WHAT! Is this an epidemic among blacks?

I am very sure that you have heard the growing numbers of black brothas going off and marrying foreign women, leaving our sistas behind, and black sistas going off and marrying foreign men, leaving our brothas behind.

Why does the brotha date outside his race?

What is wrong with the black sista?

Is she full of drama, too much independancy and stuck up?

Does the black women possess the "wifey" qualities of unconditional love, homekeeper, love God's word, caring, loving, gentle, femine, etc.. you know... proverbs 31?

Foreign women, prefebably Asian, posses those qualities... Are there any sistas out there that do?

Why does the sista date outside his race?

What is wrong with the black brotha?

Is he a no good, dead beat man who has no goals and dreams?

Does he always put the black woman down?

Does the black man posses the security, fatherly love, husband qualities, unconditional love, etc, that a black woman needs?

Foreign men, prefebably Asian, posses those qualities... Are there any brothas out there that do?

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Permalink Reply by Minister Carolyn Gaynor on January 11, 2009 at 8:31pm

Amen my Sister Amen. . . I like what you have said that marriage is a partnership and if I might add "not a dictatorship". Another term you used is that the two "compliment" each other and neither "complains." Well bless the Lord. That is what you call having a help mate. Yes Sister Sheree' I'd love to chat with you my friend. Be blessed.

Minister Carolyn

Permalink Reply by Minister Carolyn Gaynor on January 11, 2009 at 5:43pm

James, are you doing research or are you going to jump back in on the discussion you started? (smile) I'd like to know what you think about the responses you are receiving from a biblical perspective.

Minister Carolyn

Permalink Reply by James Pierce on January 11, 2009 at 7:38pm

I guess I can say that people have their own preferences

Permalink Reply by Minister Carolyn Gaynor on January 11, 2009 at 8:38pm

I see you have no input, just questions. I hope that you have learned something from this discussion. The issue that you raised is a serious one. One in which men and women alike need to truly understand prior to entering a relationship. It is nice to have a preference,but will our personal preferences eventually hurt the one we say we love. A docile woman may or may readily or willingly express how she fills -- if she doesn't how would her mate ever know what is on her mind -- or does it not matter as long as she is like the Asian woman you referenced above? By the way, being a housekeeper, and the other characteristics/attributes are not all of the things that makes one a Proverbs 31 woman --- she is much more and can do so much more. Be blessed.

Permalink Reply by Minister Carolyn Gaynor on January 12, 2009 at 12:50am

Hello Reverend Busby,

I can only tell you what I would do in terms of living under that special set of circumstances. . .how I do things may not be how another would care for her family, job, and ministry of the Lord. But I will start a new forum as you wish.

Be Blessed,

Minister Carolyn

Permalink Reply by James Pierce on January 12, 2009 at 3:39pm

From the way you speak, you seem very passionate about this sort of topic. Cool your jets(laughing)

Permalink Reply by Minister Carolyn Gaynor on January 12, 2009 at 7:42pm

Passion is good my friend. If you are talking to me, yes I care deeply about relationships, especially having once loved one deeply and now having to start over again. Perhaps you have not experienced marriage and divorce like many of us have. The only difference is that very few preachers are willing to be transparent for fear of what others might think. . . Peace.

Permalink Reply by Sheree Graves on January 12, 2009 at 8:39pm

For real.............to me this is not a laughing matter. I've been married,divorced and I am a minister. Why wouldn't one be passionate.........I think he's young...(James)...maybe to young to understand the meat of the matter......I pray he never gets hurt in marriage or relationship with the opposite.

Permalink Reply by Minister Carolyn Gaynor on January 12, 2009 at 9:15pm

Good evening my Sister,

Yes our dear Brother James is rather young and Like YOU and I is still growing. I am grateful that our brother opened up the discussion, I believe it has been a blessing for those that are reading and those who have participated, including Brother James. Praise God for HIS mercy. Something to be said for aging and growing gracefully in the fullness of the Lord -- humility is a good thing. Our experiences at humble us, and in all of those things we endure in this life, to God be the Glory. Your prayer is righteous my Sister, I will touch and agree with you. May God's will be done. Amen

Peace.

Permalink Reply by Min. Jubilee on March 27, 2009 at 4:19pm

I think people date outside of thier race just as a matter of preference due to thier life experiences. It dosen't mean something is "wrong" with someone of the same race, it just means that they find beauty in a different skin color. Every race and individual human being has some positives and negatives about themselves so I don't think we can say as a whole certain races act this way and others act that way. Especially in America where we have a plefera of races and our own distict culture.