How to make love to your spouse
How to make love to your spouse
I heard a great story from one of the ministers that I would love to share with you, on a elderly couple trying to refresh their love for one another.
A couple that had been married for 50 years sat reflecting one day. The wife said, “Things have really changed over the years. You used to sit real close to me. But you haven’t done that for a while.” “Well I can fix that.” said the man as he got up and moved closer to his wife.
“You used to hold me real tight.” said the wife. So the man wrapped his arms around his wife and asked, “How’s that?”
She continued to say, “You used to nuzzle my neck and nibble on my ear lobes.” At that the man jumped up from the couch and dashed out of the room. When he returned she asked him where he had been. “I had to go get my teeth.” Was the reply.
Well I loved that story and laughed myself on the floor, and hoping that when I get tha age, I hope I will have all my teeth.
Despite many attacks leveled against marriage, most young people today hope to get married and stay married. But it takes a lot of adjustment to be happily married. We must learn to understand the other gender and to take two wills and blend them into a new combined third will. But sometimes it is like a hotdog with bun , mustard and a wiener with catsup, onions and relish . Where some people might not like all that on their hotdog just want the wiener and bun and mustard.The combined union separates into two wills.
All human beings seek two things in life security and significance. But the genders tend to lean in opposite ways. Generally, women value security above significance, while most men value significance above security.
God wants Christian husbands to be gentle initiators and Christian wives to be confident responders. Yes, this often – though not always -- makes for a better marriage; but it is first and foremost God’s revealed will.
Marriage is the most intimate relationship we will ever have. As much as we need other relationships, the marriage relationship is the most intimate, and perhaps the most complicated. It affects our other relationships as well. Kids, work, friends, and family. This controversial passage has been misused over the years.
We must listen each other to understand what our needs are from each other and not act like we know more than your spouse and know what he or she deserves in a relationship. It is almost like making a hotdog, if we just ask the spouse what they want out of their love in marriage, you will know what they like and you all will work together to perfect any situation that comes upon you all.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:22-33
“Headship is not dictatorship.” Headship in Biblical thinking has to do with being first rather than being in charge. The concept of headship is no about authority and dominance, but about love and leadership.
While the husband cannot really save the wife, the way Christ saves the Church, but husbands can go along way to influencing their families to the positive or negative.
Most men think that they are the dictator and the ruler, but they must be in Christ for their wife to submit to them in love. Wives would treat their husbands with a lot of respect if only the man would act like he has Christ in their life. If that man is not in church and praying for guidance to take care of his family, it will not work out in that relationship, because he did not pray for God to help him out.
That’s why it is important for the man to sit down at the table and bless it for supper and pray together in the morning and at night before they go to sleep. That builds up character in him as the husband in Christ.
So families stay prayed up every day and make love to each all you can to keep your spirits combined to one another. That is God’s blessing for husband and wife to be in strong love for one another.
I heard a great story from one of the ministers that I would love to share with you, on a elderly couple trying to refresh their love for one another.
A couple that had been married for 50 years sat reflecting one day. The wife said, “Things have really changed over the years. You used to sit real close to me. But you haven’t done that for a while.” “Well I can fix that.” said the man as he got up and moved closer to his wife.
“You used to hold me real tight.” said the wife. So the man wrapped his arms around his wife and asked, “How’s that?”
She continued to say, “You used to nuzzle my neck and nibble on my ear lobes.” At that the man jumped up from the couch and dashed out of the room. When he returned she asked him where he had been. “I had to go get my teeth.” Was the reply.
Well I loved that story and laughed myself on the floor, and hoping that when I get tha age, I hope I will have all my teeth.
Despite many attacks leveled against marriage, most young people today hope to get married and stay married. But it takes a lot of adjustment to be happily married. We must learn to understand the other gender and to take two wills and blend them into a new combined third will. But sometimes it is like a hotdog with bun , mustard and a wiener with catsup, onions and relish . Where some people might not like all that on their hotdog just want the wiener and bun and mustard.The combined union separates into two wills.
All human beings seek two things in life security and significance. But the genders tend to lean in opposite ways. Generally, women value security above significance, while most men value significance above security.
God wants Christian husbands to be gentle initiators and Christian wives to be confident responders. Yes, this often – though not always -- makes for a better marriage; but it is first and foremost God’s revealed will.
Marriage is the most intimate relationship we will ever have. As much as we need other relationships, the marriage relationship is the most intimate, and perhaps the most complicated. It affects our other relationships as well. Kids, work, friends, and family. This controversial passage has been misused over the years.
We must listen each other to understand what our needs are from each other and not act like we know more than your spouse and know what he or she deserves in a relationship. It is almost like making a hotdog, if we just ask the spouse what they want out of their love in marriage, you will know what they like and you all will work together to perfect any situation that comes upon you all.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church for we are members of his body. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:22-33
“Headship is not dictatorship.” Headship in Biblical thinking has to do with being first rather than being in charge. The concept of headship is no about authority and dominance, but about love and leadership.
While the husband cannot really save the wife, the way Christ saves the Church, but husbands can go along way to influencing their families to the positive or negative.
Most men think that they are the dictator and the ruler, but they must be in Christ for their wife to submit to them in love. Wives would treat their husbands with a lot of respect if only the man would act like he has Christ in their life. If that man is not in church and praying for guidance to take care of his family, it will not work out in that relationship, because he did not pray for God to help him out.
That’s why it is important for the man to sit down at the table and bless it for supper and pray together in the morning and at night before they go to sleep. That builds up character in him as the husband in Christ.
So families stay prayed up every day and make love to each all you can to keep your spirits combined to one another. That is God’s blessing for husband and wife to be in strong love for one another.
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