secretly only want to use, control and own them.



Good evening Honorable Pitbull,

Thank you so much for the scriptural reference and insight. I hope we can all get along at some point.

Years ago women were identified as the mans property and was able to do as he wished. So I think this same thinking still exist without the bill of sale. When would the offender come to the realization that he or she is not utilizing a welcoming behavior?

Thanks again   

     The media usually portrays women as an object or sexual exploit.  This learned behavior has become a socially accepted norm.  Objects are looked upon as property.  Women can also look at men as an object used for personal gain.  

     Acceptance develops an innate behavior or desire to please others.  Genesis 4:7, "If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee [shall be] his desire, and thou shalt rule over him."  Most people are not concerned with pleasing God, they are more concerned with pleasing man. 

     A pastor who is solely concerned with being accepted by the media or congregants might be verbally or mentally abusive to his spouse.  This behavior would not be pleasing to God.  Ephesians 5:21, "Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God."  If we are not being submissive one to another than we are only concerned with pleasing ourself, not our spouse and not God.   








Good evening Honorable Pitbull,

Thank you so much. I hope this teaching and learning can spread to others before another incident come about. Thanks again and God bless.


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