There is a growing number of Believers who prefer being in long term relationships instead of getting married. I call it a relationship of CASUAL COMMITMENT.
They live in separate homes
so there's no issue with "shacking up"
They live somewhat separate lives (raising kids separately)
so there's no issue with 100% commitment
They may occasionally "slip" into sexual sin
but I John 1:9 is a wonderful bandaid for that problem (???or so they think???)
Over the years I have noticed a growing number of believers (mostly in the African American community) that are adopting this paradigm. Many of these couples have been together for double-digit years... 5 years, 8 years, 10 years, 15 years...18 years and more.
So, what do most of these couples have in common???
DIVORCE (or multiple divorces) or a history of witnessing their parents, other relatives, friends, and Christian Leaders in and out of bad relationships.
It's not that they don't believe in the sanctity of marriage...
they just don't trust another person enough to be married to them OR
they don't trust themselves in a marriage OR
they are afraid of an emotional investment that would end in anything less than "forever after".
What are your thoughts?
Is this you?
Have you witnessed this as well?