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Comment by Rest Of God Ministries on May 9, 2009 at 2:03pm
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In Ezekiel 23 story of the 2 whorish sisters reveals that when Aholabah the younger sister saw the whoredoms of Aholah the elder, she became worst in every area. Look at Israel today how even though they are inpart blind to the gospel of Christ, but yet look at how the women of Israel dresses. They wouldn't be caught dead wearing some of the things the Christian women wear to church. It became so bad at the last church I went to until the pastor made only men sit on the front pews. The days of women dressing modestly are gone, and sexy dressing is in. When a women of God put on sexy clothing she is trying to seduce the minds of the men of God. Show a little bit, let a little bit hang out and maybe they will want to see more. They want to kindle a flame of hell fire in a man (passion and lust) and their excuse is that he should be in a higher place where things like this shouldn't affect him. Men are made of flesh and blood not Steel, sometimes it only takes a little heat before a fire gets kindled. And even Steel melts when you put enough heat to it. Aholabah became more horrible with acts of lewdness and she took her evil acts into the temple of God. Aholabah profaned the sanctuary and the sabbath, and she sacrificed her children to idols. They say that there is nothing wrong with looking sexy, lets look at the definition of the word sexy: Arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest. So I want to ask women today this question, Do you really want to look sexy, because God is going to judge you according to the actions done in your body.
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Comment by Mark H. Stevens, Th.D on May 4, 2009 at 9:46pm
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The children of Israel were lured away from their relationship with the Lord by sexual sin. God constantly warned Israel not to intermarry and fornicate with the heathen nations around them. Sexual intercourse unites the parties involved emotionally; this is called a SOUL TIE. This is why married couples are not truly married until they have sexual intercourse; it is the consummation of the marriage. When sex takes place between unmarried people they are still emotionally tied to one another, this is why Israel backslid and followed the god’s of other nations. The church is modern Israel! The devil uses the SAME tactics today! That is why pornography is a 90 billion dollar a year industry! Too many pastors have 1st ladies and 2nd ladies on the side! Too many choir directors are sweeter than the morning danish! Too many women in church are being used by Satan to help tempt men to sin! I won’t leave out anyone because there is enough blame to go around WE MUST REPENT! Solomon was the worlds wisest man in the world, he was anointed by God to lead the mightiest kingdom on earth, yet he threw it all away because his desire for women. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines, and the scripture say he LOVED THEM ALL! Satan knows that woman was created for man. God created woman not only to be a companion, but also as a helper and advisor. Satan always perverts what God creates. Remember King Ahab? He was Israel’s most wicked king, guess were he got all of his advice? His wife Jezebel!
(Romans chapter one; Proverbs 7:14-26; I Corinthians 7)
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Demons and Our Sex Drive
6 And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
7 And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons. (Gen. Chapter 3)
28 But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. (Matt. Chapter 5) KJV
25 Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids.
26 for by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
27 Can a man takes fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
28 Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? (Prov. Chapter 6) KJV
Satan uses sex for one simple reason…IT WORKS! In the beginning God created man (Adam) and declared, “It is not good for the man to be alone.” God created a woman FOR the man. Man was built to desire a woman. Satan went after Eve because he knew this fact. Eve gave Adam the fruit, why did Adam take it? Men throughout the ages have forsaken kingdoms, riches, position, and even God for the love of a woman. John the Baptist lost his head because of a promise Herod had to keep. Take a look!
6 But when Herod's birthday was kept, the daughter of Herodias danced before them, and pleased Herod.
7 whereupon he promised with an oath to give her whatsoever she would ask.
8 and she, being before instructed of her mother, said, Give me here John Baptist's head in a charger.
8 And the king was sorry: nevertheless for the oath's sake, and them, which sat with him at meat, he commanded it to be given her. (Matt. Chapter 14) KJV
Herod was so driven by lust over Herodias daughter’s seductive dance, he killed someone he actually admired and liked. Pornography is like gasoline on a fire, the human sex drive doesn’t need a lot to motivate it, pornography sends it over the edge, and this is why Satan uses it so often. Most movies today have full nudity or partial, our music is sexually suggestive, and adultery is so commonplace even our clergymen are notorious for their fallings. Demons work overtime at tempting Christians in the area of sex. Just like our appetite for food, our lust for sex is just as powerful.
Solomon was the world’s wisest man in the world. He was anointed by God to lead the mightiest kingdom on earth, yet he threw it all away because of his desire for women. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines, and the scripture say he LOVED THEM ALL! Satan knows that woman was created for man. God created woman not only to be a companion, but also as a helper and advisor. Satan always perverts what God creates. Remember King Ahab? He was Israel’s most wicked king, guess where he got all of his advice? His wife Jezebel!
Abraham in a bout with unbelief decided to sleep with his handmaid, because he didn’t trust that God could allow Sarah to become pregnant. Who put the idea in his head to do such a thing? Sarah, his wife! Now before you accuse me of thinking woman are evil, there are many more examples of woman helping advance God’s program in the Bible than not.
This is my point, if Satan can corrupt a woman, he in turn also corrupts a man as well (or men). Joseph was handpicked by God to save his people, Satan chose Potipher’s wife to tempt him to commit adultery, and fortunately Joseph was committed to God. One evil woman can mess up a LOT of weak men!
Pr 6:32 But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment;
whoever does so destroys himself. NIV
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There are those who like to say that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality. Various verses are cited (out of context) and the verses that people use to show that homosexuality is wrong are explained away. The world wants to change God's words and meanings into something more suitable to its sinful desires. Nevertheless, the truth stands: The Bible condemns homosexuality as a sin. Let's look at what it says.
Lev. 18:22, "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination."1
Lev. 20:13, "If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltness is upon them"
1 Cor. 6:9-10, "Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God."
Rom. 1:26-28, "For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, 27and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. 28And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper."
Homosexuality is clearly condemned by the Bible. It goes against the created order of God. He created Adam and then made a woman. This is what God has ordained and it is what is right. Unlike other sins, homosexuality has a severe judgment administered by God Himself. This judgment is simple: They are given over to their passions. That means that their hearts are allowed to be hardened by their sins (Romans 1:18ff). As a result, they can no longer see the error of what they are doing. Without an awareness of their sinfulness, there will be no repentance and trusting in Jesus. Without Jesus, they will have no forgiveness. Without forgiveness, there is no salvation.
What should be the Christian's Response to the Homosexual?
Just because someone is a homosexual does not mean that we cannot love him (or her) or pray for him (her). Homosexuality is a sin and like any other sin, it needs to be dealt with in the only way possible. It needs to be laid at the cross, repented of, and never done again.
As a Christian, you should pray for the salvation of the homosexual the same you would any other person in sin. The homosexual is still made in the image of God -- even though he is in grave sin. Therefore, you should show him same dignity as anyone else you come in contact with. However, this does not mean that you are to approve of their sin. Don't compromise your witness for a socially acceptable opinion that is void of godliness.
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Verses dealing with sexuality
Adultery
Exodus 20:14 says, "You shall not commit adultery."
Matt. 5:27, "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery'; 28 but I say to you, that everyone who looks on a woman to lust for her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."
Bestiality
Exodus 22:19, "Whoever lies with an animal shall surely be put to death."
Lev. 18:23, "Also you shall not have intercourse with any animal to be defiled with it, nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it; it is a perversion."
Lev. 20:16, "If there is a woman who approaches any animal to mate with it, you shall kill the woman and the animal; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltiness is upon them."
Fornication
Acts 15:29, "...that you abstain from things sacrificed to idols and from blood and from things strangled and from fornication; if you keep yourselves free from such things, you will do well."
Homosexuality
Lev. 18:22, "You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination."
Lev. 20:13, "If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltness is upon them."
Rom. 1:26-28, "For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, 27and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. 28And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper."
Immorality
Matt. 15:19-20, "For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders. 20 These are the things which defile the man."
1 Cor. 6:9-10, "Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God."
1 Cor. 6:18, "Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body."
Eph. 5:3, "But do not let immorality or any impurity or greed even be named among you, as is proper among saints."
Col. 3:5, "Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry."
1 Thess. 4:2, "For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God."
Incest
Lev. 20:11-12, "If there is a man who lies with his father's wife, he has uncovered his father's nakedness; both of them shall surely be put to death, their bloodguiltiness is upon them. 12 If there is a man who lies with his daughter-in-law, both of them shall surely be put to death; they have committed incest, their bloodguiltiness is upon them."
Lev. 20:19-21, "You shall also not uncover the nakedness of your mother's sister or of your father's sister, for such a one has made naked his blood relative; they shall bear their guilt. 20 If there is a man who lies with his uncle's wife he has uncovered his uncle's nakedness; they shall bear their sin. They shall die childless. 21 If there is a man who takes his brother's wife, it is abhorrent; he has uncovered his brother's nakedness. They shall be childless."
Marriage
Heb. 13:4, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge."
Transvestitism
Deut. 22:5, "A woman shall not wear man's clothing, nor shall a man put on a woman's clothing; for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God."
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Why are sexual sins so embarrassing?
The Lord gave me a powerful revelation today on the hold that sexual sins have on people. Why are they so powerful to grip and hold a person in guilt and shame? It seems they are among the all-time, best-selling weapons that Satan uses against countless individuals around the world today!
Guilt and shame are known to tear a person to pieces spiritually. They make you feel guilty, separated from God, they rob you of your faith and rips you to pieces. They break God's children down piece by piece, robbing them of their joy, peace, confidence and pure conscience. They are also valuable tools that demonic spirits use against a person in the forms of mental torment and harassment.
Furthermore, it seems that those caught in this trap find it hard to open up and talk about their struggle or failure with others. Almost everybody finds it hard to even admit that they are struggling in the area of sexuality, even when it seems almost everybody else struggles with it!!
I guess the key question is, why are sex-related sins so embarrassing? This intense embarrassment is not a fleshly nature, but rather the workings of unclean spirits. "Who told you that you were naked?" God asked Adam and Eve, thus giving us a clear indication that Satan or one of his unclean spirits were telling Adam and Eve that they were naked, and thus should be ashamed of themselves! Shame did not enter the world until this moment, and it came about when someone (a spirit) told Adam and Eve (through their thought-lives) that they were naked, and therefore made them ashamed of themselves.
Genesis 3:11, "And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked?"
They were so ashamed, that they not only covered themselves, but also hid in the garden from God!
Genesis 3:10, "And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself."
Notice how shame brought a dreaded fear of God! Before that moment, there was no fear of God, at least not the type of fear where a person is scared and wants to distance themselves from God! This is exactly what happens when people are fearful of having committed the unpardonable sin... they become afraid of God and feel that He is out to punish them!
Also notice how even Adam was ashamed of his body, and didn't want God (his own creator) to see him naked! It shouldn't surprise us when we see how the enemy tries today to make our sexuality shameful in the same way. Obviously, God has made sex beautiful, but Satan wants us to be ashamed of it, and when we partake in sexual sin, it becomes an open door for a heavy burden caused by guilt and shame to move in on us. Unclean spirits then use this to their advantage and bring much bondage and torment.
So why do unclean spirits work so hard to keep a person 'locked/shut up' concerning their failure or struggle? He does not want them to open up and uncover the darkness in their soul in which guilt and shame have their strongest grip. God's Word is clear that confessing our faults to one another can bring about and promote healing in one's life:
James 5:16, "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed..."
From experience, many (including myself) will testify to a powerful healing concept of simply admitting to another believer what your faults have been. It seems to lift a heavy load when a person brings something that's kept them bound for years, out into the open. There's a tremendous release that many feel when they simply confess their struggle or failure to another!
So why are sexual sins so embarrassing? The unclean spirits who are taking advantage of the person through guilt and shame do NOT want you to open up about your failure, and expose the darkness by which their weapons (guilt and shame) are able to do their work.
Guilt and shame have their strongest grip when kept in the darkness of a person's soul, and when a person brings something out into the light, it brings light into the situation and things such as guilt and shame tend to lose their grip on that person. That is why the enemy works so diligently to keep a person from opening up about their sexual failures and struggles.
Don't fool yourself, just as the enemy can work to tempt us, he can also work to keep us from admitting our faults by making us feel embarrassed over what we've done. It's merely Satan's weapon of choice to keep our souls in darkness!
Let me ask you this, if you saw the same struggle that you're facing, in another brother or sister in Christ, would you make a big deal about it? Providing of course, that they have either turned from it, or are trying very hard to turn from it? Would you beat them up as much as you beat up on yourself? My guess is that you would probably think nothing of it!
Behind many sexual related struggles and failures, lies unclean spirits. They often enter through sexual defilement, and it is not uncommon to find them behind many sexual struggles. However, before these unclean spirits can be cast out, the minister must first know about them. Many deliverances are either not complete, or have failed simply because the person hasn't opened up with the minister about everything that needed to come fourth. This is why it is important to bring up such failures and struggles when going through a deliverance. Even if you have repented of those sins, there may be spirits lingering that must still be driven out.
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Is same-sex marriage simply allowing another kind of couple to have the same benefits enjoyed by opposite-sex couples? Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. In God’s social system, obedience creates benefits; sin causes problems.
First of all, hetero-couples don’t need any help having children. Homo-couples need opposite sex donors. And if a doctor declines to help because of his faith he might be sued for “discrimination.”
Or, if the homo-couple decides to adopt, woe to any adoption agency that refuses to accommodate them. In Massachusetts, where same-sex marriages are legal, an adoption agency was told by the state that they must place children with homo-couples who were “married.” After a lengthy battle, they decided they would quit the adoption business altogether. Now, legitimate hetero-couples in Massachusetts no longer can get adoption help from this agency.
Two years ago, the Vatican banned Catholic agencies from placing children with homo-couples. San Francisco city council responded with a resolution condemning the church’s teaching as “hateful and discriminatory” showing “insensitivity and ignorance.” Catholic leaders countered with a suit that the resolution violated the Constitution’s prohibition of government hostility toward religion. That case is currently before the 9th Circuit court.
In the business world, a Christian photographer in New Mexico was fined for refusing to photograph a lesbian “commitment ceremony.” In Texas, a gardener was sued by a homosexual for refusing to do business with him. A printer in Canada was fined for refusing to print a job for a homosexual organization.
Ministries are also under attack. In Canada, Christian Horizons, a ministry to the developmentally disabled, was fined $23,000 for firing a female employee who was having an affair with another woman. Publishers Zondervan and Thomas Nelson are currently being sued by a homosexual. He claims that the bibles that they sell, which call homosexuality a sin, have caused him “emotional pain and mental instability.”
Pastor Harry Jackson, of Hope Christian Church in College Park, Maryland sees a move by homosexuals to pressure all Christian churches to “change the foundational beliefs,” and ordain openly gay ministers. Presbyterians, Lutherans, and Anglicans have already given in and ordained homosexuals causing a major rift in their denominations.
Their next goal is evangelicals. “Be prepared for things to get rough,” says Jackson. His church, along with T.D. Jakes’ Potter’s House, Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church, Willow Creek, and Saddleback, have all been visited by radical homosexual activists SoulForce and Equality Riders. So far the dialog and visits have been civil but these groups have demonstrated a willingness to even be arrested for disruptive behavior.
“Be prepared for things to get rough,”
As you can see, legalizing same-sex marriage has far greater implications than just joining two people in “holy matrimony.” The bottom line here is the fact that these people want to make it illegal to say that their behavior is sinful.
They are very skillful in using the media and the law to advance their agenda. Jackson says that education and religion are their next battlegrounds. California and other states already have laws forcing favorable teaching of “alternate lifestyles.” An elementary school in Pennsylvania has been forced to explain to their third graders why a fellow boy student now comes in girl’s clothing and is called by a girl’s name.
Unfortunately, even some “Bible believers” disagree with God that this “alternate lifestyle” is an abomination. But we have to believe that there are enough “decent people” left who will rise up in indignation if they only knew the truth: homo-marriage makes big problems for society.
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Comment by Doris Trueheart on April 11, 2009 at 9:40pm
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Poneros, ponos, penes -
Derivatives of one root.
Evil, pain, poverty -
Branches of one shoot.
A sense of lack begets a sickness
That sin attempts to heal;
But deception can only be cured,
By the truth revealed.
(reprinted from blog doristrueheart.blogspot.com)
It all begins with poverty: a deception that we lack something. That creates a sickness: a perceived void that doesn't really exist. The conclusion is to fill the void via some type of evil: disobedience to God. The solution is to come to an understanding that poverty is just an illusion. We have everything we need, when we have a relationship with God. All else is transient and impermanent. God alone is.
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International Groups (Including Online Groups)
Avenue Resource: This Christ-centered nonprofit organization, provides men and their wives with easy-to-use curriculum and leadership training tools to experience healing and restoration from the impact of sexual compromise. National and international groups available, with new ones forming regularly.
Brothers in Christ, Inc.: A global, web-based support network for Christian men
Celebrate Recovery: Started by Saddleback Church, "Celebrate Recovery ministry is to fellowship and celebrate God's healing power in our lives through the '8 Recovery Principles.' This experience allows us to 'be changed.' By working and applying these Biblical principles, we begin to grow spiritually. We become free from our addictive, compulsive and dysfunctional behaviors. This freedom creates peace, serenity, joy and most importantly, a stronger personal relationship with God and others. As we progress through the program we discover our personal, loving and forgiving Higher Power - Jesus Christ, the one and only true Higher Power."
Co-Sex Addicts (COSA): Open to anyone whose life has been affected by sexual compulsivity
L.I.F.E. Ministries International: The L.I.F.E. Ministries website has a directory of links to groups primarily in the U.S. but also in some other countries. This is a Christ-based support group ministry dedicated to encourage, empower, and equip God's people to live in freedom everyday.
Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
S-Anon: Fellowship of the relatives and friends of sexually addicted people who share their experience, strength and hope in order to solve their common problems.
Spirit-Led Recovery E-group: Provides teaching, counseling, fellowship, and practical support in overcoming harmful addictions
The Catholic Support Group for Sexual Addiction Recovery
True Knights (a Catholic Support Group for Sex Addiction Recovery)
United States Groups: Includes all of the above groups, plus:
Nationwide: Desert Stream Ministries S.A.L.T. program; 20-week support group offering worship, teaching, prayer and accountability for sex addiction recovery.
Nationwide: Healing for the Soul, features weekly teleconference groups; innovative, faith-based approach; ideal for people in remote areas or those desiring anonymidity.
Nationwide: Overcomer's Outreach, (800) 310-3001 (Christ-centered 12 step program)
Nationwide: Sexaddict.com link page - contains many group links
Alabama, Tuscaloosa:
Freedom In Grace Ministry: Gene Fondren, President& Founder, ph. 205-887-0629
Betrayed Hearts: For wives of sex addicts; Vicki Fondren, Leader, ph. 205-887-0628
Alaska, Anchorage: Prodigals of Anchorage, 2518 E. Tudor Rd. Suite 202; 907-884-6044
California, Costa Mesa: Men's Purity Group, Calvary Chapel, 714-979-4422
Florida, Jacksonville: Faithful and True, Southpoint Baptist Church, 904-443-0246
Maryland, Baltimore: New Freedom Life Fellowship, Evangel Cathedral Church of God, 7000 Rossville Blvd; similar to Celebrate Recovery, yet varied curriculum; We offer fellowship and spiritual guidance through God's word and direction. We are a deliverance prayer group also. POC: Marilyn Harrison 410-676-2056
Michigan, Lansing: Dunamai, Mount Hope Church, 517-321-0523 ext. 4934
Missouri, Kansas City: Men's Sexual Addiction Freedom Group, Indian Creek Community Church
Contact Greg Elliott for meeting time and location - 913-254-4437 ext 0
Texas, Sunnyvale: Life Builders Counseling Center, Freedom from Addiction support group; established by Dr. Milburn Wilson, PhD, C.A.I., L.C.P.C, director of the Life Builders Center of Biblical Discipleship & Counseling and a ministry of First Baptist Church of Sunnyvale.
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Proactive/protective steps to avoid sin:
1. Do you have an accountability partner or group and do you meet with them regularly and honestly? (This is critically important for pastors who do any serious counseling at all.)
2. Do you leave the office door open or the window in it uncovered?
3. Do you keep your desk between you and your counselee? Physical distance between you and the counselee is very important for her security and comfort, and for enabling you to resist any improper contact. Close personal proximity is not necessary for healing.
4. Avoid even casual physical contacts. We recommend not even shaking hands with counselees of the opposite sex. You can make them feel safe, comfortable, and welcome without physical contact.
5. Ideally, men should counsel with men, women should counsel with women. This is not always possible. Teaming up with a trusted and professional partner who can assist the male pastor when meeting female counselees, is a good idea. If the counselee is unwilling to meet with the pastor along with his designated partner, it may be time to refer.
6. Never assume a self-concept of sexual invincibility. Given the wrong circumstances, every pastor is vulnerable to temptation, sin and the abuse of power.
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