how do you bounce back from being saved and going through a divorce

[JAMONICA NILES]

how do you bounce back and still keep your intergity

[prophetess m. brignac]

YOU DON'T "BOUNCE BACK", BECAUSE THE BREACHING AND DISSOLUTION OF THE MARITAL COVENANT IS A MAJOR EVENT, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY, FINANCIALLY, AND MENTALLY. BECAUSE IT IS A COVENANT, THAT WAS NEVER INTENDED TO BE BREACHED OR DESTROYED, IT IS GOING TO BE VERY PAINFUL, AND DRAINING, AND ONE''S GOAL SHOULD BE FOR TOTAL RESTORATION, SPIRITUALLY,MENTALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY, AND DELIVERANCE FROM WHATEVER STRONG-HOLDS OCCURED DURING THE COURSE OF THE MARRIAGE AND IT'S DETERIORATION. THIS VARIES FROM PERSON TO PERSON, AND SITUATION TO SITUATION. HAVING AND MAINTAINING AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIST IS AN ABSOLUT MUST, IF YOU'RE GOING TO EXIT THE SITUATION "INTACT', AND IT PROVIDES COMFORT, STRENGTH, WSDOM AND HEALING, AND IT MAINTAINS "INTEGRITY'. IT'S NOT CLEAR WHAT KIND OF INTEGRITY YOU'RE CONCERNED ABOUT, AND RATHER THAN HAVE ME GUESS, COULD YOU PROVIDE CLARITY? WHATEVER AREA IT'S IN, IT IS THE LORD WHO IS ABLE TO "KEEP US FROM FALLING", AND PROVIDES STRENGTH FOR US TO RESIST ANY AND EVERY FORM OF 'TEMPTATION! IF YOUR CONCERN IS FALLING IN THE FLESH, READ MY BLOG ENTITLED "NO NEED TO FORNICATE", ON THI SITE.
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[JAMONICA NILES]

well its not the desires of the flesh im worried about its mostly spirital ive gone through so much much with my husband the sexual desire is gone but spiritally it feels like a part of me is dead because i thought being married was a part of my walk with christ the church made me feel in prder to stay saved u need a husband so now i dont have a husband but see i feel as though he wasnt mine he wasnt saved for one thing and the bible let us know be not unequally yoke but i didnt know just came in to the church hadnt stared reading it for myself so when i came to the real knowledge of god things werent as they seemed and see its the strongholds or should i say weights i feel bound because i know saints going through bad marriages and they stayed here i am suppose to be this annointed woman of god going through a divorce but in order for me to line up with the will of god i had to live because his will wouldnt line up with my will

[Evangelist Altha Fugett]

Be not focused on people but on Jesus, get right back to what you were doing in church, NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS. Praise God like there is no tomorrow for you. Leap for your joy! Praise your way out of that fear and unhappiness

[Prophetess Gwendolyn H. Dillions]

I wanted to weigh in on this discussion having gone through a divorce two years ago. The question that the young lady asks implies that being saved somehow should preclude you from a calamity such as divorce. Although I would agree that you would think that being in covenant not only with your spouse but with God would save us from this terrible tragedy. As as you are now experiencing... it does not. That being said the Word tells me in

Romans 8:15 AMP: For [the Spirit which]you have now received[is] not a spirit of slavery to put you once more in bondage to fear

Often when we as Christians face a situation like divorce we are told that we need to pray more, fast more. We then go about doing just that and yet the change does not manifest... So then we go back to alter and we lay on face some more and we pray and fast and then we go back again. All the while the people in your church are saying to you, "You must not be praying enough you need to strengthen you faith". You then find yourself on this never ending treadmill that is producing energy but ...

[Prophetess Gwendolyn H. Dillions]

Cont... You are generating negative energy, because you have began to believe the doubt triggers the well meaning comments of the saints, family and friends that have been placed in your mind. That takes me back the scripture in Romans 8:15. God did not send his only son to die for us, for you then to be placed back into bondage and fear.
Beating yourself up because of a marriage that has failed places you in the role of victim and martyr. We as Christians love to play this role because it implies that I am super spiritual and because I am living what I think is a life that is pleasing to God due to the mere fact that I have stayed in my marriage(suffering).

Why are we so willing to play the role of martyr when Jesus has already paid the cost? God often wants to release us from the prison of fear and bondage but we stay, saying "This is the will of God."

The fear of being on your own is a big one, make no mistake...

[Prophetess Gwendolyn H. Dillions]

Cont....But by remaining in a marriage or any situation that places you in a place of bondage and fear when God is trying to propel you forward says that I am making a decision conscious or otherwise to stay and then you go back to fasting, praying and laying at the alter and you wonder what is happening why has God not answered...Suddenly(and you do know that God can do a suddenly) He in his infinite wisdom removes the very thing that you have been praying and fasting for( in the the name of Jesus mind you) because you have made that marriage, that job, that mate your god. As you know God will have no other God before Him.
I certainly do not know the particulars of your circumstance, but I hear your question as a common one among Christians. I want to assure you that in spite what you are going through in this season it is only God authenticating you for even greater work and glory. You are experiencing this test because you are equipped to go through it. Before you lose heart let me leave you with these two scriptures

[Prophetess Gwendolyn H. Dillions]

Psalm18:33-39 AMP: he makes my feet like hinds' feet [able to stand firmly while making progress on the dangerous heights of testing and trouble]; He sets me me securely upon my high places.
34: He teaches my hands to war, so that my arms can bend a bow of bronze.
35: You have also given me the shield of Your salvation, and that Your right hand has held me up; Your gentleness and condescension have made me great.
36: You have given plenty of room for my feet not to slip.
37: I pursued my enemies and overtook them; neither did I turn again till they were consumed.
38: I smote them so that they were not able to rise; they fell wounded at my feet.
39: For You have girded me with strength for the battle. Read Romans 8;17-18. You are about to experience God's Glory in a way that you have never experienced before. You have the VICTORY.
God's Peace and Abundance to you. Prophetess Gwen

[JAMONICA NILES]

thanks 4 that confirmation because i know that god has great things 4 me and i know one set back is not a knock out im getting up with more power more joy then i will be able to tell someone how to go through a bad marriage

[Tara Robinson]

Having gone through a divorce I would tell you don't worry about the shame or embarrassment of what you have gone through. If your image is important then that will be your worry. Know your not the first or the last person to suffer mixed emotions at this time when a breach has taken place you feel like your on a scale your thinking makes no sense and you feel like everyone is staring at you well some people are but most people are hurting for you sometimes.

I say to you that it will all take time you have to work at it as you would a job you wanna be promoted then do what it takes to get there. However God see's your heart break and pain more then anything don't forget to forgive your self a lot a times we forgive the EX but not our self for where we fell short. No one is perfect and life will go on allow God to love and restore you don't try and prove anything to anyone just be you and let God fight this battle.

[JAMONICA NILES]

tyhank u very much 4 that .thats exactly how i feel being in a church where alot of saints dont believe in divorces they believe u should take whatever your husband do to u i forgave him and ive forgiven my self i guess now im in the recovering stage keep me in prayer

[Prophetess Dr. Teloria Williams]

Praise Him! All the comments are great. God wants us to be good soldiers. Somethimes we experience things we don't understand when we know we have given everything to make the task. I too have been divorced and it gives you a sinking feeling like somehow I just wasn't good enough. It taught me not to second guess myself. It made me have a closer walk with God. Once you have reached a point of rejection after you have done all you could, stand. Know that God has your back. The greatest lesson I learned from my divorce was Forgiveness. My husband of 15+ years decided that he wanted to cheat. I look at life much differently now. I believe it was his loss not mine. I am the child of God and maybe, just maybe a had the wrong take on the situation. I don't believe in payback. I dug in deeper to the storehouse. I petitioned...

[Prophetess Dr. Teloria Williams]

the master to have his way in my life and told him I would accept his plan. This gave God authority to move in my life. Now I am relieved to see that he is still working strongly in my life. The marriage I had did not define me - my faith walk did. Go forth my sister. God has a magnificent plan for your life. Seek God in every aspect. He will guide you. God Bless
Pastor Teloria Williams
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