Why aren't you married?" has to be the single most asked question I get at this point in my life. What does a person mean when he poses this question?
Is he really asking me, "What is wrong with you?" It sure feels like it!
Although I usually give a polite response such as, "I am just waiting on God," what I really want to shout at the top of my lungs is: "To tell you the truth--I don't know. But I am not really worried about it. I am happy just the way I am. Now leave me alone!"
Singleness, first of all, is not a sickness to be cured, a disease to rid the world of or a plague that threatens the very fabric of our culture. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single.
I don't need deliverance from singlehood. I don't need healing from it. I am just fine. I'm normal, healthy and whole.
When David wrote, "I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works" (Ps. 139:14, NKJV), he wasn't talking about being paired in a perfect union with another person. He meant that he was fabulous exactly the way God made him.
For the record: Yes, I want to get married one day. Yes, I want to have children.
Yes, I know I am 31. But I also know that God has a divine and awesome plan for my life. He has started a good work in me and will be faithful to complete it (see Phil. 1:6).
At the right time He will reveal the right person, and I will no longer be single. But in the meantime--and I want to be very clear about this--I am single. I am not impaired, and neither are you!
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