Recently I have learned why it is important to have boundarys when trying to establish a relationship. Most importantly why "it is good for a man not to touch a woman". 1Cor 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me; It is good for a man not to touch a woman. I have been divorced for nearly a year and a half needless to say its rough. I met someone a couple of weeks ago very easy to talk to like we have known each other for a long time. Very attractive woman. She expressed her desires how much she liked me, said she liked me alot. During our conversations I said we need to set boundaries. She said I could set them being I am the man. I said kissing is okay unless it gets to heated then it has to stop. I said holding hand is good even better than kissing. Well we kissed on the lips, the next day we kissed and hugged; and then I heard mmm exude from her as we embraced. I began to feel uncomfortable.This lady never been married and has not been with a man for two years. I did not talk to her for two days trying to figure out what I was doing and what I should do. right away god hit me with 1Cor7:1. I looked up the word touch one meaning said to set on fire. so I explained and ended it. Do you think touching is okay?

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if it's sets you a fire brother flee, the scripture states that it is good for a MAN not to touch a woman, but I think were the mistake was made, you under estimated the woman, the woman entrapped you, agreeing to your terms but from what you describe she was ready for whatever you were ready for, and that mmmmmm was another invitation.

As for your question, it is an individuals personal obligation to control the members of their bodies,
Brother, I think you answered your own question with the scripture regarding men not touching a woman. Here is another scripture for you.

Proverbs 6:27 KJV
Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?

You are doing the right thing in keeping your distance. Kissing is not okay as that is definitely intimate touching. Such touching causes sexual arousal and should be fled away from. God Bless you brother.
when is kissing ok EW, keeping in mind the scriptures state for us to greet each other with a "holy kiss" just asking.
Sister the scripture said holy kiss right? When a man is kissing a woman on the lips, this is a sensual kiss. It is always a thin line to cross if a sister is kissing a brother. Many don't do it with good intentions. Now when we have visitors come over and we haven't seen each other in a while their may be an exchange of kisses but my husband is usually standing right there and likewise I if someone kisses him. It is usually harmless. (If holy)

I think all mature adults know when a kiss is not holy and meant for pleasure.
LoL, little gurl I love you(SMACK) and ain't nuthin you can do bout it
Well I wouldn't say that I was a little girl anymore but I know what you mean. I love you too Sis. and you can't do nuthin about it either. :) (Smack right back at ya)
yes it should be if any thing a holy kiss which was not the case here, however once I was aware of the fire I was starting I took the necessary steps to put out the flames. I can not say that she took it well, but she took it with grace. I explained how the boundarys that I set were not high enough for myself, and that she as you said was open for the ones I set. I know that when we follow scripture we cant go wrong. It was the holy spirit that spoke to my heart and corrected me. in obedience to what I was instructed I stopped what could have been very bad for both of us. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak; this is not an excuse to sin or except sinful behaviour.

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