Whats your thoughts on the high divorce rate between Pastors and there spouses?

The divorce rate is really high among Pastors and there spouses , in many cases both are Pastors together in Ministry. The divorce rate is very high in the world. Are we being a good witness to the world. Do you think two Pastors. or two Christians, can take the true word of God , prayer and counseling to save there marriage? Not judging just dialog.Lets hear your comments.

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Anthony R. Watson,
Thanks for your comments great Man Of God. Great views. from you and all who are responding.
A rose by any other name would smell as sweet. Remove the title co-pastor and just do the job. LOL

I have a question...is President Obama's wife a politician by title or does she just do political work because she is married to the President? Do we call her co-President? No but does she work the work of politics alongside her husband. Of course.

We get caught up on titles so much it is ridiculous.

The wives who embrace the title co-pastor co-labor in ministry just like the ones who go by First Lady or those who go by the simple title of wife.

You can't be married to a pastor and not help with the responsibility in some form or another.

The sad thing is when the wife realizes that the responsibilty and pressure of being married to a pastor is more than she bargained for...THEN you have a problem
There's a big difference between a Pastor and a "First Lady".
It is the major sign of the end time. The devil is out to destroy our messages through our lifestyles. When there is no difference between the church and the world, then, we have lost our moral voice. Sinners will stay as they are, since there is no difference.
Divorce among ministers is really a stumbling block to Christ and the gospel and these people will pay for it.
People destroying the highest calling of God in Christ through careless living will have a greater damnation.
May our lives and ministries never become a stumbling block.
May our lives and ministries never become a curse.
Trevor yes there is a difference but if you remove the title co-pastor and she does the same things she was doing under that title...would it be less offensive?

What I'm saying is are her responsibilities so few that she is not an asset nor could be a detriment to the pastor?

I've known many a "First Lady" to preach from the pulpit, teach, co-counsel with their husbands, make business decisions for the church, pray with their husbands about a decision for the body, and many other things leading alongside their husbands but NEVER taking on the title of co-pastor. I agree that this title is a new trend but not a new concept.

In the past, Christian protocol would forbid the wife stepping in for the husband should he get sick or pass away. But also you didn't have first lady's who were learned enough and experienced in doing the job either. Nowadays we have Hilary Clinton type First Ladies in the church.

See my position is that I'm neither for nor against the husband and wife co-pastor team.

Biblically speaking, and I laugh when I say this, a woman could be a judge but not run an army and yet the man who ran the army went to her for counsel on how to run the army.

Seemibgly, men need that position of authority. Yall are imasculinated without it.

I'm not a feminist but I do look at behavioral patterns of the two sexes and it has lead me to some questions that I hope some folk on BPN will address.

I will have to post my questions in another discussion so stay tuned.
If a female does not take the title of Pastor but does the work of it, it actually the same thing as an Apostle doing the work of an Apostle but not taking the name of it. If a wife does the work, then she should be ordained for it. A First Lady who does all that a Co-Pastor does is not just a First Lady, she a Pastor! The position of Co-Pastor is reserved for the second in command, not just for the wife. It is like the Vice President, not the Hilary Clinton.
Ordain - 1 : to invest officially (as by the laying on of hands) with ministerial or priestly authority
2 a : to establish or order by appointment, decree, or law : enact

Its funny that you mention ordination because I've been looking for biblical examples of ordination and ordination ceremonies and whether one or both were mandatory for working in any capacity or service in ministry.

What do you think of this interesting article I found titled: "What does the Bible say about ordination?"

The modern definition of ordination is “the investiture of clergy” or “the act of granting pastoral authority or sacerdotal power.” Usually, we think of an ordination service as a ceremony in which someone is commissioned or appointed to a position within the church. Often, the ceremony involves the laying on of hands.

However, the biblical definition is a little different. The word ordain in the Bible refers to a setting in place or designation; for example, Joseph was “ordained” as a ruler in Egypt (Acts 7:10); the steward in Jesus’ parable was “ordained” to oversee a household (Matthew 24:45); deacons were “ordained” to serve the Jerusalem church (Acts 6:1-6); and pastors were “ordained” in each city in Crete (Titus 1:5). In none of these cases is the mode of ordination specified, nor is any ceremony detailed; the “ordinations” are simply appointments. The word can even be used negatively, as an appointment to punishment (Luke 12:46).

Acts 13 includes a good example of a ministerial appointment: “While they were worshiping the Lord and fasting, the Holy Spirit said, ‘Set apart for me Barnabas and Saul for the work to which I have called them.’ So after they had fasted and prayed, they placed their hands on them and sent them off. The two of them, sent on their way by the Holy Spirit, went down to Seleucia” (vv. 2-4). In this passage, we note some key facts: 1) It is God Himself who calls the men to the ministry and qualifies them with gifts (Acts 20:28; Ephesians 4:11). 2) The members of the church recognize God’s clear leading and embrace it. 3) With prayer and fasting, the church lays hands on Paul and Barnabas to demonstrate their commissioning (cf. Acts 6:6; 1 Timothy 5:22). 4) God works through the church, as both the church and the Spirit are said to “send” the missionaries.

Paul regularly ordained pastors for the churches he planted. He and Barnabas directed the appointment or ordination of elders “in each church” in Galatia (Acts 14:23). He instructed Titus to “appoint elders in every town” on Crete (Titus 1:5). Titus himself had been ordained earlier, when “he was chosen by the churches” (2 Corinthians 8:19). In the above passages, the ordination of elders involves the whole congregation, not just the apostles. The Greek word used in 2 Corinthians 8:19 for Titus’s appointment and in Acts 14:23 for the choosing of the Galatian elders literally means “to stretch forth the hands.” It was a word normally used for the act of voting in the Athenian legislature. Thus, the ordination of church leaders involved a general consensus in the church, if not an official vote. The apostles and the congregations knew whom the Spirit had chosen, and they responded by placing those men in leadership.

When God calls and qualifies a man for the ministry, it will be apparent both to that man and to the rest of the church. The would-be minister will meet the qualifications set forth in 1 Timothy 3:1-16 and Titus 1:5-9, and he will possess a consuming desire to preach (1 Corinthians 9:16). It is the duty of the church elders, together with the congregation, to recognize and accept the calling. After that, a formal commissioning ceremony—an ordination service—is appropriate, though by no means mandatory. The ordination ceremony itself does not confer any special power; it simply gives public recognition to God’s choice of leadership.


(women may not like what the article says)
Exactly
As promised.. here are my questions. I posted them in my blog

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