What should I do If My Husband commit Adultery?
Should I forgive him after he has asked for forgiveness? Or I should divorce him as the only ground for divorce?
We are dealing with a lot of people having this problem now in our ministry?
Please, contribution requested.

Thank you all for your advice but you need to hear this:
During the 2nd world war, grenade blew a Soldier's face and deformed him. So many people came to visit him in the hospital and they all said the same thing that, we understand what you are going through and we feel your pains. The man shook his head and said No to them all. He said to them, "You can never understand my pains until grenade blow your face..."
Meditate on that friends.

Thank you all for your response and encouragement words.
It is good for one to forgive as Christ has commanded. But in a situation whereby he still continues in adultery, what shall I do? I need your encouragement.

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Sister, go to God in prayer, get away from ones speaking negativity into your spirit, this is between YOU, YOUR HUSBAND, and GOD, your forgiveness is required wether you stay with your husband or not.

You are hurting, allow no one to pour salt in your wound. go to God, and THEN to your husband, and talk to him, civil, address the why? leave the intruder out of the conversation, this is between YOU, YOUR HUSBAND, and GOD.

adultery is a ground for divorce, but forgiveness is a reason to keep what God has join together for BETTER OR WORSE together, if God orders your steps to leave, then do it knowing that you made that decision influence by no one other than yourself.
I Totally agree with my sister. It really is between you and God. Amen Evangelist Altha Fugett.
Evangelist, that couldn't have been said any better! With that said, this discussion should be closed, and you ma'am, should take heed to the Evangelist's wise words.
Thank you all for your advice but you need to hear this:
During the 2nd world war, grenade blew a Soldier's face and deformed him. So many people came to visit him in the hospital and they all said the same thing that, we understand what you are going through and we feel your pains. The man shook his head and said No to them all. He said to them, "You can never understand my pains until grenade blow your face..."
Meditate on that friends.
A soldier is trained to survive, to will himself to live at all costs. If the very will to live is not present, then the last thing that is present is a direct order, and no good soldier is to go against a direct order. So therefore, as an Apostle in the LORD's Church, if you are going to focus on the pain, and not focus on the will to get through, then I have some direct orders for you to adhere to. Ignore it at your own risk (THIS GOES FOR ANY PERSON IN LIKE POSITION):

-Galatians 6:9 "And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." DO NOT FAINT!
-1 Corinthians 13:4-7"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things." DO NOT STOP LOVING!
-Philippians 4:6-7 "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." DO NOT STOP PRAYING!
-Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." DO NOT GET BITTER!
-Hebrews 12:14 "Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:" DO NOT LOOSE YOUR PEACE!
-James 5:20 "Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins." DO NOT TRY TO FIND AN EXCUSE TO NOT FORGIVE ANYONE!
-Hebrews 12:2 "Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God." DO NOT STOP LOOKING AT JESUS!

No matter what happens, there is no reason in existence that can be mentioned for you to not forgive a person and be a Christian. There is no good reason for a person to live bitter. NONE! You mentioned a soldire at war who was wounded. I have a father that lost a finger in Vietnam. Post tramatic stress has caused this man to suffer mentally in ways that led him to a life of drug abuse even into his 60's. You want to try to justify any pain you have? Then there's your result.....

Selah (meaning Think on these things)
Amen Trevor
The biggest part of you story and I learned this a long time ago is there is a difference betwwen sympathy and empathy, sympathy attempts to say i am feeling the exact pain you are, but truth be told we are not. We never know the pain or hurt a person is feeling when they experience something like this. Empathy allows us to "feel into" listen to what a person is saying and equate what we are hearing to how we feel, but never saying " I know how you feel" " I understand your pain" because truth is we dont, and even if we where to have a "grenade blow our face off" we would be able to say i've been there, but all people are different and the way they handle things will alqays be different.

But on that forgiveness is always in order but just because you forgive does not mean that things go right back to how they where. There must be a time for discovery, expression, crying, hurting, probing, wondering, talking, all these things understand that thru great pains was our forgiveness obtained and alot of times it is through our great pains that we obtain a greater fellowship with our Saviour. Dont think of divorce as an option, and allow God to work and through much prayer I believe you will be able to look back and see much growth but remember it is a process.
Very True Rev....

Omoola Graca, I'd like to say dont look for sympathy either. look for GOD's true solution. Sympathy is like a pain relief and a pacifier for a crying baby. If you have an illness, why look for Tylenol when you have a cure re4ady for you? If the baby is crying for food, why pop a pacifier in their mouth? Don't just long for pain relief, seek for the cure, and the cure deals with forgiveness and healing. They have to work together, otherwise they won't work at all.
Uhmm. Sister you are right. It easier said than done.
What you are saying can be summarized under two words: Sympathy and Empathy.
Sympathy means, “I understand how you feel”.
Empathy means, “I feel how you feel”.

Though, most people don’t believe in this word – “forgive and forget”. That’s why a lot of people are having problem with their marriages today. They said I have tried everything but it is not working out. When you forgive your spouse, you must forget what he/she has done against you. Every child of God has a life of God in him/her. We have Zoe (active life of God) in us and we have God’s attributes in us as well. God forgives and forgets our sins. He doesn’t see our sins. He forgets our sins i.e. He doesn’t even remember our sins anymore.
We are expected to do the same as believers. We should forgive our spouses of any wrongdoing and forget (remember no more). Forgive and Forget is still the key to healing in marriage.

Few verses below:
“Remember not the sins of my youth…” Psalm 25:7.
“…Will not remember thy sins” Isaiah 43:25. When you don’t remember, that means, you forget completely.
“For thou hast cast all my sins behind thy back” Isaiah 38:17b.

God casts our sins behind His back because He doesn’t look back and He has never looked back. Everything starts and ends with God. He is the beginning and the end (Rev.1:8).

When your spouse sins against you and you forgive him and you don’t forget. A month or months later, devil reminds you of what your spouse has done. devil tells you, why must he/she do this to you or treat you this way? You said it is unfair. You tend to react negatively to that and it affects your marriage. When devil tries to remind you of what your spouse has done. You tell him point blank that your spouse has not done anything wrong to you. He/she didn’t do it. This is where renew your mind comes in

“Love covers multitude of sins” 1 Peter 4:8.
Every other thing will fail except love. Love never fails…1 Cor. 13:8.
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love”.
1 Corinthians 13: 13.

One of the greatest virtues of love is, “Love keeps no record of wrongs…” I Cor.13: 4-7.

Many Christians have practiced this, “forgive and forget” in their marriages and they have seen God at work. Today, they are all enjoying marital bliss. So, forgive and forget! God help you.

Stand for your marriage. Fight for everything the enemy has stolen in your life and marriage. Forgive and forget your spouse no matter what he/she has done. God is a God of restoration! He will restore all the years that cankerworm, palmerworm, grasshopper has eaten in Jesus name. Amen.
Be blessed.

Evang. Yinka Fadayomi
Thank you all for your response and encouragement words.
It is good for one to forgive as Christ has commanded. But in a situation whereby he still continues in adultery, what shall I do? I need your encouragement.
Take a stand! Confront him let him know you aint having it and keep your distance until he is ready to get it together! It aint gone be easy, its going to hurt, your going to be afraid but God is able!
Thank you but I am an African woman and here we don't believe in divorce. It is taboo. It is detestable thing to do. he has promised to change but he is still seeing his girl friend.

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