Relationships

[Renee M. Clerk]

Relationships Current mood: relaxed
Category: rejuvenated Goals, Plans, Hopes

Hello All,

I would like to talk about relationships. I realize that compatibility is a very big issue. It is not important whether the prospect and yourself enjoy the same colors, it is far more important that you share the same core values. I realize that men usually marry the woman that most remind them of their mother. Therefore if the mother is ignorant, ghetto, and support illegal activity and you are the kind of woman that is not for those things you will probably not be the one he wants to marry.

After I came out of this last relationship, I gained some very valuable insight. It taught me to make sure that I am the kind of mother that I would want my boys to want to marry. Someone that will be supportive of them when they are doing right, and rebuke them when they are wrong. Someone who will never promote immoral or illegal activity of my children, after all if I love them I want the best for them, and ending up in the pen does not constitute what is best because I'm getting a cut. I also learned that if I see that my children have any issues far as anger, rage, etc. that I get them the necessary help they need. It is my responsibility or else they will grow up to be grown men and be a menance to the woman in their lives and society as a whole eventually. It taught me to always tell my children the truth and not flatter them with lies to get what I want, because to do that, they will not grow healthy. They will be building on a cracked foundation if I tell them lies to feed an over inflated ego. That would not be me loving my children but hurting them.

I also learned that sometimes the best way to help my children is to let them figure some things out on their own. Put the right things in them from the beginning and when they are grown at least I know that they are equipped with the proper wisdom, and I won't have to be guilt tripping and meddling when it is too late and the help I would call myself giving at that time would be actually crippling them instead of helping them.

I learned to be sure and forgive my children's father, for if there is any bitterness or unforgiveness, I would be prone to try to vicariously live my life through my children and wreck havoc on all their relationships by meddling and purposely manipulating and controlling them to do things that I want them to do and it would not be in their best interest.

I realized that the kind of man that is for me will be God-fearing, ambitious, supportive, dependable, reliable, independent, a gentleman, will possess a thorough vocabulary, knows who he is in Christ so he will not be intimidated by me and what it is that I do, but he will undoubtedly assume the position, know how to stand up for the woman that he loves, not a momma's boy, will be self confident, not arrogant, thorough, not shallow, and very well seasoned. He can't be 40 still wishing and thinking like a 20 year old and he most definitely must be rooted and grounded in the Word of God.

In Christ,

Lady Renee