THE GIVE & TAKE OF MARRIAGE
IN MARRIAGE THE OPPORTUNITY OF GIVE AND TAKE IS THE OPPORTUNITY TO HEAL THE CONFLICT . COMING CLEAN TELLING THE TRUTH IS THE FIRST STEP IN THE RESOLUTION . THAT'S WHERE HEALING BEGINS . FROM YOUR TRUTH COMES THE AUTHENTICITY THAT LEADS TO NEW RESOLUTION .
A FEW YEARS AGO I WAS CALLED UPON TO ENTER INTO A SITUATION EVERYONE THOUGHT WAS HOPELESS , GARY & SANDRA (names have been changed) HAD BEEN MARRIED FOR NINE HARD YEARS . EACH FELT HONOR-BOUND TO GO THE DISTANCE NO MATTER HOW THE LONG-TERM PROSPECTS DULLED THE POTENTIAL FOR A BLESSED LIFE . THOUGH THEIR RELATIONSHIP DID NOT WORK THEY WERE MORE CONCERNED WITH DOING WHAT THEY THOUGHT WAS THE RIGHT THING THAN DOING WHAT WOULD MAKE THEM HAPPY .
THEY EACH LIVED IN A UN-TRUTH SHELL COMPARED TO WHAT WAS POSSIBLE . I WAS ASKED TO SEE THEM UNDER THE GUISE OF AN ONGOING DISAGREEMENT ABOUT VACATIONS . SANDRA WANTED TO GO CAMPING . AND GARY WANTED TO STAY @ THE CHATEAU-FRONTENACE IN QUEBEC CITY CANADA . I HAD CONVERSATIONS WITH EACH OF THEM AND UPON MEETING THEM MY THOUGHTS WERE CONFIRMED . THIS COUPLE DID NOT WANT TO BE TOGETHER, ANY LONGER AND FOR WHATEVER THE REASON THEY KEPT THEMSELFS TOGETHER AND KEPT EACH OTHER IN TURMOIL .
I SAY THIS KNOWING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND WHAT TRULY DRAWS TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER BUT THIS RELATIONSHIP LOOKED LIKE A MISMATCH . MY REAL SERVICE WAS TO GET THEM TO TALK ABOUT WHAT WAS GOING ON BENEATH THE SURFACE . I SMOKED-OUT THE REAL ISSUES BY PROVIDING A BUFFER AND OPENING FOR BOTH TO LOOK @ THEIR CORE HIDDEN ITEMS JUST BENEATH THEIR UN-EXPLORED NOT TALKED ABOUT & NOT DEALT-WITH PROBLEMS .
THEIR CONVERSATIONS EXPLODED. EACH TOLD A STORY OF COMPROMISE , UN-HAPPINESS , AND LONGING FOR A DIFFERENT , MORE AUTHENTIC LIFE . BECAUSE THEY WERE GIVEN A FORUM TO TELL THEIR OWN PROTECTED HIDDEN STORIES TWO LIVES WERE SALVAGED AND BROUGHT BACK TOGETHER AS ONE . IN THIS CASE THAT I SHARE WITH YOU TELLING THE TRUTH JUST BELOW THE SURFACE WILL SHOW YOU THAT BY DOING SO YOU CAN OPEN-UP A CHANCE FOR HEALING AND CONFLICT MANAGEMENT IN ANY DIFFICULT PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP .
Robert D.Greener CCPE,NB.Phc.A.
(CCC) MINISTRY INTERNATIONAL
COPYRIGHT @ 04/10/07 @ Houston Texas 77429
A FEW YEARS AGO I WAS CALLED UPON TO ENTER INTO A SITUATION EVERYONE THOUGHT WAS HOPELESS , GARY & SANDRA (names have been changed) HAD BEEN MARRIED FOR NINE HARD YEARS . EACH FELT HONOR-BOUND TO GO THE DISTANCE NO MATTER HOW THE LONG-TERM PROSPECTS DULLED THE POTENTIAL FOR A BLESSED LIFE . THOUGH THEIR RELATIONSHIP DID NOT WORK THEY WERE MORE CONCERNED WITH DOING WHAT THEY THOUGHT WAS THE RIGHT THING THAN DOING WHAT WOULD MAKE THEM HAPPY .
THEY EACH LIVED IN A UN-TRUTH SHELL COMPARED TO WHAT WAS POSSIBLE . I WAS ASKED TO SEE THEM UNDER THE GUISE OF AN ONGOING DISAGREEMENT ABOUT VACATIONS . SANDRA WANTED TO GO CAMPING . AND GARY WANTED TO STAY @ THE CHATEAU-FRONTENACE IN QUEBEC CITY CANADA . I HAD CONVERSATIONS WITH EACH OF THEM AND UPON MEETING THEM MY THOUGHTS WERE CONFIRMED . THIS COUPLE DID NOT WANT TO BE TOGETHER, ANY LONGER AND FOR WHATEVER THE REASON THEY KEPT THEMSELFS TOGETHER AND KEPT EACH OTHER IN TURMOIL .
I SAY THIS KNOWING YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND WHAT TRULY DRAWS TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER BUT THIS RELATIONSHIP LOOKED LIKE A MISMATCH . MY REAL SERVICE WAS TO GET THEM TO TALK ABOUT WHAT WAS GOING ON BENEATH THE SURFACE . I SMOKED-OUT THE REAL ISSUES BY PROVIDING A BUFFER AND OPENING FOR BOTH TO LOOK @ THEIR CORE HIDDEN ITEMS JUST BENEATH THEIR UN-EXPLORED NOT TALKED ABOUT & NOT DEALT-WITH PROBLEMS .
THEIR CONVERSATIONS EXPLODED. EACH TOLD A STORY OF COMPROMISE , UN-HAPPINESS , AND LONGING FOR A DIFFERENT , MORE AUTHENTIC LIFE . BECAUSE THEY WERE GIVEN A FORUM TO TELL THEIR OWN PROTECTED HIDDEN STORIES TWO LIVES WERE SALVAGED AND BROUGHT BACK TOGETHER AS ONE . IN THIS CASE THAT I SHARE WITH YOU TELLING THE TRUTH JUST BELOW THE SURFACE WILL SHOW YOU THAT BY DOING SO YOU CAN OPEN-UP A CHANCE FOR HEALING AND CONFLICT MANAGEMENT IN ANY DIFFICULT PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP .
Robert D.Greener CCPE,NB.Phc.A.
(CCC) MINISTRY INTERNATIONAL
COPYRIGHT @ 04/10/07 @ Houston Texas 77429
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