what is mustabation

[Daniel]

Mustabation

[Scott R. Newman]

Masturbation is a sin because a person consents in their own mind to take satisfaction from impure thoughts. It is sinful to take gratification and pleasure by using one's imagination to FIXATE upon obscene images, or obscene actions, or forbidden sex. Lustfully fixating upon genitals, or sexual acts, is idolatry. This is called: the worship of obscenities. This is the sin of those addicted to pornography. That's often a "guy" thing. Alternatively, consenting to and consummating satisfaction in a fantasy of forbidden sexual romance, is the sin of adultery in the heart. That's often a "girl" thing. The act of masturbation is an outward act that confirms that one's heart and mind has consented to an inward act of impurity. Only by consenting to an imagined act of impurity can one attain orgasm. To attain sexual release, a person's will consents to LOVE something that is impure.

A sin consists in loving something that God hates. God hates any lie or injustice. God hates things like cruelty, or the torment or hatred of others. God hates the worship of ugliness or obscenity, or bestiality. God hates any act of intentionally causing another to sin, or in taking delight in the sin of another. God hates the degrading, or damaging, or lustful use of any of his children. It is primarily the sin of lust, or in taking delight in the lust of another person, that constitute sins of impurity. If one has committed sins of masturbation, one would say in the confessional: "I have committed sins of impurity with myself (mention a specific number)."

To fully understand why entertaining impure thoughts is sinful, one must understand the intimate love God has for souls. He is actually jealous of what our souls consent to love. His love is intimately personal! God passionately longs to be loved with the affection and loyalty of a spouse! As strange as it may seem, God's divine love for us is intense and personal. He loves us very much like a husband loves his spouse. In fact, God's love is actually more intimate than married love. God actually desires a spiritual, matrimonial union with the soul! The union of the soul in a state of grace is a participation in God's own divinity. In a state of grace the soul participates in the divine life of God through the Holy Spirit dwelling within him. Like committing adultery within a marriage, acts of masturbation break the souls covenant of fidelity with God. That is why, usually, acts of masturbation are mortal sins.

How would YOU feel if you knew that your spouse was masturbating, and fantasizing about being with someone else? How would you feel if you knew that your spouse was fantasizing about being with someone else, calling out their name, while having sex with you? You would be offended. You would be jealous! You would be angry! God feels very much the same way. In a state of grace, God has literally espoused the soul in a precious spiritual union. This spiritual union is EXACTLY what a "state of grace" consists in. The essence of the Christian Gospel, is Gods loving call to all human beings to accept His complete forgiveness for past sins, and to enter into a wonderful new life of spiritual union with Him in grace.

Masturbating, whether it be while watching a pornographic movie, or fixating upon obscene pictures, or using one's own imagination as a tool to focus upon a fantasy of forbidden sex, offends God's sense of intimacy and decency: just as such actions would offend a spouse! God considers such actions infidelities and they grievously offend him! For this reason, such actions gravely jeopardize the soul's state of unitive grace. By "cheating" on God, the Holy Spirit is offended by an "adultery of the heart." He flees, offended by such sins, and the soul is left alone! The mortal sin breaks the bond of the indwelling sanctifying grace of God! This of course, supposes that the person has ever really understood, or undergone a true christian conversion. Adolescents may still be "on the way."

The 10 Commandments are very clear: "I, the Lord, am a jealous God!" "Thou shalt not commit adultery!" "Thou shalt NOT COVET thy neighbors wife!" Jesus said: "If a man looks at a woman with lust in his eye, he has committed adultery with her in his heart." In another place he says: "If your right hand offends you ... cut it off! It is better to enter into heaven with only one hand, than to sin with your hand ... and go to hell." He concludes this teaching in the book of Revelation: "I am the Alpha and Omega, the Beginning and the End. I will reward with eternal life anyone who proves victorious! Eternal life is the inheritance for everyone who proves victorious! But, the legacy for cowards, for those who break their word, or for murderers, or fortunetellers, or fornicators, or those who worship obscenities-- and all idolaters, or any other sort of liar: is the second death in the burning lake of sulphur. (Rev. 21:8)

Saint Paul is also very clear: "Do not let anyone deceive you with empty arguments. Among you their must not even be mention of fornication, promiscuity, or impurity in any of it's forms! You can be quite certain that no one who actually indulges in promiscuity, or impurity - which is worshiping a a false god - can inherit any thing of the kingdom of God! Impure things that are done in secret, are things that people are ashamed even to speak of! Immoral behavior such as this brings down God's anger upon the children of disobedience. Make sure you are not included among them! You were in darkness once, but now you are light in the Lord! Be like children of light! The effects of this light are manifest by complete goodness, and truth, and right living. Anything exposed to the light will be illuminated, and anything illuminated turns into light. So, be very careful about the sort of lives you lead. Pray the psalms, and sing to the Lord in your heart! Everywhere you are, give thanks to the Lord! This may be a wicked age, but you can redeem it!" (Ephesians 5: 2-15)

Remaining pure is NOT easy. Living a pure life is the hardest thing in the world to do! So, it is NO surprise that people find it extremely difficult live up to Christian ideals. God is a loving father who understands this! He loves His children, and patiently nurtures them. He's always picking them up, dusting them off, and helping them along. But, it must be very clear what is right and wrong! Masturbation is wrong! If you could shoot heroin just once it wouldn't be so bad. But it never works out that way. Likewise, masturbation is not something people just do "occasionally." If the urge is not resisted, it quickly becomes a habit. It's a nasty habit of continually consenting mentally and spiritually to acts of sexual impurity.

It is very true that sexual tension's can be almost impossible to endure! Sometimes they feel unbearable. This is the most difficult generation in human history for widespread, unbridled sexual promiscuity. Human beings ARE sexual creatures! The instinct for sex can seem overwhelming! Sexual images, and pornographic enticements are everywhere! It is a slippery slope! From gorgeous fashion models, to the M-TV culture: the whole civilization is enticed into pride, lust, fornication, adultery, addiction to pornography, and consequently masturbation.

God's grace will prevail ... if a person will fight the fight! A person must be prepared to fall a hundred times, and to confess their sins each time. They must admit to their own human weakness, and continually pray not to be put to the test. As people become convinced of their own weakness, they grow in sincere humility. Then, Gods grace prevails! Remember, the grace of purity is only given to the humble! To "prove victorious" in anything, one needs to continually pray to be delivered from temptation! Human beings are dependent upon God in every aspect of their emotional lives. As one grows in his dependence upon God, one learns that he can only be victorious when God Himself delivers. This applies to all temptations, anxieties, or addictions! Vigilance must remain the work of a lifetime! People must never stop seeking the forgiveness and grace of God, asking for his help, getting up and trying again. God forgives a million times a million times! He anticipates men with his grace. He continually gives new strength. He perfects men a step at a time! Not in a month, or a year, but in a life time!

"My offenses: truly I know them." - Psalm 51