WHY DO WOMEN ASK SO MANY DARN QUESTIONS?!!!
RECENTLY, I READ A POSTING IN YAHOO FROM A PERSON WHO WAS ANGRY ABOUT WOMEN ASKING TOO MANY QUESTIONS. HERE'S WHAT THEY POSTED:
"Not to be a pill in the mud, but you women ask a lot of dern questions. I give tours at a museum, and before the tour of the house I specifically say I'm not here to sell you anything, and that I'm just here to talk about the house- not pricing or specifics on manufactuars. Two minutes into my tour, the questions began about "What's this over here?", "Where's that door go?", "Why is one of the light bulbs not working?" ALL women by the way- as it was a all female tour, ranging from 60 year-olds to one 5 year-old brat I told to shut up when she said "Hey mister, you know there's a piece of chipped paint over here."
My question is why women ask so many damn questions? WHY? You wonder why so many men cheat on you. All you do is nag and nag, and ask and ask. For what reason? I specifically told the group NO QUESTIONS about anything with pricing, or engineering. One lady had asked "Well what's this door over here for?" I told her it was for the maitenanence guy! Which it was. Then she looked at me blankly, and found something else to ask about.
I think women ask questions to just ask. You don't really care what the answer is. When I have men on my tour, they never ask stupid questions not relevant to the tour. So please explain. And I'm not being sexist. I've observed this for quite some time! "What company makes this?" I said "UHhh, ma'am I don't live in the house! I just give tours. Ask the archetiech if you want those answered." IDIOTS."
OBVIOUSLY THIS PERSON WAS EXTREMELY FRUSTRATED WITH WOMEN ASKING SO MANY QUESTIONS.
IS THIS WHAT HAPPENS IN DISCUSSIONS ABOUT GOD'S WORD AND SPIRITUAL MATTERS? DO WOMEN ASK WAY TOO MANY QUESTIONS?
MY NEXT QUESTION, BEING A WOMAN, IS WHY DON'T MEN ASK SOME OF THOSE SAME QUESTIONS? I DON'T MEAN THE FRIVILOUS QUESTIONS BUT THE REALLY PROBING "WHY" KIND OF QUESTIONS?
MAYBE WE WOMEN WANT TO KNOW THE WHY MORE THAN THE WHAT. THAT WHY MAY LEAD TO ANOTHER WHY QUESTION. YES, IT COULD SEEM LIKE ENDLESS QUESTIONING BUT DOES THAT CURIOSITY REALLY KILL THE CAT??
Look at this scripture:
I Corinthians 14:34-35
34 The women are to keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves, just as the Law also says.
35 If they desire to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is improper for a woman to speak in church.
hmmmm....Women or Wives?
We must also bear in mind that the Greeks had only one word for both woman and wife-- the word "gune". The same word that Paul uses in 1 Cor 14:34 is translated "wives" in many passages such as Matthew 19:8, "Jesus replied, 'Moses permitted you to divorce your wives...'" and many others including Ephesians 5:25 and 1 Peter 3:1. So when Paul writes, "Let the women keep silent" he uses a word with two meanings! He may well be referring to "wives" who are unconverted and untaught-- the very one that "prophesied" that "Jesus was accursed" as recorded in 1 Cor 12:3. The church at Corinth would know exactly which wife or wives he meant! For us today, we must rely on context clues to reveal whether Paul was talking of women in general or specific wives.
Paul was addressing all kinds of craziness that was happening with the Believers who lived in Corinth. They were a mess!
Now before you folks start jumping on your soap boxes, I'm NOT trying to start a discussion about women preachers, teachers, pastors and leaders. That is NOT what this discussion is about. I'm talking about women asking too many questions at what for some may be an inappropriate time. Some believe you shouldnt ask questions at all.. keep silent both at home and amongst the public body of Believers. Some don't like women questioning them at all. They believe questioning is controlling, or a rebellious act.
From childhood, at home and school, I was always taught that the only dumb question was the one you didn't ask. So, I didn't restrain my inquisitive nature. I became and am a "Why" person. And usually, my questions will lead to more questions until I have no more questions.
I guess the balance is discerning when is the right time to ask questions and learning just how many questions can a person handle before they explode -- LOL. Oftentimes this emotional explosion will be the other person whom you are questioning accusing you of whatever in a way of deflecting your questioning off them and putting the focus on what they don't like about you. That is often easier for them to do rather than just answer your questions.
You see, when I read the above scripture that Paul wrote, of course the obvious question to me would be, where do the unlearned and untaught women get their questions answered if there is no man in the home? If the word "women" in that passage is interchangeable with the word "wives", then would that mean that the unmarried "women" would just remain silent and ignorant? (this is a typical woman's thought process LOL) I'm not a feminist because I am neither pro-man nor pro-woman, I'm pro-people.
The Yahoo blogger assumed people would perceive him as a "sexist" because of his frustration with women asking too many questions. Oddly enough, on the flip side of that, in the Black Church women who ask a lot of questions are often considered....controlling or controlled by the Spirit of Jezebel. Weird huh? The Yahoo blogger called those women IDIOTS and the some in tehBlack Church call those women Jezebel.
Could it just be something as simple as men and women process infomation differently and not the negative stigma of being a sexist or under Jezebel's spiritual control? And because we process information differently we need to learn how to communicate with one another.....differently?
*sigh*
I've tested several people here on BPN and I realized I can't ask them a series of questions. I have to ask them one question at a time or I'll never get an answer to all my questions. I see several others making the same mistake. They post 5-10 questions in response to a discussion and rarely get one or any of their questions answered. The discussion will then turn into a name-calling brawl and you sit back and wonder... did anyone ever answer the questions that were asked?
Again, I *sigh*
"Not to be a pill in the mud, but you women ask a lot of dern questions. I give tours at a museum, and before the tour of the house I specifically say I'm not here to sell you anything, and that I'm just here to talk about the house- not pricing or specifics on manufactuars. Two minutes into my tour, the questions began about "What's this over here?", "Where's that door go?", "Why is one of the light bulbs not working?" ALL women by the way- as it was a all female tour, ranging from 60 year-olds to one 5 year-old brat I told to shut up when she said "Hey mister, you know there's a piece of chipped paint over here."
My question is why women ask so many damn questions? WHY? You wonder why so many men cheat on you. All you do is nag and nag, and ask and ask. For what reason? I specifically told the group NO QUESTIONS about anything with pricing, or engineering. One lady had asked "Well what's this door over here for?" I told her it was for the maitenanence guy! Which it was. Then she looked at me blankly, and found something else to ask about.
I think women ask questions to just ask. You don't really care what the answer is. When I have men on my tour, they never ask stupid questions not relevant to the tour. So please explain. And I'm not being sexist. I've observed this for quite some time! "What company makes this?" I said "UHhh, ma'am I don't live in the house! I just give tours. Ask the archetiech if you want those answered." IDIOTS."
OBVIOUSLY THIS PERSON WAS EXTREMELY FRUSTRATED WITH WOMEN ASKING SO MANY QUESTIONS.
IS THIS WHAT HAPPENS IN DISCUSSIONS ABOUT GOD'S WORD AND SPIRITUAL MATTERS? DO WOMEN ASK WAY TOO MANY QUESTIONS?
MY NEXT QUESTION, BEING A WOMAN, IS WHY DON'T MEN ASK SOME OF THOSE SAME QUESTIONS? I DON'T MEAN THE FRIVILOUS QUESTIONS BUT THE REALLY PROBING "WHY" KIND OF QUESTIONS?
MAYBE WE WOMEN WANT TO KNOW THE WHY MORE THAN THE WHAT. THAT WHY MAY LEAD TO ANOTHER WHY QUESTION. YES, IT COULD SEEM LIKE ENDLESS QUESTIONING BUT DOES THAT CURIOSITY REALLY KILL THE CAT??
Look at this scripture:
I Corinthians 14:34-35
34 The women are to keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves, just as the Law also says.
35 If they desire to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is improper for a woman to speak in church.
hmmmm....Women or Wives?
We must also bear in mind that the Greeks had only one word for both woman and wife-- the word "gune". The same word that Paul uses in 1 Cor 14:34 is translated "wives" in many passages such as Matthew 19:8, "Jesus replied, 'Moses permitted you to divorce your wives...'" and many others including Ephesians 5:25 and 1 Peter 3:1. So when Paul writes, "Let the women keep silent" he uses a word with two meanings! He may well be referring to "wives" who are unconverted and untaught-- the very one that "prophesied" that "Jesus was accursed" as recorded in 1 Cor 12:3. The church at Corinth would know exactly which wife or wives he meant! For us today, we must rely on context clues to reveal whether Paul was talking of women in general or specific wives.
Paul was addressing all kinds of craziness that was happening with the Believers who lived in Corinth. They were a mess!
Now before you folks start jumping on your soap boxes, I'm NOT trying to start a discussion about women preachers, teachers, pastors and leaders. That is NOT what this discussion is about. I'm talking about women asking too many questions at what for some may be an inappropriate time. Some believe you shouldnt ask questions at all.. keep silent both at home and amongst the public body of Believers. Some don't like women questioning them at all. They believe questioning is controlling, or a rebellious act.
From childhood, at home and school, I was always taught that the only dumb question was the one you didn't ask. So, I didn't restrain my inquisitive nature. I became and am a "Why" person. And usually, my questions will lead to more questions until I have no more questions.
I guess the balance is discerning when is the right time to ask questions and learning just how many questions can a person handle before they explode -- LOL. Oftentimes this emotional explosion will be the other person whom you are questioning accusing you of whatever in a way of deflecting your questioning off them and putting the focus on what they don't like about you. That is often easier for them to do rather than just answer your questions.
You see, when I read the above scripture that Paul wrote, of course the obvious question to me would be, where do the unlearned and untaught women get their questions answered if there is no man in the home? If the word "women" in that passage is interchangeable with the word "wives", then would that mean that the unmarried "women" would just remain silent and ignorant? (this is a typical woman's thought process LOL) I'm not a feminist because I am neither pro-man nor pro-woman, I'm pro-people.
The Yahoo blogger assumed people would perceive him as a "sexist" because of his frustration with women asking too many questions. Oddly enough, on the flip side of that, in the Black Church women who ask a lot of questions are often considered....controlling or controlled by the Spirit of Jezebel. Weird huh? The Yahoo blogger called those women IDIOTS and the some in tehBlack Church call those women Jezebel.
Could it just be something as simple as men and women process infomation differently and not the negative stigma of being a sexist or under Jezebel's spiritual control? And because we process information differently we need to learn how to communicate with one another.....differently?
*sigh*
I've tested several people here on BPN and I realized I can't ask them a series of questions. I have to ask them one question at a time or I'll never get an answer to all my questions. I see several others making the same mistake. They post 5-10 questions in response to a discussion and rarely get one or any of their questions answered. The discussion will then turn into a name-calling brawl and you sit back and wonder... did anyone ever answer the questions that were asked?
Again, I *sigh*
Replies to This Discussion
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Permalink Reply by Evangelist Altha Fugett on
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One of the most powerful and challenging questions asked is "why" because most people don't have a clue to "why".
since you brought up Paul, it prompts me to think, that maybe the women asked, why and the men didn't know "why" including Bro. Paul, since he was one that got so frustrated lol........yes sigh
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Permalink Reply by HOPE - Psalm 43:5 on
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I guess I'm just raising the question as to why that would be the having a Jezebel Spirit would be the label given to a woman who asks too many questions?
Granted, there are many many other areas where women can be and are controlling but why is asking questions a bad thing?
I must admit, I have been wanting to take a mind reading class but just can't seem to find one. And I've often wondered if learning is by osmosis LOL
Even Paul said that they could ask questions.. but just do it at home. But like you said, what if the husbands don't know the answers. Should both husband and wife just wallow in their ignorance or go ask someone a question?
Oddly enough, sometimes learning is like a maze. You may find some brick wall people before you find those who will help you and sincerely answer your questions.
Discernment is great but it doesn't answer all questions.
I know it sounds like I'm rambling but I've sat in many bible studies where people just sat back and listened to everything being said and didn't ask one question...but afterwards in the side conversations you would hear them saying they didnt understand something. I shake my head because the waters were being stirred in Bible Study ESPECIALLY when the teachers say "feel free to ask a question".
I was in a class when again the teacher mentioned the Queen of Heaven. I looked around and saw frowns on people's faces girl, I just had to raise my hand and ask... "who is the Queen of Heaven"? My teacher just said do a bible study on it. Then she looked around and realized others had the same question but wouldnt ask it and then she gave us more info and then encouraged us to do a personal bible study on it.
A good teacher won't just give you the answer, they may sit back and wait for you to ask a question KNOWING you don't understand something they just said.
Jesus did this with the disciples when He would explain the parables to them AFTER they asked a question about it. They could have just nodded and kept walking after Jesus recited a parable but they asked questions. As a matter of fact, they questioned Jesus a lot about things they didnt understand.
Sometimes questions aren't the fruit of a nagging person but the fruit of a THIRSTY person or a detailed oriented person!
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Permalink Reply by Archbishop Trevor 'Elihu' Greene on
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In that case, I should be a female! I'm HIGHLY detailed with my questions and comments. It is my understanding that if I lack detail, I lack understanding and the full scope of the matter. When I was a gang-member/leader, I paid close attention to detail and asked alot of questions because the answer I didn't receive could have cost me or a friend my life.I went to trial and was convicted and sentenced to 3 1/2 yrs in prison. During that year of fighting my case, I became the most detailed person I know!! They pick and pry at the simplest of details from the significant, to "what did you eat for breakfast that day?" They asked me details about issues that had absolutely NOTHING to do with the issue. In the end, I learned that if one single piece out of the puzzle is missing, its an incomplete picture, even if you already know what the picture is supposed to look like.
Why is a powerful question, because it takes you past the surface and brings you to the core.
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LOL Trevor is in touch with his "why" side
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At work a major requirement for my job is to be detailed oriented. I proof the worship guide I proof the worship screens I have to be sure every "jot and tittle" is in place per se. I guess if I were to pick a job from the OT I would want to be a Scribe. (Albeit I would have to become a man to do it. LOL)
Give me details down to correct grammar and punctuation. I have to realy watch myself bcuz I will automatically start correcting folk in regular converstion forgetting I'm not at work. And then posting info online from my phone and not be able to correct spelling or punctuation errors drives me nuts!
So Trev, is your fiancee' detail oriented "why woman"???
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and other times one can remain in ..bliss (smile/wink)
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Permalink Reply by Chaplain Pat Harris on
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LOL, LOL, LOL . . . .I needed this chuckle. Thanks for sharing the Lockhorns.
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No, she isn't. She's like the "guy". She's not a very detailed person, especially in conversation, at least, in comparison to me.
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