Ephesians 5:22 says, "Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord."
Should I advise a married lady to submit to her husband when he is obviously making the WRONG decisions, ruining her life and causing damage to her health?
Ephesians 5:22 further says, " For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church..."
If this same man is making the wife pay all of the bills (including medical and food and rent) and making her give his 65 year old homeless brother a place to live in their house and making her do his brothers laundry and fix his food, wash his dishes and clean up after him also, should I advise her to submit to him? Then also the husband makes her do his other brothers laundry and feed him and his children at least twice a week also (this includes cleaning and dishes). Then the husband is trying to blame his wife because his brothers are homeless and do not have jobs. He is telling his wife she is a failure and is not doing anything with her life. She doesn't and never did have to much to do with his brothers. It is not her fault that his brothers had bad marriages and are homeless. I don't feel like God wants this lady to suffer for his brothers mistakes in their life. She has been a totally separate entity.But the man feel like if his brothers are unsuccessful that his wife will be sad and feel the pain too.
The really amazing thing about the man is that he uses this very same bible passage to prove that his wife should submit. He says he is a man of God and she should"do as he say."
The bible also says,"All men have sinned and come short of the glory of God."
I should not advise her to leave a home where SHE PAYS THE RENT AND THE UTILITIES and buys the food and medical also, should I? The place would no longer be there anyway because the man is just begging and doing a side part-time hustle for a living and he doesn't have the money to take care of himself. If the man is not happy and down on himself and his brothers should I advise that he seek prayer and resources elsewhere? What prayer can we offer for these people?
Please give me your comments on this.