PRACTICAL WAYS TO GUARD YOUR MARRIAGE
PRACTICAL WAYS TO GUARD YOUR MARRIAGE
Hearing: Listening to your spouse is the key to unlocking his or her heart. People who have committed adultery often say, “My wife/husband never listened to me – they never heard me.”
“The hearing ear and the seeing eye, the Lord has made both of them.” Prov.20:12
Encouraging: Experience the teamwork-building power of a helping hand and a compliment. Focus on the positive qualities of your mate.
“So then, let us aim for harmony… and try to build each other up.”
Rom.14:19
Dating: Build a life that celebrates marriage. Have fun, laugh and play together.
“Let your fountains be blessed. Rejoice with the wife [husband] of your youth.”
Prov.5:18
Guarding: Establish safeguards for your relationship. Set clear boundaries that neither of you should cross.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do.” Prov.4:23
Educating: Study your mate as if he or she is a textbook. Seek to understand and appreciate your mate’s unique qualities.
“Dwell with your wife according to knowledge.” 1 Pet.3:7
Satisfying: Meet each other’s needs. Ask your spouse what he or she needs from you, and then do those things.
“You shall be like a well-watered garden.” Isa.58:11
CRITICISM, CONTEMPT, DEFENSIVENESS, STONEWALLING
Destroys ALL Relationships!!
I FEEL…
I don’t feel like you understand me right now.
I feel blamed. Can you rephrase that?
I’m feeling unappreciated.
Please say that more gently
Did I do something wrong?
SORRY…
I really blew that one.
How can I make things better?
Let me start again in a softer way.
I’m sorry. Please forgive me.
What you are saying is…
GETTING TO YES…
I agree with part of what you’re saying.
Let’s compromise here.
I never though of things that way.
This problem is not very serious in the big picture.
Let’s agree to include both views in a solution.
I NEED TO CALM DOWN…
Just listen to me right now and try to understand.
Please help me calm down.
Can we take a break?
Can we talk about something else for a while?
I am starting to feel flooded.
STOP ACTION!...
I might be wrong here.
Please let’s stop for a while.
Please stop.
Let’s start all over again.
Hang in there. Don’t withdraw.
I APPRECIATE…
My part of the problem is…
Thank you for…
I am thankful for…
I see what you’re talking about.
This is not your problem, it’s OUR problem.
Hearing: Listening to your spouse is the key to unlocking his or her heart. People who have committed adultery often say, “My wife/husband never listened to me – they never heard me.”
“The hearing ear and the seeing eye, the Lord has made both of them.” Prov.20:12
Encouraging: Experience the teamwork-building power of a helping hand and a compliment. Focus on the positive qualities of your mate.
“So then, let us aim for harmony… and try to build each other up.”
Rom.14:19
Dating: Build a life that celebrates marriage. Have fun, laugh and play together.
“Let your fountains be blessed. Rejoice with the wife [husband] of your youth.”
Prov.5:18
Guarding: Establish safeguards for your relationship. Set clear boundaries that neither of you should cross.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do.” Prov.4:23
Educating: Study your mate as if he or she is a textbook. Seek to understand and appreciate your mate’s unique qualities.
“Dwell with your wife according to knowledge.” 1 Pet.3:7
Satisfying: Meet each other’s needs. Ask your spouse what he or she needs from you, and then do those things.
“You shall be like a well-watered garden.” Isa.58:11
CRITICISM, CONTEMPT, DEFENSIVENESS, STONEWALLING
Destroys ALL Relationships!!
I FEEL…
I don’t feel like you understand me right now.
I feel blamed. Can you rephrase that?
I’m feeling unappreciated.
Please say that more gently
Did I do something wrong?
SORRY…
I really blew that one.
How can I make things better?
Let me start again in a softer way.
I’m sorry. Please forgive me.
What you are saying is…
GETTING TO YES…
I agree with part of what you’re saying.
Let’s compromise here.
I never though of things that way.
This problem is not very serious in the big picture.
Let’s agree to include both views in a solution.
I NEED TO CALM DOWN…
Just listen to me right now and try to understand.
Please help me calm down.
Can we take a break?
Can we talk about something else for a while?
I am starting to feel flooded.
STOP ACTION!...
I might be wrong here.
Please let’s stop for a while.
Please stop.
Let’s start all over again.
Hang in there. Don’t withdraw.
I APPRECIATE…
My part of the problem is…
Thank you for…
I am thankful for…
I see what you’re talking about.
This is not your problem, it’s OUR problem.
Comment
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Comment by Apostle Anthony Yarde on June 27, 2009 at 9:29pm
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Patricia words can not say how bless I am to here the words of wisdom that you have spoken.Thank you for taking time out to post your comment.
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Comment by Kingdom Authority Int.Ministries on June 18, 2009 at 9:07pm
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This is an awesome word Apostle. I prayed many married couples will stop by and read it. God Bless you. I love you.
In His Love & Mine,
Angela
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