Society has caused or views to be altered from the creative mind of God. Who in his word never intended for the mind set in men to view themselves as superior, or women inferior. When we see through the eyes of love according to the word of God, it defines love as being, patient, kind, longsuffering, not haughty or puffed up it hopes all believes all, and endures all. Reading this in 1 Corinthians 13 I am reminded of my vows for better, or for worst, in sickness and in health, till death do us part. This love eliminates competition and levels the playing field. The truth of the matter is that God made us both man and women to be one flesh. Meaning true partnership it’s not that we are completely the same we have our differences that complements one another. In Genesis God took a rib from man and created women when we look at this from the science of anatomy and physiology. The rib is what protects the heart and keeps all other organs in its place. Meaning the women was designed to protect the heart of man and help keep us together both mentally and spiritually. If you ask any husband how many times within a year they may have experienced a mental or spiritual break down and their wives, not the voice of God became that still small voice of reason? The response would be a resounding “I don’t know”. In that same manner men according to God’s word should be a protection to the women Ephesians 5:25-27 reads. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless.
”Sacrificial love is not that man would give up his hobbies such as golfing, hunting or even football. These hobbies are an outlet and are healthy if not over indulgently done. Just as shopping, girls night out, or nail painting is to a women. There are two important steps God gave as our personal check off list in this scripture that has helped me, 1. Sacrifice and2.Santify. Sacrifice doesn’t mean to iron, clean the bathroom, or give up Monday night football this than becomes a list, and not love. People like lists. They like steps and procedures. Why? Because they feel like they are in control. If you do those things then you have fulfilled your obligation and your consciences are pacified. I call that “manipulation”. Why? Because you are only doing those things in order to receive praise or maybe even something else in return. When the women does not respond in the way you would have hoped for then disappointment comes and you stop doing those things you thought would make her happy. Disappointment to me means to be distant from the appointment of God. What is Gods appointment for mankind? “Unconditional love.” To sanctify means to set apart. When you marry someone you set them apart from the world. They are set apart for special protection, special care, for special attention, for a special purpose. When you get married, that is what you have done. You have taken her out of the world and set her apart because you want to devote special attention to her. As men we are to get back to the first job given to Adam of tilling the land, watching over it given special attention and protection to the wives God has given us so that it can be presented perfect. Before God presented women He gave Adam practice with the Garden of Eden. It is our job as men to put in to practice Gods word of love in deed and not in mere words. Just as the flower of the garden need special caring for to produce beautiful roses, so does our marriages. The authority of as my wife would say “HOH” meaning head of house that was so graciously given as a role in the home, was never given to man as a manipulative tool to control but rather, a platform of God’s love that starts from the head and covers the whole family.