Christian Dating Red Flags

[Evangelist Cookie Hunter]

Christian Dating and Matchmaking

Potential Relationship Red Flags in Christian Dating


Here are some behaviors / events that might warrant "keeping your caution walls up" even longer than you normally would or should:

For Gals:


If your intuition ever makes you feel uneasy for any reason. (Do you want to be in a relationship where you feel uneasy?)
If he ever (ever) lies. You may legitimately decide to NOT give him a second chance. It's an all-too-common (virtually uncurable) male disease.
If he ever seems "pushy" in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable
If you sense any hint of dysfunctionality
If he frequently talks about previous relationships or relationship partners
If he frequently blames past relationship failures on his partner(s)
If he has been divorced more than once
If he compares you to others
If he doesn't look you in the eye
If his eyes frequently wander to others when you're together
If you sense selfishness early in the relationship. (It'll likely get worse.)
If he makes you pay for dates
If he is saddled with debt or bad credit
If he is ever unwilling to be completely up front and honest
If he seems to be covering something up
If he won't let you speak with previous partners
If he is unwilling to commit in the time frame you desire. (Not right or wrong, just different timelines, at least for now.)
If he will not respect your boundaries in any way
If he proposes marriage any time within the first 180 days

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For Guys:


If she is "clingy" to the point of making you uncomfortable
If she seems to view you as her path to happiness. (Happiness is an "inside game" she needs to have learned before now.)
If she continues flirting with others when you two are in a relationship
If it seems to you like she is "using you" in any way
If she has been divorced more than twice. (We "cut slack" more for gals here, because women may discover some mens' well-practiced deceit "too late.")

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Source: http://www.singlesoffaith.com/RedFlags.asp

[Evangelist Cookie Hunter]

Thats great. I was thinking of that post when i remembered i had this in my files. God bless!

[Kendra]

I think this sums it all up, LOL, for real

[Min. Jubilee]

If he constantly wants to talk about sex.
If he has issues like getting angry quickly.
If he is overly possesive of you even before marriage.
If he wants to isolate you from family and friends.
If shows any signs of potentially abusive behaviors!
If he is not spiritually compatable ie. he's a babe in Christ and you are a seasoned saint for example.

[Evangelist Cookie Hunter]

Oooo, Amen, Amen!!!!

[Evangelist Cookie Hunter]

I have another one: If he or she calls you any term of endearment within the first 3 phone calls- Baby, Honey, Dear(est), Sweetie, Wifey, Shugga, Pretty, Beautiful, Lovely, etc!