Who should do the searching?

In Proverbs 18:22, Solomon says "He who finds a wife finds favor with God."

In Ruth 3: 1-5, Samuel tell the story of Naomi's instructions to Ruth on how to find a husband.

Should we only consider Solomon's words and dismiss those of Samuel?

All scripture is God breathed. Let's have some feedback on this subject for singles.

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Permalink Reply by Krishunna Pearson on January 26, 2009 at 7:31pm

That is a good question. However, I am not sure that either party should be searching. Adam wasn't looking for a wife when God created Eve. I think men and women alike should "seek ye first the Kingdom and all these things will be added..." I think men and women should watch and pray, busy ourselves advancing the kingdom of God then when the Lord so desires he will bring our helpmate.

Permalink Reply by Evangelist Cookie Hunter on January 26, 2009 at 8:13pm

I agree with you. I asked the question because i keep hearing people getting into debates- women should not be looking for a man, the man should do the looking. Thanks for your comment. God bless.

Permalink Reply by Minister Ginger London on March 19, 2009 at 10:44pm

I agree with you. In addition, we shouldn't get so busy with advancing the the kingdom that we miss the mvoe of God. Ruth wasn't working (she was finished for the day) when she recieved instructions from Naomi on how to prepare herself to go before Boaz and what to do when she got there. Ruth was focused on the possible relationship when she asked Boaz, "will you cover me?" In other words, will you marry me?

I believe the man and the woman should both be searching or watching by leading of the Holy Spirit and wise counsel. If the woman doesn't recognize the right man and the man doesn't recognize the right woman, they could both pass each by and miss each other.

For Ruth, approaching Boaz was not a hard thing to do. She trusted the instructions and wisdom of her mother-in-law and was secure enough to follow them, even to the point of being the one to initiate the relationship. The marriage of Boaz and Ruth was "kingdom business."

I believe that single Christians should mature in the Word and in relationships so that we can be spiritually grounded and secure in relating to one another.

Be blessed

Permalink Reply by Min. Jubilee on March 27, 2009 at 2:14pm

I agree with this Minister London. I think it is accetable for both to search for a mate but people like to add it's not ok for a woman to find a husband to what the scripture in proverbs says. No where in scripture does it say a women "can't" find a husband or that it is a sin or unfavorable to do so. This partly why so many christian women are single. There is fear that introducing yourself to, or sparking conversation with someone you are attracted to, or even asking a guy out on a date is against God's Word but that's not true! A women intitiating something more than friendship with a man is not un biblical (Ruth).

Permalink Reply by Evangelist Laura L Gates on March 10, 2009 at 3:51pm

Well it is about time a man see's what God planned, I am saying that softly. If we go back to the begining, God said be fruitful and multiply. Sound like to me God was thinking of FAMILY! Marriage is honorable!

Permalink Reply by Mona Shorter on February 2, 2009 at 7:21am

I think that women should be ready to be found by the man that God has for them. We have to wait on Proverbs to be fulfilled. And remember women you still have to pray to see if this is the one. Our spirit has to bear witness. We can't fall for the prince charming becuase this could be the enemy in disguise.

Permalink Reply by Krishunna Pearson on February 3, 2009 at 11:04am

I know exactly what you mean. I fell for prince charming and when it was all said and done he was far from the one. However I learned a valuable lesson, and I feel as if that trial caused tremendous growth in my life. It also brought more knowledge and understanding. and because of it a ministry was born...I am grateful for that.

Permalink Reply by Evangelist Cookie Hunter on February 21, 2009 at 8:43pm

I agree. We should seek God's will for our lives and He will bring our mate to us. I, too, started my ministry after a failed marriage and the Lord has truly blessed me. I am stronger and wiser for it.

Permalink Reply by Chandra Cole on February 23, 2009 at 6:33am

It's biblical who should do the searching..."A man that findeth a wife findeth a good things and obtains favor with God".

Permalink Reply by Evangelist Laura L Gates on March 10, 2009 at 3:54pm

READY, been ready, almost there! Thank you Jesus

Permalink Reply by Min.Tiffany Princess McCoy on February 24, 2009 at 9:35pm

Seek and ye shall find... applies to all Christians. Naomi gave Ruth advice on how to be favored by a man in order to obtain him as a husband. Queen Esther recieved wise advice. Tamar was married to both Judah's son's and figuerd out a way to marry Judah and bear a son. I believe that we should seek the Will of God for our lives concerning our mate..I believe if we seek the Will of God concerning our mate God will reveal it. We can not pigeon hole our God and say He wont bless it if the woman pursues, We have very specific instances in the Word of God in which woman initiated contact with the man. God is showing us just when we think we have it all figured out He is still one step ahead. I often wonder if Queen Bathsheba strategically took a bath so King David could peek?...Well, Ladies with a Sovereign God, no matter what you do or how you do it..His Will be done..Love you ladies

Permalink Reply by Evangelist Laura L Gates on March 10, 2009 at 3:55pm

God's Will, Amen!